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I have told them both that I don't feel romantic attraction and that "the closest I can do is platonic love plus sexual attraction" and they accept me and love me <3

oh yikes

And now I can't help but wonder if I might be aromantic (or potentially demiromantic), cos I have never had a crush on someone I don't know really well, and when I do get crushes, most of the time it's not a 'I want to date them' crush, more a 'They're really cute, and smart, and I really like their personality and I love being with them.' kind of thing.

And I was wondering how you figured out that you're aro? And is there a possibility that I might be too?

I know it's a bit of a weird ask, but I don't really have anyone who I could really ask without coming off as odd or creepy.

Thank you and have a nice day

i've talked about my own journey before but the gist is that when i was 14 i started to feel a lot like i was missing something that everyone else understood without trying, and when i found aromanticism it fit like nothing else had. then, at 18 i developed a crush on a friend of mine and had another crisis that resulted in me identifying with the demiromantic label.

• Feels like a performance, or you are copying things you have seen in other relationships

• When people comment on or ask about your relationship, it makes you uncomfortable

• After having sex, the more intimate touches/cuddles do not feel as good

• Wanting more independence or time alone

• Thinking if your partner cheated on you, you wouldn't care

• Being scared that you might cheat despite having no desire to be with anyone else

• Words like "partner, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc" all feel wrong, and you don't like them being applied to you

• Not having a strong feeling of missing your partner like you're "supposed" to

• Questioning your sexuality/preferences despite being confident in who/what you're attracted to

• Feeling like you're lying if you appreciate gifts or affection from them, even if you really do appreciate it

• Saying "I love you" feels fine, but it holds the same weight when you say it to anyone else

• Not wanting to tell anyone about your feelings because you're afraid you will be misunderstood

Anyway, that's all I got. I hope it helps someone out there. I'm still struggling too, but I think we will all be okay! <3

*Throws my aromantic (not to be mistaken with aroace) OC at you* (she/it)

No I totally didn't draw this cute small version of it just for this ask...that would be ridiculous...

they're aro

He tells me he views me on the same page as a friend- like, theres no higher tier to him. I'm on the same level as his family and friends.

Is this potentially an arospec thing? Or is it just normal relationship hierarchy stuff that my brain cannot comprehend-

I'm on acespec and understand relationship hierarchy may not be important to some but I don't know how to talk to him or arrange things-

Honestly my big question is: is having an equal/having no relationship hierarchy normal? Or is it an arospec thing? If so how do I ask him and talk to him about it as someone who puts my partner above others.