Like a Phoenix

I'm not very proud of being disabled since it is never fun and the most positivity I get out of it is fascination because I'm science-brained .

It's spreading because people think it isn't that big of deal or is only a "loud minority" (yeah good luck with that when the count is in the thousands or more)

We currently have a potential lawsuit against Tumblr whose participants were banned for similar stuff isff is doing, shielded by the trans women/fems who were wrongfully banned. If that lawsuit goes in, all Tumblr has to do is drop the thousands or more receipts of trans women/fems saying and/or doing stuff like isff and worse.

I was fascinated by the milder folks having more problems with all kinds of perception, fine motor coordination, memory issues, stomach problems, learning problems, rather than actual physical issues. A few people only had a foot or hand palsied.

"Needy, unable to cope" (<- you try coping with chronic pain)

"Comfort seeking" (<- you mean.. having a preference for not being in pain.. how criminal)

"Using or trying to obtain drugs on a long-term, chronic base" (<- do you understand what 'chronic pain' means.)

"Asking for pain med then returning to sleep."

"States he’s level 10 pain, but does not appear to be in pain (or ‘5= on appearance)." (<- it is well-known that chronic pain patients tend not to display pain in the same way as acute pain patients)

"Dramatic response to pain" (<- notice how this directly contradicts the comment above. you cannot win)

"Gets IV med, then leaves unit to smoke or walk around" (<- wow requiring medication and then going off to do something you needed pain meds to be able to do is so suspicious)

It’s Disability Pride Month. I shared this on Threads because I think it’s something our culture often gets wrong: a lot of people don’t realize disability pride and disability grief can exist at the exact same time.

I love the Disabled community. I’m proud of the creativity, resilience, humor, and ingenuity I’ve found here. Disability has introduced me to people who have changed my life forever. It has fundamentally shaped the work I do, the community I’ve built, and the purpose I’ve found.

And, yet… I also grieve so much: surgeries that never should have been necessary, the careers, opportunities, relationships, spontaneity, and sense of security that my chronic illnesses/disabilities have taken from me, watching my body change in ways I never asked for, the uncertainty of not knowing what my health will look like a year from now... Or even tomorrow.

Being proud to be Disabled doesn’t mean I’m grateful for pain. Nor does it mean I have to celebrate every loss or pretend suffering is empowering.

Disability pride is not about pretending disability is easy.

Simply put, disability pride is about refusing to believe that disability makes me less worthy of love, joy, ambition, beauty, or a full life. PERIOD.

Those two truths don’t cancel each other out. They coexist. I can fight for accessibility while wishing I didn’t need it, celebrate disabled identity while mourning what illness has taken, love the person I’ve become while grieving the life I imagined.

Both are real and deserve space, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Happy disability pride, y’all ♥️

WHUH?

Why do they say "oh it's just a computer tool, they used it with boy bands and photoshop" when that's not actually what's being talked about?

Why do they insist that "oh, but we've been using slave labor and poisoning drinking water forever, this is nothing new" when that is incredibly reductive and beyond the point?

Why do I react by bursting into tears and automatically invalidating all my own arguments in the face of "manly" logic that doesn't use emotion to get a point across but rather "shut up woman this is happening and we can't stop it so we might as well enjoy AI fiddle music while the world burns and we all die because tech oligarchs took over our lives" rhetoric?

This does not mean I want to detransition either. I'm still a trans man. I do not ever plan to detransition from being the genderqueer tmasc fucker I am. I'm just not dysphoric about temporarily stopping my Tgel if I ever get pregnant/breastfeed.