Im curious what you think abt trans men. This blog feels more like a trans women hate blog than anything lmao.
I think all trans people deserve to find love in their actual bodies and stop pretending that they can or even should change their gender/pretend to change their sex.
But trans women and trans men are not built the same. I don't focus my attention on trans men (women) in men's spaces for a myriad of reasons including but not limited to:
trans men (being biological women) pose no inherent threat to men in their private/sex-separated spaces like trans women (men) pose to women in their spaces
trans men are not some sort of autogynophilic (well, the male equivalent) like trans women are. They aren't out here fetishizing children (girls), rape, incest, or just basic stereotypes about women, nor are they defending the men who do.
trans men are largely actually just trying to live their lives. None of that same entitlement to other people's identities, safety, bodies, etc (even in the trans men in gay spaces 'debate' the issue is so diluted compared to "trans women" (men) and society trying to pressure lesbians into fucking men)
trans men pass far better than trans women pass and, yes, that matters. They still will never be men but if a trans man passes and no one has issues with them in men's spaces, who gives a shit? From what I've seen of personal friends/acquaintances and ex-friends who are trans men, they'll go on T for years before they're brave enough to enter a men's restroom alone. Meanwhile, a man who 'transitioned' a week ago will slap on a dress and think that entitles him to a women's restroom, leering at women in locker rooms, masturbating in women's showers, or just generally making an entitled fuss when women don't succumb to their bullshit
there is no erasure of men when trans men are included in dialogue like there is with trans women in women's issues. Obviously, a trans man with a vagina (or even a bottom surgery-ed pseudo penis) shouldn't be involved in conversations about prostate exams or testicular torsion (but also notice how they don't want to be in the first place...) but men, let's be honest, are not in a position where the unique things about manhood are in jeopardy like trans women jeopardize an actual woman's access to women's health care, respect in the medical field (which was hard fought and sorely won to begin with), correct biological definitions, etc. No one is trying to be inclusive about 'testicle havers' to make trans men feel included like women are being reduced to their genitals to make space for butt-hurt 'trans women' (men) who can't stand being reminded of their born sex (male) when talking about purely female things. Funny how it's always the men making it harder for women and not the other way around...hmmm
and lastly, trans women (men) are also some of the most vile cock-wombles towards trans men (women), more so than any actual transphobe could be. Why? Bc these "trans women" (men) are genuinely so insulted that they take issue with biological women (trans men) still largely being included in biologically women's spaces despite their outwardly male appearance. So, in a way, not mentioning trans men (men) is sticking it even further to trans women (men) and their incessant entitlement to women's spaces.
Thank you for the ask and, to make it very clear, yes I hate trans women as an entity because the vast majority of them are simply entitled, narcissistic, autogynophilic predators making a mockery of women and, either way, womanhood isn't a costume even for an allegedly sane trans person.
