there’s evil in me

𝐏𝐞𝐩𝐩𝐞𝐫 𝘩𝘦 / 𝘮𝘦𝘰𝘸 / 𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘳 𝘤𝘩𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘰𝘵𝘦𝘦𝘯 θη

𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚒𝚜 𝚊 𝐯𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐛𝐥𝐨𝐠. 𝚒 𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝚛𝚎𝚋𝚕𝚘𝚐 𝚗𝚘𝚗-𝚟𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚜, 𝚝𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚐𝚑. 𝚒 𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚕 𝚋𝚎 𝚞𝚗𝚊𝚙𝚘𝚕𝚘𝚐𝚎𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚖𝚢𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏. 𝚒𝚏 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚎𝚜 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚞𝚗𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚊𝚋𝚕𝚎, 𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚟𝚎.

𝐜𝐢𝐬𝐈𝐃𝐬 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚋𝚙𝚍, 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚂𝙰𝙳, 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚖𝚎𝚍 [𝚐𝚛𝚘𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚍, 𝙲𝚂𝙰, 𝙲𝙾𝙰𝚂𝙰, 𝚂𝙰], 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚙𝚘𝚛𝚗𝚊𝚍𝚍𝚒𝚌𝚝, 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚍𝚛𝚞𝚐𝚊𝚍𝚍𝚒𝚌𝚝, 𝚌𝚒𝚜🧸, 𝚌𝚒𝚜🍯, 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚖𝚊𝚜𝚘𝚌𝚑𝚒𝚜𝚝, 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚊𝚞𝚝𝚘𝚍𝚘𝚙𝚎𝚙𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚒𝚊, 𝚌𝚒𝚜𝚊𝚞𝚝𝚘𝚊𝚙𝚝𝚘𝚙𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚒𝚊 𝐭𝐫𝐚𝐧𝐬𝐈𝐃𝐬 𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚜𝚙𝚎𝚌𝚒𝚎𝚜 [𝚌𝚊𝚝 / 𝚖𝚘𝚗𝚜𝚝𝚎𝚛], 𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚐𝚎𝚗𝚍𝚎𝚛 [𝚏𝚝𝚖], 𝚝𝚛𝚊𝚗𝚜𝚙𝚜𝚢𝚌𝚑𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚌

I know people like to go “but radqueer was meant for pro-c!!” or whatever the fuck, but GOD i’m so tired of the abuse being normalized here.

the amount of pro-c zoos ive seen recently is insane too.. tell me you don’t actually understand animal psychology without telling me.

Sorry for the small rant here, i’m just tired of it and you seemed like someone who understood.

i'm looking back at the "original radqueer" coining post and? it says nothing about radqueer being inherently pro-contact?

the creator was pro-contact, not the term itself. people saying it was "meant for pro-cs" are wrong.

the "new radqueer" coining post doesn't have a contact stance tied to it, but it clearly says that only non-offending / non-active pro-contacts are welcome. there are a disturbing amount of offending pro-cs in this community. thank god an offending pro-c coined "post-radqueer" for them so they don't feel left out. [/sarcasm]

rambling aside, i feel you, anon. they don't know shit about animal psychology or adolescent trauma, but they sure do like to act like they do.

i'm sick of seeing predators being defended and welcomed in this community. it wasn't like this before. i'm so hopeful that we can turn this around. and then my dreams are crushed by seeing a chrono adult being celebrated for openly dating and sexting a chrono kid [and seeing a bunch of other people feel jealous that they aren't being groomed by some rando pro-contact-aligned "contact stance abolitionist" furry online. holy fucking shit, i'm so sick of this.

𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎'𝚜 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚒 𝚙𝚎𝚛𝚜𝚘𝚗𝚊𝚕𝚕𝚢 𝚍𝚎𝚏𝚒𝚗𝚎 𝚒𝚝: 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚠𝚑𝚘 𝚍𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚜 𝚙𝚕𝚎𝚊𝚜𝚞𝚛𝚎 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚋𝚎𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚖𝚎𝚍 𝚋𝚢 𝚊𝚗 𝚊𝚗𝚒𝚖𝚊𝚕.

