Things that I can't post on my main blog

“In part, it’s because the language of gender identity has always been a bit bewildering to me—I’ve felt hungry, happy, gassy, and anxious, but never male or female. Even so, it has been tempting to interpret my experience in ways that separated it from that of other women. This is especially true because cis-gendered women have a distinct tendency to define themselves in ways that don’t include me. I hear women throw out things like, “As women, we all know how important it is to feel pretty,” or “We, as women, are naturally more tender and nurturing,” statements that never seem to include women like me. Not only do I dislike feeling pretty and prefer arguing to nurturing, I don’t even particularly like eating chocolate. Popular culture, and women themselves, often imply that I lack many of the most essential qualities of womanhood. So in the past I’ve been quite tempted by the idea that perhaps I’m not a woman after all. I mean, I’m masculine in all sorts of ways—I am ambitious, logical, aggressive, strong, and highly competitive. And I’m certainly not silly, frivolous, dainty, weak, or overly emotional … Oh dear. That’s where I run into a major problem, isn’t it? When I start listing traits of mine that I’d call masculine, they’re always positive. They’re points of pride. Whereas when I list traits I lack that I’d call feminine, they’re negatives. It seems I can’t consider my own masculinity or lack of femininity without relying on some of the worst and most pernicious sex-based stereotypes. This suggests to me that the enterprise itself is suspect.” Lea Delaria

What a diplomatic and eloquent way of putting it. She’s so smart I love this quote.

READ THIS PLEASE.

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She slayed gender in one paragraph.

WOW

yes doesn’t matter unless no is a safe and easily available option

Cis women shut the fuck up challenge

if you are a man who had sex with a woman, and she became pregnant, and decided to abort, she does not “owe” you any say in the decision. all you did was bust a 10 second nut and suddenly you get a decisive say in whether or not she goes through 9 months of insanity and a painful expensive labour cause YOU want the kid? fuck off. your role in the creation of that fetus is minimal at best. if you really, genuinely wanted a child with her, you would have PLANNED for the conception of a child with that woman BEFORE y'all fucked. stop giving me that shit about “both of them created it together so they get equal say in the matter!” NO a man ejaculated and THAT’S IT, everything else regarding conception is on the woman’s body, she gets the final say in whether or not she’ll carry to term, NOT you. go adopt one of the 250,000 children in foster care waiting for someone to love them if you want a kid that fucking badly.

all pro lifers can fuck off my post please I still stand by this 100%

remember that reddit post with the dude who insisted his gf carry the baby to term and she left the baby with him and fucked right off and was faithfully paying child support but he still bitched about how his life was ruined bc he expected her to stay with him bc of the child despite her repeatedly stated intentions otherwise

That’s exactly the intention when they say they want the baby. They don’t want the baby by itself, they want what they assume will come with the baby which is the mother, and trapping anyone into parenthood is terrible.

straight people be like “I’m lgbt if i don’t fuck”

lmao can’t believe some people actually still think humans are a bipedal species when there are people who are born with 1, 0 or 3 legs….the number of legs is FLUID…maybe yall should have paid attention in biology class ;)

You’re making an argument about trans people, but within this metaphor, do you think trans people really are the gender they say they are, or do you think people with one leg are not human? Your metaphor necessarily states that an exception to the biological norm doesn’t change that individuals status, unless you agree with the latter statement above. I think your argument fails when you have to consider disabled people inhuman to invalidate trans people.

The argument behind this is, that that trans activist rhetoric has developed into saying that people are biologically the gender they feel like, and using people with intersex conditions as argument that sex is fluid anyway, so therefore obfuscating dysphoria with intersex conditions. So to them there are more sexes than the two, which humans, a sexually DImorphic species show (intersex conditions are not additional sexes, they are just malfunctionings of the already existing 2, yes I had Genetics beyond High School, there are excellent explanations out there, I’m too tired to explain at length). By saying that there are birth defects and mutations that vary the count of legs on humans, a BIpedal species, we make fun of that argument, that you can be whatever sex you feel like, because there are mutations making the categorisation of an individual harder.

society needs shame. if you dont embarrass weird greasy kids in high school they turn into adults who walk their girlfriends around on dog leashes in the mall

Nothing wrong with that as long as there’s Mutual consent

did you know that bystanders literally do not consent to being a part of public sexual displays

Laverne cox isn’t even a very good actor lol

+ i know it’s already been said but there’s something inherently hilarious about ‘i called my brother and he agreed i don’t have male privilege so YOU’RE ALL WRONG, WOMEN’ as if we’re all going to just simmer down and be quiet because a man disagrees with us

And then he basically went on to say “we need to stop making gender a binary, for example I was a gender-non conforming boy and got called a girl for it and decided that means I’m a girl.”

Unremarkable actor mostly known for minor role on a Netflix series gives a half-assed response to Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, an accomplished author with two masters degrees who’s a winner of an MacArthur Genius Grant and an Andrew Carnegie Medal for Excellence in Fiction. And if this is too academic for you pop-culture junkies, one of her talks was sampled by Beyoncé.

Someone should probably let Cox know that being shamed for being feminine is an integral part of male socialisation. Among other things it teaches you that you shouldn’t debase yourself by acting like a girl (”I was told I acted like a girl and I was shamed for that,” he said) because you are inherently worth more than the lowly females around you. By saying he was bullied for being feminine he is essentially proving Adichie’s point - that male socialisation exists and trans males and women do not have the same experiences. And regardless of the specifics, receiving male socialisation is always a privilege and you reap the benefits of it for the rest of your life. For example, being shamed for acting like a girl i.e. being taught from birth that you are inherently worth more than the lowly females around you, gives you a high enough opinion of yourself to speak over a female scholar and think your definition of womanhood automatically trumps hers.

This is disgusting especially in the context of how many step fathers, brothers, etc abuse their step sisters, daughters in real life and…. just,, they’re allowed to just create pornography of this?

the amount of fuckin likes and retweets on that tweet makes me sick to my fuckin stomach

It is also a rejection of dogmatic sexual taboos imposed on people by Christianity and the patriarchy, an embracing of free love, an embracing of the idea that all love is love, a rejection of feeling shame about sexual desires, a rejection of straight sexuality, and a public embracing of pride in a sexual identity that the old morality prohibits.

The kid is ten, you fucking freak.

Pls where is this energy for the men throwing money at him, they’re the ones at fault surely

you ever talk to man and be like. porn exposure has rotted your brain beyond repair