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a) outrageously kinky, includes hitting slapping choking etc, pain, subservience/dominance, humiliation, etc

or

b) lights off eyes closed missionary under the covers

like it just upsets me that people don’t think “vanilla” sex can be arousing and climactic and passionate and beautiful and enjoyable and fun and fulfilling etc etc

and i just think maybe if you feel like sex that doesn’t include pain/domination is inherently boring and unfulfilling, you should think about why!

there is so much pressure these days to incorporate things like choking and slapping into “vanilla” sex that many people (usually women) don’t feel comfortable saying no, because they’ll feel responsible if their partners aren’t as interested or excited

there’s a difference between pain as a physical sensation which can add to the physical sensations of sex, and pain as something that gets you off for psychological reasons, first off. is it a clear-cut line? of course not. which is why it’s important to EXAMINE your own behaviors and turn-ons. if you do so and come to the conclusion that it’s purely bc the physical sensation of like. being spanked or tied up or whatever is pleasurable, then like. more power to ya and have a nice day

but i’m tired of people acting like what happens in their bedroom is 100% separated from society, in terms of our brains being shaped by the world we live in. i’m tired of people being wilfully ignorant about this issue simply bc they don’t want to examine what arouses them.

So I didn’t wanna do this I have avoided doing it for a long time but it seems that I really really need help. 

My name is Jess, I’m 26, I’m a transgender woman living in New Mexico, USA and I really desperately need to get on HRT. For my mental well-being it’s really vital I get it I don’t know how much longer I can last and I’m so, so far beyond what I can deal with when it comes to dysphoria. :C It’s so so bad and idk how much I can deal with this. 

The problem is that I presently do not have health insurance and it’s going to cost a lot of money to get on it. 

I will need somewhere in the neighborhood of $400 to see an endocrinologist. This isn’t even talking about the HRT itself.