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I’m reconsidering my sexuality. I definitely get the demi vibes, in that I only get sexually attracted to someone once I get to know them. I just don’t know if being demi includes how one enjoys sex. I’ve come to realize that I only like receiving, and in my current relationship I only give because I enjoy their reaction, but I don’t really enjoy the act of giving. I’m sorry if this is tmi, I was just wondering if this is a thing other people experience and if this fits in demi/another label.
i don't think your sexuality necessarily has to be connected to whether you like giving, receiving, or both, but it can, if i understand correctly. i will admit that i haven't put as much thought into my sexuality as my romanticism because i feel like my romantic identity is more important to me than my sexuality. as always, of course, you can do whatever you want forever, and no one can tell you how you feel.
I think that the lack of aromantic spaces that aren't also asexual is a function of both amatonormativity and purity culture.
Either you're having sex for love, or you're a wh*re
So aroallo people struggle to proudly exist because we're labeled "shallow" or "unavailable" when we don't fit into the lines drawn for us, without us.
We're just as real and just as normal as anyone else, but the constant shame surrounding sex pushes us to label ourselves wrong.
I cannot be the only person who labelled myself aroace despite knowing it wasn't true because I was scared of what others may think of me, even in my own communities.
Well that's bullshit. I'm not going to live in the closet because of others' ignorance. I want to be loud and honest and maybe if I'm lucky, I can help someone else feel just a little bit less alone.
You don't have to be afraid of who you are. Who you are is cool as fuck.
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loveless aromantic/aplatonic magical girl who uses the power of incandescent rage instead of the power of love or friendship is this anything
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Growing up I was told that romantic love feels different from platonic. Queue the 5 years trying to figure out if I had a crush on one of my childhood friends but getting confused because I wanted to fuck my other friends too. Then said crush gets a partner and I thought they were kind of hot and realising I don't like the exclusivity that relationships tend to portray. Another 3 years later, I finally learnt what is alloaromanticism is and the existence of non-romantic poly relationships. Yeah, that's such a hyperspecific thing so I'm going to ignore all that and stick to "regular" friendships. ...And now I'm back at square one.
Anyone else have this issue?
i think more people should fuck their friends with no strings attached for fun. i think the world would be a better place
Please don't forget about loveless people this pride month. Love doesn't make us human. People don't need to love in "other" ways to be valid. Some people are aplatonic, some afamilial, some asensual, some are heartless. They still belong. Abolish conformity and the idea that someone needs to be something specific to belong at pride.
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Asking for touch as an aspec is so weird like “hey, please touch me, but not in a sex/romance way, just in a human contact way. Interact with my body’s touchscreens. Punch me in the face or something. Please. I’ll take anything at this point.”
Edit: of course everyone here has blanket permission to tag this as Blorbo from their Shows. We love seeing representation, implicit or explicit.
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no no i actually think it’s super fun that you took that aro/ace character and bent them over backwards to make them gay!!!! we all know being gay is more #progressive than being aro/ace so i’m so glad you freed them from having a storyline unconnected from romance and shipping!!! you go diva!!!
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Aro (alloplatonic) culture is seeing the way allromantic people treat friendship like it's lesser than romance and being like do you people not remember the power of friendship?? Every show and movie we watched as kids is about the power of friendship. Did you not internalize that?
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I think if you want to understand bigotry against aromantics, I have a good case study. Let me talk a little about my dad's family.
My dad has 4 half siblings and two step siblings. They're all a decent bit younger than him. When I was a teenager, we went to a family reunion, and I realized something—my dad did not respect his siblings. He looked down on all of them. He saw them as fuck-ups and overgrown children. My dad had the American dream: well paying management job, suburban house, wife, and three kids. My aunt and uncles did not. Excluding my aunt, none of them were married or in serious relationships. They hadn't really settled into long term careers. Several of them were working the kind of jobs that get called "Unskilled labor." So he looked down on them because the youngest one was in his thirties (and several were much older), and yet none of them had "settled down" into what he saw as lifelong, permanent careers and relationships and lives. He was polite to their faces, sure, but I heard how he talked about them behind their backs, to my mother.
And then a few years ago, we visited his brothers again for Thanksgiving. And I realized something again--he respected them now. He saw them as equals. Why? Well. All of a sudden, every single one of them had serious, committed romantic partners. They didn't even need to still be with those partners—one of my uncle's fiance passed away from cancer before they could marry—just having had one showed that they matured into a real adult participating in society. In fact, at one point, my aunt was telling my mom about how one of my uncles was no longer living in an apartment she owned, but instead, after having a steady girlfriend for about a year, he moved in with her. And my mom literally said to my aunt, "wow. Look at that. He finally grew up."
