For Servertives and their Minis

whether you're a factive/factual introject of the system's singletsona/cissona/humansona or just the body itself

whether you're exactly like the body and its legal identity or not

no matter your alterhuman identity, species, age, gender, disability, system roles, or lack thereof

no matter if you're the body at a certain age - past, present, or future

no matter if you're from this timeline or an alternate one

and other circumstances I haven't mentioned

You deserve to be respected and treated kindly by your own system. You shouldn't be ostracized or suppressed, even if you use the body's deadname and have its birth-sex-assignment. Even if your role is persecutor or malicitor, even if you're the inner child, even if you're not productive, or anything that "inconveniences" your headmates. Even if your existence makes the other system members uncomfortable.

Your identity does not invalidate theirs, and theirs do not invalidate yours. Their discomfort shouldn't be an excuse to ruin your well-being. Remember that.

whether you chose the fact identity, or created a headmate with a fact identity, or are the created fact-folk, or any other voluntary way

whatever label you prefer: alterhuman, pluran, tulpa, thoughtform, factlink, copinglink, or something else

no matter if you use one label or more

no matter if you use the label/s consistently or change it often

no matter if your identity is static or fluid

no matter what your shifts look like; why and when they happen

whether it's from an neurotype (including delusion), interest, hyperfixation, spirituality, religion, education, trauma, coping, alterhumanity, or any other reason

whether you're sure if it's fully voluntary/chosen or not

We think it's fantastic that you want to get to know yourself deeper, and use your time in the world to create yourself. To be this identity, to say "no, screw society, I choose who I want to be", or "This encourages me to do self-introspection", or "this gives me euphoria and peace of mind", even simply, "I want this".

You don't deserve to be treated as the "weak link" of the parts of the alterhuman community (or even non-alterhumans) who only respect those who can't choose their identities. Your identity isn't lesser than others' if you choose it, even if you can choose to not have it anymore.

Voluntary/chosen identities are not inherently "frivolous" or "childish". You are allowed to have fun with it, or take it very seriously, or both, or anything in between. And none of it will invalidate your identity.

If you or the body are neurodivergent, Mad, mentally ill, or have any other disability or difference from the norm; even if your identity is based on/caused by those things, it does not invalidate your identity either! Yes, including psychosis or delusion-based identities. It does not make you fake or lesser. It does not make you worthy of disrespect.

Your experiences are real and important, and your voices deserve to be heard.

If you want to seek euphoria for your fact identity - be it via changing appearance, changing your online or offline spaces, gear, watching/reading/listening to media, etc. - it's valid and you can be proud of yourselves for being yourselves in a world that doesn't accept you. Even if that euphoria is sought by means that make others uncomfortable. You are people with unique life experiences. People who deserve respect and kindness.

Fact-folks who choose their identities, remember that we support you all very much!

(We accept submissions, asks, mentions, or DMs about your voluntary fact-identity experiences here in Fact-Anonymous if you'd like to share them!)

for example, someone relating to Mt. Krakatau could be Mt. Krakatau-hearted; someone who is spiritually connected to their shrine can be a shrine-kin; someone who feels like their school is a part of them could be [name of school]-alterhuman; someone who's objectum with their laptop and wants to be them or creates them in their system; and so on!

whether it's your own possession, or not

no matter how famous or niche the place/building/object is

no matter if it's natural, man-made, or anything else

no matter your fact identity type (factive, factkin, factlink, facthearted, fact endel, fact DA, factchain, faitive, fucktive, a combination, somewhere in between, or anything else)

no matter if it's static or fluid

no matter what other labels you prefer (nonhuman, otherkin, objectkin, concept, alterhuman, plural, soulbond, etc.)

whether your label/s change or not

whether it's from an neurotype (including delusion), interest, hyperfixation, spirituality, religion, education, trauma, coping, alterhumanity, or any other reason

You are real, and so is your identity. Being these may be niche, but you are not alone - I bet there are others like you, even if they aren't out.

The niche-ness of your identity may make it difficult for people to discover and/or create yourselves, but that doesn't make it lesser or not worth talking about. You are an expert of your own experiences, and you are all important voices for the alterhuman community.

If this identity is something you discovered, we're proud of you for knowing yourselves more. If it is something you chose, we're proud of you for owning and creating yourself in what makes you more you. If you seek euphoria, we support you. No matter what it takes - gear, traveling, divination, playlists, aesthetics, even surgery and other things - we hope it will bring you much joy.

If you or the body are neurodivergent, Mad, mentally ill, or have any other disability or difference from the norm; even if your identity is based on/caused by those things, it does not invalidate your identity. Yes, including psychosis or delusion-based identities. It does not make you fake or lesser. It does not make you worthy of disrespect.

You deserve to be accepted and respected, to have good-faith questions directed at you, instead of being made fun of, dismissed, or abused. You should be able to join communities, make friends, and share your life experiences. You shouldn't have to hide your identity or make it more "palatable".

But if you do have to hide your object/building/place fact-identity, or feel bad about it, it's valid and okay. It doesn't invalidate your identity. And there is no judgment in staying safe, especially in an environment where you don't know if others will be accepting.

(We in Fact-Anonymous would be happy to listen to you - you could mention us, DM us, or send your experiences through our ask/submission box!)

I often get asked what the hardest part of being factkin is and while it can be hard to have an identity so often misunderstood I would like to stress how much I love being factkin. I love being myself and I love being otherkin and factkin.

My favourite part of being factkin is probably the special connection I feel to my kintypes. The little jolt of “hey, that’s me!” I get when my facttypes get brought up or when I hear myself on the radio is often enough to absolutely make my day. The week we spent studying my work in my philosophy class was one of the most thrilling weeks I’d had in a long time.

I love how all it takes to put a smile on my face is to turn on the radio and hear my facttype’s voice. I love how emotional I get studying my historical facttypes while preparing for exams. I love looking at my bookshelf and seeing volumes of my facttype’s work.

Persecutors and Malicitors who are factives, factual introjects, factkin/factualkins, fact DAs, fact endels, factchains, facthearted/synpaths, factlinks, and others I haven't mentioned, deserve respect. Yes, including those who have these roles that others often judge without knowing the person.

Fact-identified malicitors and persecutors deserve to live with dignity, to not be ostracized by their headmates/systemmates/alters/collective/etc. or be called these terms without your consent. Your identity should be respected, not forced to convert into a more respectable one against your will,

whether you choose your fact-identity or you've had it all the time

if your identity can't be boxed into voluntary or involuntary

whether it's partially based on someone you know or someone you don't

whether your source is an abuser

whether your source is someone (in)famous

or a combination of that, or anything else

if you're partially a fiction-folk, divine-folk, nonhuman, and more

no matter what your origins are - soulbonding, plural from birth, created, from trauma, walk-in, others - or even if you don't want to know about your origins

no matter if your plurality is disordered or not, diagnosed or not

no matter what disabilities you have or don't have

even if you're not a protector or a more "nurturing" role, "misguided" or otherwise

no matter your level of "cooperativeness" with your system

no matter if and/or how you want to change

You don't deserve to be abused for just existing, or for your role or fact-identity or source. Not by your own system and not by society. Especially before they get to know you and see your behavior. And if you are, know that you do not deserve it.

You don't have to have a "nurturing" role to deserve kindness.

and by that, I mean mythtives, mythkin, divinekin, god kin, prophet kin, demon kin, angel kin, etc., who consider themselves factkin, factive, factlink, facthearted, fact DA, fact endel, and others I haven't mentioned,

whether you're Jesus Christ or Vishnu or anyone else of any religion

no matter if the religion is mainstream or not, including in-system religions, and fiction-folks religions (for example, beings who are from fiction like horrorterrors from Homestuck, or fictional interpretations of a religion like Poseidon from Epic the Musical)

whether you've known this identity for years or just found out now

no matter what you feel about it

no matter if it's static or fluid

even if your identity or its shifts have metaphysical explanations that can't be understood by others

no matter if it's your own spiritual belief or a psychological resonance (including delusion), or if it's someone else's

or if you're possessing the body due to other systemmates worshipping/godspousing you

whether you have a neurodivergence or not

no matter how you came to be - if it's because of education, special interest, trauma, or otherwise

no matter how your systemmates and the alterhuman community treats you

and other things I've missed

Your identity is not inherently harmful. Your existence is not disrespectful towards adherents of that religion in this world. You should allowed to use your name and talk about your experiences. You don't deserve to be banned from servers for being and expressing yourselves.

