So I have a friend letâs call her Lari. Lari gets mad very easily like today was another one of those situations. She asked if I wanted to go share a pizza with her in our lunch break and I said no. On one side because I didnât really wanna eat pizza on the other hand I didnât wanna spend money on pizza when my school day isnât that long and I can just eat at home for free without spending money. After I said no she got annoyed and I suggested that we go to the pizza place anyway so she can buy herself one because she has a longer day then me. She answered really pissed off that she didn't want to eat alone and stopped talking to me.
I do understand that she has a long day and needs to eat something but if I donât want to eat pizza I donât have to just because she wants to or am I wrong?
These and very similar situations happen very often. She gets annoyed by very small things.
Another scenario happened when we were in math class. We had to solve a few calculations. When she asked me how I solved them I told her. Then she somehow answered really angrily, saying that I was doing it wrong and that you calculate it differently; and since I didn't feel like arguing, I just didn't say anything and waited until we compared our answers with the class and teacher. Guess who solved them correctly? Me.
And this happens in EVERY math class.
Is it that hard to believe that I am able to solve calculations correctly? Yes she gets better grades in the written exams but I am still solving a lot of problems better when I am not under stress like in an exam.
These were just two examples. One time Lari, some other friends and I wanted to go into the city. We talked about what stores to visit and what we could eat. (Mind you we discussed many options). When we met in the shopping centre she said letâs eat some bowls. Our other friend said that she wasnât hungry and I agreed with her and said that I wasn't hungry either. The got really offended and angry at us saying that we already agreed on eating bowls. (We never agreed on anything). Again we suggested that we can go and grab her a bowl so she doesnât go hungry while my friend and I would just grab something to drink. AGAIN she got mad saying how she did not want to eat alone even if that means that she will be hungry for the rest of the day and how itâs okay and we could just go shopping (she didnât exchange one word with us for the next 20 minutes being insulted because we literally just had no hunger)
I know that everyone has their own emotional border but this is just outrageous (sorry not sorry to say that). And I could tell you a hundred more stories about her (although Iâd have to relisten to the memos I send my best friend after every âbadâ situation I had with her)
PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE let me know your opinion I really donât know what to do
Also I donât think that I will ever talk to her about It cause she will get mad at me and I am a people pleaser. (Already tried talking to her once. She got mad at me for telling her she shouldnât call random people on the street fat and unhealthy when they really werenât (I am pretty sure she has an ED cuz she sometimes post on her secret Tik Tok account (that she blocked me on) how she is not confident in her own body because she feels fat (she isnât, sheâs actually pretty skinny))) (â> I already asked her if everything was okay she said yes. Hot take: If she doesnât want help and just says that everything is okay I wonât chase her forcing her to tell me whatâs wrong)