One of the lines that frequently gets repeated about anti-aspec sentiment is "why would anyone hate asexuals/aromantics/etc? They aren't even doing anything." And that's exactly it. In the eyes of amatonormative culture, we aren't doing anything. Adults are supposed to do things. That's how you become a member of society.
I know that my father will never see me as a successful adult. He will never approve of my life. And I think most people would assume that that's because I'm trans. And don't get me wrong, he sure as shit doesn't like or respect that, but I do think if given enough time, he would get used to it. He would eventually realize that it isn't going away. And if I settled down with a spouse and a respectful job and a few kids, he could see me as a successful adult that he could be proud of anyway. But of course, that's not going to happen. Because I'm aromantic. So I'm never going to do that one thing that signifies that his job is complete, and I'm officially a full-fledged adult. I will perpetually be that fuck-up kid who won't settle down. In my personal case, that's okay. My dad is a conservative piece of shit, and if he doesn't approve of you, that just means you're doing something right. But on a societal level? This kind of attitude is a massive problem. Aromantics deserve to be treated like adults, and to feel like the accomplished adults that they are. We should feel like we belong in society.
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Nothing like coming with terms that im aromantic on the day of my russian exam....
Also is it possible to be aromantic while being a long term selfshipper? (that could be one of the signs actually...)
anon have you researched the fictoromantic and/or aegoromantic (aka anegoromantic) labels at all
Its such a small thing but I posted an aroace pride cat to my Instagram story and it made me really happy to post that openly even if nobody sees or cares :)
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Being aro with a fear of abandonment is NOT for the weak. Yeah the idea of dating makes me sick to my stomach but please let me be the most important person in your life. Yeah i dont want a romantic relationship EVER but please never ever leave me, idk who i am without you. I know we're "just" friends but ive based my whole worldview around you, you are the best thing thats happened to me and ive set out a plan for our lives together. Dont leave me. dont leave me. dont leave me. DONT LEAVE ME!!
Living with this is hellish and its eating me alive. I feel awful about it every day. I hope ita not too much
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gosh yeah. the primal fear of being alone is terrifying, especially when there's a real chance of your social circle dissolving as they prioritize their romantic relationships. i don't have much advice just because i'm young and i haven't experienced it (combination of introvertedness and undiagnosed neurodivergence makes it hard to build a friend group) but i really hope you get to keep your friends close to you anon
I became obsessed with my friend a good few months ago (i'm 21 years old). I'm thinking that it might be romantic attraction. I've never fallen for anyone or understood what it meant before, but now calling myself aromantic doesn't feel as accurate as it used to.
Even though I know that my attraction is still non-normative, and that i probably still classify as a grey- or demiro, feeling it felt like losing a part of myself. It took a lot for me to feel confident in being a complete aro, and now I feel so lost...
Like, what do I want in life? Do I want a partner? What am I feeling? Will I ever experience mutual attraction? Again, do I want it? Will I be satisfied? Stuff like that.
The crush itself feels kinda humiliating, too. I wish I didn't have it sometimes. But sometimes it feels exhilarating and amazing as well. I'm so conflicted.
anon it sounds like you're pretty much exactly where i was two years ago when i accidentally fell in love with my boyfriend. i think the most important thing is not to worry too much about staying "true" to an identity and letting yourself feel your emotions fully. if it feels like a crush, it's a crush. that might make you identify with another arospec label like demiromantic or greyromantic, it might not. whatever the case, don't lose sleep over it. i can say that following my crush and dating my boyfriend has been one of my decisions that i have felt most satisfied with. if you want to pursue a relationship with your friend, i think it has the potential to be something that brings you a lot of joy.

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im aroace but ive started to realize ive never felt love toward anybody in a platonic or familial way either. are there words for this?
yes! there are about six different types of attractions that are widely agreed upon in the aspec community: sexual, romantic, aesthetic, sensual, platonic, and familial. all of them have identities on the the aspec as well (e.g. aplatonic, afamilial). if you feel like these labels fit your experience best, then you can use them if you'd like. you might also want to take a look at the loveless aromantic label.
Came out to one of my queer friends as aroace and she told me that it was sad because it meant I would never fall in love.. sometimes I wish allo people understood that romantic love is not the only way to love or the only reason to live. Like of course I fall in love!! I fall in love with the world around me every day!!!! I don’t understand how people can people tell me that my way of being is sad when I’m perfectly happy??
the sisyphean task of explaining to allos that my life is not lesser for the lack of romantic attraction