despite everything it's still you

I breathe in.

I breathe out.

Arguing with random people online won’t help the cause.

What will help the cause are our own posts and actions in real life, spreading information and debunking myths.

Don't give up. Please.

I know people like to go “but radqueer was meant for pro-c!!” or whatever the fuck, but GOD i’m so tired of the abuse being normalized here.

the amount of pro-c zoos ive seen recently is insane too.. tell me you don’t actually understand animal psychology without telling me.

Sorry for the small rant here, i’m just tired of it and you seemed like someone who understood.

i'm looking back at the "original radqueer" coining post and? it says nothing about radqueer being inherently pro-contact?

the creator was pro-contact, not the term itself. people saying it was "meant for pro-cs" are wrong.

the "new radqueer" coining post doesn't have a contact stance tied to it, but it clearly says that only non-offending / non-active pro-contacts are welcome. there are a disturbing amount of offending pro-cs in this community. thank god an offending pro-c coined "post-radqueer" for them so they don't feel left out. [/sarcasm]

rambling aside, i feel you, anon. they don't know shit about animal psychology or adolescent trauma, but they sure do like to act like they do.

i'm sick of seeing predators being defended and welcomed in this community. it wasn't like this before. i'm so hopeful that we can turn this around. and then my dreams are crushed by seeing a chrono adult being celebrated for openly dating and sexting a chrono kid [and seeing a bunch of other people feel jealous that they aren't being groomed by some rando pro-contact-aligned "contact stance abolitionist" furry online. holy fucking shit, i'm so sick of this.

𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚠𝚎 𝚍𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐.

𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚠𝚎 𝚜𝚝𝚘𝚙 𝚝𝚘𝚕𝚎𝚛𝚊𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜.

𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚖𝚏𝚞𝚕 / 𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚖𝚎𝚍 𝚒𝚜𝚗'𝚝 𝚖𝚎𝚊𝚗𝚝 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚝𝚢𝚙𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚝.

I’m usually the other side (transharmed), but I do have some transharmful identities. And… it’s genuinely terrible what this community has come to.

Also, about cisharmful, I’m well aware that there are some people out there who use it in good faith.

But this is the coiner.

Cisharmful was literally never coined in good faith. It was coined as an extremely transparent attempt to give abusers a back door into the community. And it’s a little sad how well it worked.

𝚗𝚘𝚠 𝚠𝚎'𝚛𝚎 𝚎𝚡𝚙𝚎𝚌𝚝𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚘-𝚎𝚡𝚒𝚜𝚝 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚜𝚎 𝚝𝚢𝚙𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎.

𝚢𝚎𝚊𝚑, 𝚝𝚑𝚎 "𝚙𝚛𝚘-𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎" "𝚌𝚒𝚜 𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎𝚛" 𝚍𝚎𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚎𝚕𝚢 𝚋𝚎𝚕𝚘𝚗𝚐𝚜 𝚒𝚗 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚞𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚊𝚗𝚝𝚒-𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚙𝚛𝚘-𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚎𝚗𝚝 𝚟𝚊𝚕𝚞𝚎𝚜. /𝚜𝚊𝚛𝚌𝚊𝚜𝚖

𝚒𝚝'𝚜 𝚏𝚞𝚌𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗𝚜𝚊𝚗𝚎 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚞𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚑𝚊𝚜 𝚕𝚘𝚜𝚝 𝚒𝚝'𝚜 𝚠𝚊𝚢. 𝚒 𝚑𝚊𝚝𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚝𝚒-𝚛𝚊𝚍𝚚𝚞𝚎𝚎𝚛𝚜 𝚊𝚜 𝚖𝚞𝚌𝚑 𝚊𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚗𝚎𝚡𝚝 𝚐𝚞𝚢, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢'𝚛𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚙𝚕𝚎𝚝𝚎𝚕𝚢 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚗 𝚜𝚊𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚞𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚢 𝚑𝚊𝚜 𝚝𝚞𝚛𝚗𝚎𝚍 𝚍𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚜.