*insert fnaf ref here

Thank you to all the lovely people who got excited about this post, i got a lovely dm yesterday about my aro Rouge rep, then woke up this morning to a big aphobic hate rant. So I'm trying my best to remember the good, kind comments.

Stay safe all🫶

- "maybe there is context to this post that I'm unaware of"

- "huh, this post isn't worded perfectly. maybe it was intended to be seen by like 15 of this person's mutuals and it blew up"

- "am i letting my own biases, consciously or not, influence how i interpret this post?"

IT WAS FUCKING

if you face misogyny yourself then that often actually gives your transmisogyny sharper teeth--that's one of the major things terfs take advantage of, positioning themselves as the real victims of misogyny at the hands of trans women. if you are TME and you face misogyny then you will be considered one of the vulnerable targets of the evil trannies, which very much sharpens the teeth of your transmisogyny

likewise, if you are trans yourself, then consider that one of the prevailing narratives about trans men and other TME trans people is that you have been manipulated into transition by the evil, perverted trans women in the shadows. a lot of propaganda has done the work of coding you as one of our victims. your transness does not defang your transmisogyny at all here, in some ways it makes it more dangerous

it is misogynistic to think of (cis) women and/or "AFABs" as fragile helpless babies who need protection from marginalized women

it is transphobic to think that trans men only transition because they've been manipulated into it

every fat person you know for the most part probably has a story like this, of medical neglect. many of the stories i've heard personally are when the complaint or the doctor wasn't related at all, like being told to lose weight at the ear nose and throat doctor or at the dentist. it's straight up just bias. it's such a thing that in the show Shrill it's portrayed, when Aidy Bryant goes to the gynecologist and her doctor suggests she get gastric bypass.

the studies on health and fatness are simply not that black and white and there is basically no research that shows that more than an incredibly tiny minority of people can lose weight and keep it off for more than like 2 years. bodies have set points that they gravitate towards, it's not a personal failure. this also is how the weight loss industry succeeds so well - repeat customers.

some of the harm associated with fatness is also due to weight cycling, which is very hard on your body and is even worse if you get off a GLP1, which according to a recent study causes weight to be regained at a rate that is 4x faster than without taking a GLP1.

you don't have to hate yourself. you don't have to hate other people for their body type either. it makes me so sad to see the thinspo tag going around again in 2026 a lot like it was back in the day.

some resources to learn more here:

https://www.reuters.com/article/business/healthcare-pharmaceuticals/feeling-fat-may-be-worse-for-you-than-being-fat-idUSTON079061/

Black man named Daniel Cressy!! (23) in Louisiana has been the first person cured!! (Happy Black News!!!)