I've never heard of this and when I joined the community at 14 I was Semi-Friends with him.

of course haven't spoken in years.

𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎'𝚜 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚒 𝚏𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚍 𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚒𝚝. 𝚑𝚎𝚎𝚍 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚠𝚊𝚛𝚗𝚒𝚗𝚐𝚜.

𝚒'𝚖 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚜𝚞𝚛𝚙𝚛𝚒𝚜𝚎𝚍 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚠𝚑𝚘'𝚜 "𝚝𝚘𝚘 𝚙𝚛𝚘-𝚌 𝚏𝚘𝚛 𝚛𝚊𝚍𝚚𝚞𝚎𝚎𝚛𝚜" 𝚠𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍 𝚍𝚘 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚜 𝚜𝚑𝚒𝚝. 𝚒 𝚑𝚘𝚙𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚟𝚒𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚖𝚜 𝚊𝚛𝚎 𝚍𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚠𝚎𝚕𝚕. 𝚒 𝚑𝚘𝚙𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚢'𝚛𝚎 𝚏𝚊𝚛 𝚊𝚠𝚊𝚢 𝚏𝚛𝚘𝚖 𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚎.

It looks like it would have the texture of poprocks or nerds/pos -🔪🐾

𝚞𝚠𝚊, 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚔 𝚢𝚘𝚞! 𝚖𝚊𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚛𝚝 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚏𝚘𝚛𝚝𝚜 𝚖𝚎, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚒'𝚖 𝚑𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚢 𝚘𝚝𝚑𝚎𝚛𝚜 𝚌𝚊𝚗 𝚐𝚎𝚝 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚘𝚏 𝚒𝚝.

𝚒𝚝'𝚜 𝚖𝚎… 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚒 𝚠𝚒𝚜𝚑 𝚒𝚝 𝚠𝚊𝚜𝚗'𝚝…

The fact that people will jump up and down and go "Yeah! I'm a cisgroomer!" or "Yeah! I want to groom kids!" and even some anti-cs wont bat an eye

i don't think someone saying what they want necessarily reflects what they'll do, which is why some anti-cs won't jump on someone saying that they want to do something that would be unethical to act out. i think everyone should be able to express fantasies without the fear of being seen as a danger. attraction and fantasies do not equal action. i support transgroomers, transabusers, and everyone under the transharmful umbrella. by using the trans- prefix, there's reassurance that you're not actually a groomer / abusive.

i do have a more nuanced take on cisharmfuls (ignoring the fact "cisharmful" as a label was coined by a bad-faith, self-proclaimed "pro-abuse" shithead): ex-abusers and ex-offenders take solace in the label, and as one myself, i understand why to an extent... but i agree that we shouldn't accept people parading around the fact that they're--for a lack of better word--"active" cisharmfuls. god, what am i saying, they're just abusers that hide in our community by perverting our good-faith labels. we should not be okay with people willingly advocating for and celebrating causing non-consensual harm*. this is also why i fucking hate xenosatanists and people aligned with them even breathing in the direction of our community. they don't belong in our spaces, and they never will.

no, it has nothing to do with your opinion on contact for ALL paraphilias. that's misinformation.

here it is from mapresources.info, a site i've seen many MAPs of different contact stances use, so you know it's not biased:

𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚊𝚕𝚛𝚎𝚊𝚍𝚢 𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚛𝚘𝚊𝚌𝚑𝚎𝚍 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚋𝚘𝚞𝚝 𝚠𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚒𝚍 𝚙𝚞𝚋𝚕𝚒𝚌𝚕𝚢.

