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Spuffy may be a thing now or in the future; ❤

Here we have Buffy and Spike potentially breaking up in Issue #28 of Season 10 in the top image. Spike is in dark red and Buffy in a light blue. They aren’t looking at each other, Buffy is closed off with her arms folded, and Spike emoting with his hands as he talks - reaching out at and touching nothing. Both are frowning and they are standing far apart from each other - there is no body contact at all. On the bottom, we have the image of Buffy and Spike staying together and being emotionally closer (Buffy just told Spike, “I love you too.”). This time the colors are switched - Buffy is in dark red and Spike is in blue (a darker shade of blue than Buffy wore in the top image). Their colors are more in-sync. They are seated right next to each other, in chairs that are outside (in a open and public space, as opposed to the indoor setting of the potential break up scene). 

This time around, Buffy’s body language isn’t closed off at all - it is very open (her hand on Spike’s chest, her body turned to him, a smile on her face, and etc.) Spike isn’t saying anything in this scene, he is silent, but his smile does the talking and his hand is reaching out and touching Buffy’s cheek and chin. Given the situations being presented in each image, Buffy and Spike’s facial features and reactions are fitting and expected, however, the swamp in clothing color between the two of them really ties these two scenes together. Spike wearing blue doesn’t happen very often. Usually when he is wearing blue, Spike is being “not himself” in some way:

In Season 4, when he messes up the laundry we have him donning a pair of blue jeans. This is to help show us just how out of his element Spike is living in Xander’s basement and being “de-fanged.” In Season 5, Crush we have Spike wearing a very light blue button up shirt. He is wearing it to try and imitate Riley and try to make himself more appealing to Buffy. In Season 7, Spike wears a too tight blue long sleeve shirt. An outfit that Spike deliberately says in the church scene was nothing more than a costume. Something to help him cope and a costume of what he thought he needed to look like now. The last time we see him wear blue on Buffy is in Get It Done. He is wearing a blue button up shirt, very similar in color to the blue shirt he is wearing in the bottom image. He wore it in an episode that started with him locking away his violent-warrior side (refusing to attack and/or kill the demon that attacked him and Anya). He stops wearing it after he goes to retrieve his duster and re-associates himself with the violent and warrior-like aspect of his nature and character.

But, by Season 11 Spike is far more comfortable with himself and who he is (I would say still not as completely as Buffy, but he is getting there). He doesn’t need to “pretend” to be anyone or anything anymore. He is more accepting and at agreements with the soul and the demon within him, so he doesn’t need to hide any part of himself away anymore. He also no longer needs to try and sway or appeal to Buffy like in Season 5. This time the blue is all him and it shows how much Buffy and Spike have grown together as a couple.

In Season 10, Buffy and Spike are still very much so two separate people in a relationship. When issues come about in this season, both Buffy and Spike approach them individually, and this often leads to them being a bit at odds with each other and needing to talk things out. Buffy acknowledges that they are going to have issues and problems, but that she is okay with working through all that, and Spike states that he wants to be with the ‘real’ Buffy.

Season 10, Issue #30 then shows Buffy and Spike wearing white and black outfits. The outfits are not identical matches, but they match well enough to each other. They are shown being on the same wavelength and in Season 11 this continues. The issues in Season 10 were all very internal in nature, so Buffy and Spike had to do a lot of wrestling and arguing and healing within themselves first and foremost. By the end of Season 10 that is no longer an issue. Instead we see Season 11 focus on external issues for them, and they approach those problems and issues as a couple and a unit. They are both still individuals, so they tend to disagree here and there on things, but the lines of communication are always kept open and they tackle the issues together. By the end of Season 11, we see Buffy fully accepting and comfortable in her role as The Slayer and Spike is starting to accept, be comfortable with, and blend the souled and demonic aspects going on inside of him more and more as the seasons pass. In Season 10, when they nearly broke up, they were both still very invested in the “I” in their relationship, rather than the “we” or “us.” This is reflected in their outfits, facial expressions, and body language. By the end of Season 11, they have taken bits and pieces - aspects of each other - and have blended those parts into themselves. We see this through the switch in their clothing colors and even in their overall demeanor: Spike has less of a hard edge to him, something which was already fading over the years, but which he often tried to keep alive through his dark clothing preferences but which he does far less now in the comics - often wearing white shirts instead of black. Meanwhile Buffy has her unintentional, punk-ish hairdo. 

Personally I don’t think either relationship was healthy at all.

Angel so clearly had power over Buffy, and he used that. By not telling her anything about who he was unless forced to, he allowed himself to lose his soul and basically destroy Buffy’s life in the process. Then he does so again by leaving, which he actually does a lot, popping in every now and again to make sure she’s still on his hook and then disappearing once more. He knows from the very start that their relationship can’t work, and yet he won’t tell her why, instead deciding over and over again to keep her under his thumb. She’s so young, and naive when it comes to relationships and I definitely think he uses that against her. Very similar to Soulless Angel, he’s obsessive about having this control over her, because if he loved her, why did he let her find out in such a despicable way? Their relationship was one lie after another, which isn’t healthy at all.

Spike on the other hand, is very upfront about who he is and his intentions for Buffy {killing her, insulting her, etc}. This doesn’t change as he develops feelings for her. In fact, he becomes even more straightforward, especially in regards to his past. He unflinchingly tells Buffy in great detail about how exactly he killed the previous Slayers. She is under no illusions about who Spike is. This of course, leads to the toxic power play of season 6, where to be honest, I think they were on more equal footing than people would like to admit,at least until Buffy ends the tryst, eventually leading to Spike attempting to rape her. Spike, now Souled, expects nothing of Buffy because he acknowledges the disgusting severity of what he tried to do to her. But once again, Buffy, having no illusions about Spike, makes the choice to trust him again.

While Souless Spike/Buffy was clearly abusive and unhealthy on both sides, I don’t think it ever approached the murder/mayhem level of Souless Angelus/Buffy.

The real question is not "why do you love Spike" but "How can you don't  love him" 

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the difference is angel fully stalked and manipulated his situation where spike had a form of abuse with his since the beginning so he never knew till it was to late it was wrong, but instead of pouting about it and using her like angel did. spike the man went out of his way to almost die to be better.

i have watched buffy for a long time first i was a angel fan when things were easier but spuffy has saved my life in my darkest moments because they characters spike and buffy forged their way past their abuses and demons.

Anyway, I take advantage of the situation to write  (I tried to write it in a message  for you yesterday but maybe I did get trouble, not knowing if it was sent or not) I love your blog, everything you write and replies and all your posts

Please continue to give voice to those who, like me, has difficulties to express themselves due to language problems.

Buffy & Spike journey.