Just A Tired Writer

What helped me write trauma better is remembering that the nervous system learns predictions. If danger used to come after quiet, calm can feel threatening. If kindness used to come with a price, kindness can feel suspicious. So healing is not just “they know they’re safe now.” Healing is the slow, annoying, deeply unfair process of teaching the body that the old prediction is not always the present truth.

finding that one fandom friend that GETS you and your blorbos the way no one else does is a privilege and it will literally change your life

The fastest way to accomplish The Project is to cease being afraid of The Project. The Project cannot maim you. The Project cannot kill you. The Project is more afraid of you than you are of it. It is okay if The Project turns out differently from how it was in your head, and it is okay if it has flaws. You are capable of engaging with The Project.

nothing can break the bond between a friend who loves spoilers and a friend who just watched an amazing show and needs to tell someone the entire plot from start to finish

alternatively: nothing can break the bond between a friend who doesnt read and a friend who just read an amazing book and needs to tell someone the entire plot from start to finish

nothing can break the bond between a friend who cannot and will not watch horror but is still interested and a friend who just watched an amazing horror movie and needs to tell someone the entire plot from start to finish

Psst tell me ur fave ff7 character(s) and what draws you to them GO!!

When I was younger and originally playing, it was Vincent. I loved him. I loved his tragic backstory and everything like that, but as I've gotten older my favorite character has changed. I still like Vincent but honestly? Lately, it's been Tifa. I also really like Cid but I can't put my finger on why I like him as much as why I like Tifa. He's a problematic fave and I will fully admit that. He's got some fun contradictions though. Like his treatment of Shera vs the way he talks to Don Corneo in Wutai. His dumb pride vs fully admitting he was wrong later in the game. But Tifa? I just love her character more and more as I've gotten older and, admittedly, broken a lot of the internalized misogyny that was taught to me from a young age (as an afab) as well as the even more rampant external misogyny that was present in the fandom when I first got into it some twenty years ago. I love that alongside her ability as a martial artist, Tifa is genuinely kind. She will absolutely stand up to anyone that takes advantage of her or her kindness, but she tries to be kind first. She has every reason to not be, given everything she's gone through, but she is. And I love her for that.