Helion's Thigh Oiler

a creative outlet : making a piece about —what you *wish had happened* —what you think *makes more sense* —what you just *think would be interesting*

an emotional outlet : being disappointed in media and wanting to talk about it

an exercise of the mind : breaking down the writing of media, looking for the meaning, or explaining an interpretation based on evidence

Fandom is a community and we all have our reasons for being here.

No, you don't have to like a protagonist.

Because stories have different purposes and will convey different things, protagonists aren't always even meant to be likable. • Writers will sometimes specifically create protagonists they know won't be liked. • Writers will write character studies of detestable people, who nobody should like.

No matter how likable a writer intended their protagonist to be, someone somewhere is going to dislike them. • We all have our own tastes, experiences, and world-views. • We can discuss our points of view and reasoning with each other, but there are things we'll never agree on.

Even if a protagonist is meant to be liked, but someone doesn't, they can still find enjoyment in media. There are other things to interest people besides the protagonist : —the world-building —the story and plot —liking side characters

People ingest media for different purposes.

Even by the people reading it, Romantasy is constantly spoken of as only a "turn your brain off" or self-insert fulfillment genre. It's been put in this box as if it can only serve one purpose. But that is a limiting way of thinking.

People have their own reasons for ingesting media. Just as some are entitled to use media as purely entertainment or escapism, others are entitled to look into and discuss media.

Critique and criticism are healthy and valuable responses to media.

they help people build and exercise critical thinking skills : —learning about the structure of writing and discussing it —learning about the issues of bias, prejudiced depictions & harmful messaging and discussing them

they offer ways to shape cultural thinking for the better : discussing biases, prejudiced depictions, and harmful messaging in writing, we can shine light on the problems in our societies and be aware of issues we need to address

they encourage writers to grow : discussions about writers' technical shortcomings or personal biases can cause them to see the issues with their writing or personal thinking, and cause them to work on those while creating future projects they inspire new writers to create their own works : when someone takes issue with media, comes to understand why, and has suggestions, then they see writing isn't a closed off thing — anyone can do it

Continuing media even if to "hate read/watch/etc" is still a completely valid way to engage with it.

I've seen people say they bought books in a series all at once and felt they had to get through them rather than adding to the DNF pile. They wanted to get their money's worth, and after spending the time they did, they want to offload disappointment by giving their opinions. That's great!

criticism can prevent others from being disappointed too : people with similar tastes, who would feel their time and money wasted on something, now have a better chance of spending it on something they would actually enjoy

Criticism and critique of media are not automatic judgment of the people who like it.

If your identity is wrapped so tightly with media that you try to shut down discourse or dismiss it because you feel threatened, then that is the actual unhealthy response.

- Eris enjoys light choking. Think a firm hand around your throat, his long, deceptively strong fingers pressing against the sides of your neck as he thrusts into you.

- Breath control is another one. As you gasp for air after he lets go, he would center and calm you by saying “There you go pet, deep breath in and out..” “Look at me and follow my breathing…yes, there you go. Good girl…”

- Mirror fucking? Now we are getting to the good stuff. There is nothing Eris loves more than dragging his full length dressing mirror to the end of the bed and positioning you in front of the mirror as he takes you from behind, pulling your head up by your hair so you can view everything-your flushed cheeks, the sweat sliding down Eris’ chest, his burning gaze as he watches you see yourself in the mirror being fucked by him.

- The quickest way to get him worked up is to pull out the “My lord” title at him every chance you get. Eating dinner in the formal dining room and want to tease him in front of others? Just say “My lord Eris, what a fine evening it is.” Being deferential in his presence in front of party guests? “Oh, I don’t know. What does my lord Eris think?” while lowering your eyes and batting your lashes up at him. Moan a few breathy “my lord, should we be doing this here??” in his ear during a hot and heavy makeout session in a secluded alcove away from the party, and you’re done for. It’s old fashioned, but it works every time.

- Dry-humping. It cracks Eris’ self-control when you become so desperate for his touch, you don’t even wait to take off your dress before you have hiked up your skirts, crawled into his lap, and began grinding yourself onto his thigh whimpering and keening. Feeling your wetness soak through your smallclothes and into his trousers as he growls at you to “Get on the fucking bed…now.”

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