a simple, no BS rundown on how to ACTUALLY reach your goals
Because grass is greener where you water it. Not the other side.
1. Stop the overconsumption
This is #1 for a reason because just like the majority of individuals who set goals and research how, we often find ourselves stuck in a
"get inspired > overconsume self care content > we get that quick dopamine > never actually pursue our goals or cannot go 1-3 months without being consistent." cycle.
That all ends with this post. Let me keep it simple and straight to the point. Your brain is not designed to hold an overload of information at once for something so straightforward as the pursuit of goals - there is never a need to go down a YouTube or Tumblr self care post rabbit hole when they all essentially regurgitate the same, core information.
Besides, no amount of information will prove beneficial if you aren't willing to commit to goal execution.
2. Identify your ULTIMATE goal
Look back on all the years that have gone by. What aspect of your life makes you feel like you need to improve? What do you truly want to achieve right NOW?
Was it the lack of exercise you got? Your low grades? Your poor relationships with others and yourself? Mental health issues? Unhappy with your job? Financial stress? Pinpoint the areas of your life that carry the most weight at this time.
Depending on what you feel, you may feel unhappy with the way you handle your responsibilities or the way you can't seem to navigate through your hardships.
An example goal to combat these problems would be: to be more self reliant.
Now, narrow down your focus to three pivotal habits that will guide you toward this ultimate goal.
3. Focus on 3 KEY HABITS that help you achieve that ULTIMATE goal
I think being self reliant should be or is a subliminal goal everyone has. I mean, this is your life, only you can make things happen and that all depends on your self reliance.
Narrow down your focus to three pivotal habits that will guide you toward this ultimate goal.
Why only 3 habits? What person doesn't want to be good at a million things? While wanting to constantly reinvent ourselves and have a reset or implement the 12 week year into our lives, it’s very easy to get carried away.
Yes, not even the sky's the limit! You can be and do whatever your heart yearns if you know it's your calling or if you truly know it'll make you happy but when it comes to goal setting, we will pile so much more than we can handle at once and you know what that does?
As we try to tackle all these goals/habits, it gets overwhelming- unsustainable.
And because it got overwhelming, you'll start to "fall behind" on being consistent in every one.
If you "fail" to be consistent or expect yourself to be a master at it within the first 2 weeks, you'll throw in the towel and say "Well. Since I can't do this, I might as well give up altogether."
And you go on living the same life you wanted to improve from.
So AS MUCH as you want to do it all right now, take it slow and easy. This isn't to say you can't be all the things you aspire to be. I am saying to take it one step at a time. You have to walk before you can run.
"The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."
Ideas for those 3 key habits
Habit: a settled or regular tendency or practice, especially one that is hard to give up.
Practice the 2 minute rule
Create a time block schedule that is flexible
Plan the next day and set priorities on your to-do list
Practice digital minimalism
Wake up at 5-6am and allocate “me time” before you jump into work/studying.
Learn a tech skill (coding, editing/design, typing)
Learn a high value language (immerse, learn the alphabet)
Dedicate AT LEAST an hour to this habit everyday. Choose something you enjoy. Don't make this feel like a chore.
Practice dance (choreography online, ballet, jazz, contemp.)
Martial arts inspired exercises
Add stretching to these habits
3. Create a SIMPLE, fail proof plan that works for YOU.
"If you fail to plan, you plan to fail."
3 habits. 2 of which should take at least 2 hours of your whole day. If you can't do that then you need some self-assessing to do.
Assess whether you work better in the morning or at night
Plan what hours you're going to do them.
Print out a paper with a time block schedule, set it infront of your desk, make it a widget on your phone, tape it on your room wall- anywhere where you can easily keep track of the time and what you should be doing now and in the next hour.
Example schedule that most people can relate to:
Productivity | Skill | Exercise
Wake up at 6am - me time (skincare, calm music, stretch)
7am - Full body exercise.
8-9am - Get ready for the day and head to work
13:00 - Break time (read a book, walk around for some peace of mind, or immerse yourself in the language you chose)
17:00 - Come back home and rewind. (eat, settle down, walk the dog)
18:00 - Learn how to code
19:00 - Get ready for the next day by planning
20:00 - Shower & get ready for bed
Keep a track of your consistency.
This doesn't have to be an inconvenience or all set to be pretty and aesthetic.
Print out a habit tracker and tape it, along with a pen on a wall, next to your vanity, wherever is convenient and hard to miss so you can easily mark it off.
If it's close to bedtime, make it a routine to check what you have yet to accomplish.
You knocked off learning how to code, your phone says you walked 10k steps, but you see that you forgot to drink water? Then drink a sufficient glass of water, and place a check in the box.
Quick. Simple. Easy. No excuses.
There. 1 week goes by, soon 3 weeks, then a month, that month turns into 2, then 3, and those "goals" are now habits. A part of your daily routine. They become non-negotiables.
Just like how it's routine for you to go to wake up, brush your teeth, and get dressed everyday.
Now that you created a set of habits, you can build upon them. In a few months time when you feel that it is right, create another action plan and introduce 3 new habits.
For example, you can try another dance style, wake up at an even earlier time, and you can learn how to speak another language or to put it simply, make it goal to reach an advanced level of your new skills
Another example could be towards a more specific ultimate goal. Like taking care of your outward appearance.
Habits for that ultimate goal can look like:
Putting on skincare oils to reduce scars
Growing your glutes + massaging your muscles
showering + brushing your teeth everyday
Remember that only you can save you. Only you are there for you. Your future is built now.
You don't need luck. You need self love.
— dreamdolldiary ₊˚🕯️♱‧₊˚.
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