Hi, I'm Emma.

He’s famous, dude. Let’s bag him.

The military-industrial complex is a broken system. It’s bloated, redundant, and over-powered. It is a machine run by corporate talking heads. As a whole, the military takes in meat, chews it up and spits it out. It does. Not. Care.

So, no, don’t feel bad for the military. Hell, don’t respect it either.

All I ask, is that you recognize that the vast majority of the people that sign on the dotted line, have no clue what they are actually getting into. So many of them are solely doing it so that they can attend college without going into massive amounts of debt. They are going into the military to support families with “free” healthcare and a guaranteed paycheck. And then there are the few that do it because they have been led to believe that it’s a great thing to serve one’s country. And every single one of these types of people will be chewed up, and spit out different from how they went in. If they’re lucky, it won’t change much for them. But more often than not they’ll come out bitter, or depressed, or like my husband classified 100% disabled with PTSD and very little usable help from the equally broken VA health system.

Here’s the thing: the Met Gala is an event that’s specifically about the celebration of fashion and artistry. It’s literally a fundraiser for the Met’s Costume Institute.

As such, when guests are invited they’re expected to join in the celebration by dressing according to the year’s theme - the same theme as the Institute exhibit - with their own unique, creative take on it.

When men (or women, for that matter) show up to this event wearing a very plain, conventional garment, it’s disrespectful to not only the spirit of the event, but more importantly the art being presented and the artists who have spent significant time and effort creating it. If you were an academic invited to speak at a prestigious conference and you showed up unprepared it would be disrespectful to the other speakers and attendees, as well as the people who invited you. The idea is the same here except that the point is to be creative and dress well. It’s not about being comfortable or not, it’s that they (or more likely their stylists) are lazy.

No one is demanding that they don a beaded catsuit with wings, or put on high heels, or spend three hours in hair and makeup - although it’s great when they do! All that’s being asked is to be a little bit creative and join in the celebration of the art.

And there are so many ways to do that - without having to sacrifice physical/mental/emotional comfort! That’s the entire point of fashion; creativity can be expressed in any number of ways while still retaining function.

Look at that - tuxedo-style garments that haven’t done away with traditionally “masculine” elements or comfort, but which have at least attempted to meet the theme of the art being celebrated!

And as for personal advocacies (a weird, reaching point to bring up in the first place, imo) - for a theme such as this year’s, which is so closely related to the histories and cultures of PoC and LGBT artists, why would an advocate not be excited to join in and explore outside of the box a bit to lift that culture up and celebrate it??

In conclusion: There’s no reason that a tuxedo can’t be elevated to something more creative that fits a theme, without even having to be uncomfortable or wild - y'all are just lazy and boring.

“I do not joke when I say she is my better half. She really is. I cannot believe what a fantastic life I have today. Ultimately. We both changed a lot. So now I cannot imagine a life without her. I’ve certainly come to believe that Mrs. Downey and I together are definitely better than me alone or me and anybody else.” -Robert Downey Jr.