If you or the body are neurodivergent, Mad, mentally ill, or have any other disability or difference from the norm; even if your identity is based on/caused by those things, it does not invalidate your identity. Yes, including psychosis or delusion-based identities. It does not make you fake or lesser. It does not make you worthy of disrespect.

You're not fake for changing as a person while living in this new body, you're not less of your identity if you need to (re)learn it here. Even if you can't ask for worship or being exalted, you are still allowed to want it. Or feel complicated about the religion you come from. Or have exomemories and exotrauma. Feelings, memories or memory loss, and traumas have no inherent morality.

You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect. Even by atheists, agnostics, and non-worshippers.

(We in Fact-Anonymous would be happy to listen to your religious, spiritual, etc. fact-identities - you could mention us, DM us, or send your experiences through our ask and submissions!)

Fact-folks meaning: factives, factual introjects, factkin/factualkins, fact DAs, fact endels, factchains, facthearted/synpaths, factlinks, and others I haven't mentioned,

Yes, (general we) we know that public figures are often uncomfortable with RPF. That is why RPF writers, whether or not they have a fact-identity, should not show it to them directly.

But writing it in the peace of your own devices or books? Posting it to AO3 or not at all? That's not hurting them. It's also not "causing alterhumans to be invalidated" or "reducing real people into fiction". Biopic writers, biographers, gossip tabloids, etc. do it all the time, sometimes full of misinformation, even, and they have a much wider reach than fanfic-style RPF.

It's okay to write down your own experiences and/or (exo)memories in narrative form, even if it seems like fiction to others, even if others can't accept it. Yes, even if your gender and orientation is different, yes, even if you're partnered with a different person, or died earlier, or any other canon divergence.

Writing RPF (even if you're canon divergent!) does not invalidate your identity. It's not inherently harmful. You don't deserve to be harassed for that.

the idea of someone being kin with me just makes me feel very uncomfortable. but i understand that factkin is involuntary, just like fiction and alterhuman as a whole, so i certainly dont go around harassing them and shi.

but i'd like to understand factkin more. why do i only see factkin of famous people? how does factkin work? do you believe you were this person in a past life, or do you believe you are them right now?

and if you dont mind, can you explain your own experience?

Hello! Thank you for your patience. I wanted to answer this thoughtfully so it took several days.

This is a really *really* good question with a lot of layers so I'm gonna tackle it in stages! This got long so I put it under a cut.

First of all, I'd like to talk about your first statement. "the idea of someone being kin with me just makes me feel very uncomfortable." You are allowed to feel uncomfortable! Your feelings are valid and discomfort is an entirely neutral feeling. It is even *good* to feel uncomfortable sometimes because when you feel uncomfortable you are given a chance to question why.

I applaud you for not allowing your discomfort to interfere with the way you treat people. It is a very mature thing to say "this makes me uncomfortable but live and let live." The good news is, you will likely never have to worry about someone being you-kin! "Why do I only see factkin of famous people?" is a VERY common question and it has a pretty simple answer: survivorship bias.

Take, for example, a wolf therian. Wolves are a very well-known animal and there are lots of ways to know you feel like a wolf that the average person would just already know. Now, take a Vulturine Guineafowl. You might be asking "wtf is a Vulturine Guineafowl?" There are almost certainly more awakened wolf therians than there are Vulturine Guineafowl therians out there. Why? Because when you know something very well and have an awareness of the thing it becomes much easier to know if you are it or if you are not it. More people have an awareness of John Lennon than of John who lives down the road. Therefore, more people will identify as John Lennon than will identify as John who lives down the road.

(Side note!! Factkin are NOT by any means always celebrities! I have met people who factkin their pets. I have met people who factkin unknown people depicted in drawings from the middle ages. You just see celebrities more for the reason above.)

How do factkin work? The same as any other type of otherkin! I used therians in my first example, so I will use fictionkin for this one. Some fictionkin believe they were their kintypes in a past life. Some fictionkin, even those who died in canon, believe they are their kintype right now in a parallel life. Some fictionkin identify as fictionkin for entirely non-spiritual reasons. In the same vein, some factkin identify as their kintypes because they believe they were them in a past life. Some identify as them for completely separate reasons.

The "why" of being otherkin is as varied as any other aspect of the otherkin experience and that rings true for *any* kind of otherkinity.