𝚢𝚘𝚞'𝚛𝚎 𝚊𝚙𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚎𝚗𝚝𝚕𝚢 𝚞𝚗𝚊𝚋𝚕𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚜𝚎𝚎 𝚑𝚘𝚠 𝚍𝚒𝚜𝚝𝚛𝚒𝚋𝚞𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚜𝚎𝚡𝚞𝚊𝚕 𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚖𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚊𝚕 𝚒𝚜 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚍𝚞𝚎 𝚝𝚘 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛 "𝚕𝚊𝚌𝚔 𝚘𝚏 𝚎𝚖𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚑𝚢 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚖𝚘𝚛𝚊𝚕𝚜". 𝚝𝚊𝚔𝚎 𝚜𝚘𝚖𝚎 𝚏𝚞𝚌𝚔𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚌𝚌𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚝𝚊𝚋𝚒𝚕𝚒𝚝𝚢. 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞'𝚛𝚎 𝚞𝚗𝚠𝚒𝚕𝚕𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚌𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎, 𝚝𝚛𝚢𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚘 𝚝𝚊𝚕𝚔 𝚠𝚒𝚝𝚑 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚒𝚜 𝚊 𝚠𝚊𝚜𝚝𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚝𝚒𝚖𝚎.

𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚐𝚒𝚟𝚎 𝚞𝚜 𝚊 𝚋𝚊𝚍 𝚗𝚊𝚖𝚎, 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚝𝚑𝚊𝚝 𝚖𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚊𝚕 𝚌𝚘𝚗𝚝𝚒𝚗𝚞𝚎𝚜 𝚝𝚑𝚎 𝚌𝚢𝚌𝚕𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎. 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚌𝚕𝚊𝚒𝚖 𝚝𝚘 𝚋𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚝𝚒-𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚠𝚑𝚒𝚕𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚊𝚌𝚝𝚒𝚟𝚎𝚕𝚢 𝚙𝚊𝚛𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚒𝚙𝚊𝚝𝚎 𝚒𝚗 𝚜𝚑𝚊𝚛𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎 𝚖𝚊𝚝𝚎𝚛𝚒𝚊𝚕 𝚊𝚛𝚘𝚞𝚗𝚍. 𝚒'𝚖 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚜𝚞𝚛𝚎 𝚒𝚏 𝚢𝚘𝚞'𝚟𝚎 𝚗𝚘𝚝𝚒𝚌𝚎𝚍, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚠𝚎 𝚍𝚘𝚗'𝚝 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚊𝚋𝚞𝚜𝚎𝚛𝚜. 𝚙𝚎𝚘𝚙𝚕𝚎 𝚝𝚑𝚒𝚗𝚔 𝚠𝚎'𝚛𝚎 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚢𝚘𝚞, 𝚋𝚞𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚜𝚑𝚘𝚞𝚕𝚍𝚗'𝚝 𝚎𝚟𝚎𝚗 𝚋𝚎 𝚒𝚗 𝚘𝚞𝚛 𝚌𝚘𝚖𝚖𝚞𝚗𝚒𝚝𝚢.

𝚢𝚘𝚞'𝚛𝚎 𝚌𝚊𝚙𝚊𝚋𝚕𝚎 𝚘𝚏 𝚌𝚑𝚊𝚗𝚐𝚎, 𝚓𝚞𝚜𝚝 𝚕𝚒𝚔𝚎 𝚊𝚗𝚢𝚘𝚗𝚎 𝚒𝚜. 𝚊𝚍𝚖𝚒𝚝 𝚢𝚘𝚞 𝚍𝚒𝚍 𝚠𝚛𝚘𝚗𝚐 𝚊𝚗𝚍 𝚑𝚘𝚕𝚍 𝚢𝚘𝚞𝚛𝚜𝚎𝚕𝚏 𝚝𝚘 𝚗𝚘𝚝 𝚍𝚘𝚒𝚗𝚐 𝚒𝚝 𝚊𝚐𝚊𝚒𝚗. 𝙱𝙴 𝚋𝚎𝚝𝚝𝚎𝚛.