I speak best when speaking from my own experience so I'm very grateful you've given me a chance to. I am a spiritual otherkin and I believe that my kintypes come from parallel lives. To make it simple: I believe there are infinite universes with infinite possibilities and that the mes some of those universes are connected to the me in this one.

I believe that in a parallel life I am René Descartes. I am Eminem. I am Peter III of Aragon, and I identify as them in this life because I feel like them the same way I feel like a wolf or a goat (some of my other kintypes.) It feels right to be called by their names. Sometimes, I have dreams or just nagging funny feelings that I count as memories. I have laughed out loud in history classes before because of the way my professor talked about Caesarion. Likewise I have had my stomach turn while listening to people eviscerate Edgar Allan Poe. I miss my wife, Constance II of Sicily, every time I see a picture of her, and I feel embarrassed when I listen to some of Eminem's latest songs.

I can't give any sort of empirical proof for this belief; I study philosophy so that I can learn what that proof might even look like, so for now all I can tell you is how I feel. I am very much open to talking more about this.

I hope this helped! I know it was long. Thank you for your question as it means a lot to me to hear from factkin-skeptical folks. Thank you for reading. Have a nice week!

Why is it that others feel it necessary to put us in their DNI, to exclude us from the otherkin community, to punish us for something that, truth be told, most of us can't control. If not all

I did not choose to feel this way. If I could, I'd choose to be my own person, someone who doesn't lament the death of my friends, my family, everything I knew. Not even the country I lived in exists anymore. I grieve these things just as much as fictionkin, for example, grieve losing the things they had in source.

I'm tired of chasing for things that have been long gone, tired of feeling like my body doesn't belong to me. Just as everyone is. And yet they tell us we're creeps, we're identity thieves. As if we had a choice. As if we woke up one day and thought, "wow! I shall now pretend to be this long dead man from history who no one remembers and no one cares about," "I may now pretend to be this YouTuber I am deeply attached to", etc.

It's not a choice. It's not play pretend. We're just as serious as any other kintypes and I'm tired, I'm tired of having people talk down to me for it

"we love all alterhumans and are accepting of all" and "factkin dni" are mutually exclusive. Pick one and don't be mad at me when I call you a bigot for picking the latter.

fucking stop invalidating people's experiences for god's sake

You can't tell a singlet to change their entire name because you think it's problematic. You can't tell a singlet to hide their gender or sexuality because it "doesn't match" their body. You can't tell a singlet to change or hide their entire damn identity because you don't like it. You can't tell a singlet to stop having days where they experience disordered symptoms.

shout out to alters who are afraid of not fronting all the time, either because theyre so use to it or they’re afraid they wont get to front again.

shout out to systems who wish they had a more consistent rotation of fronters and wish it wasn’t so come and go with system members.

shout out to alters who like fronting.

shout out to members who get frontstuck regularly.

  welcome to thatonefactive: a blog made for factives, by factives.

pt: in red text, welcome to thatonefactive: a blog made for factives, by factives

ABOUT US:

pt: about us

we are a collective system of 200+, mostly factive heavy. we are mixed origin. you can call us thatonefactive (or TOF, toffee, tofa, etc), and we use he/him pronouns

WHAT THIS BLOG IS FOR:

pt: what this blog is for

we want to create a safe space for factives. factives who are problematic is our specialty, but anyone and everyone is welcome here. we plan on taking many different requests for factives here as well.

DNI: anti-endo, anti-mogai, anti-factive (tba)

WHAT WE CAN DO:

pt: what we can do

we take requests for moodboards, stimboards, BAHs/headmate packs, icons, banners, discord layouts, name/pronoun/title packs, and art by us.

we will happily research your source/s before posting, but please add a short description of the aesthetic or theme you are going for. we do not take requests for fictives. we will not fulfill RQ requests for our personal comfort

TAGGING SYSTEM:

pt: tagging system

#🚨 tof talking — where we just yap!

#🧨 tof requests — where we fulfill requests

#🧯 tof nonrequests — where we post items that are not requests

#🩸 tof reblogs — where we reblog posts

pt: DNI: anti-endo, anti-mogai, anti-factive (tba) /End PT

pt: we will happily research your source/s before posting, but please add a short description of the aesthetic or theme you are going for. we do not take requests for fictives. we will not fulfill RQ requests for our personal comfort /End PT