DOESN'T HAVE TO BE PRETTY, JUST HAS TO WORK - mantra to apply to everything in life - including your body and your brain
even if it's held together by duct tape (meds and therapy) and sheer determination
if it works - it's enough.
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DOESN'T HAVE TO BE PRETTY, JUST HAS TO WORK - mantra to apply to everything in life - including your body and your brain
even if it's held together by duct tape (meds and therapy) and sheer determination
if it works - it's enough.

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Human
Every now and then violence will happen and weâll hear âbut theyâve always been such a nice, kind person, canât believe they would do this to a human beingâ⊠And guess what? They are nice and they are kind. The catch? Their definition of âhumanâ
every 14-16 year old is the bravest person on the planet to me
talking to a 15 year old like wow okay you are like if scrambled eggs was a person. I don't know how to save you. the way you move through the world is reminiscent of a stray cat whose soul got punted into a human body. said human body is currently undergoing changes and floods of hormones that would result in cities being levelled if you were perhaps a big dragon and not a medium sized primate. been there. good luck I love you
you don't have to excuse the behaviours of shitty teenagers, but you DO have to remember that they've been on this earth only as long as your cat. you have to ensure that the way you respond to said behaviour reflects this. yes they're an entire person. they're also going through a period of the most insane rapid transformation (physically, mentally, emotionally and socially) a person can experience in life. are they an irredeemable monster or are they just a very impressionable young person floundering through their first Strong Opinions based on what they've seen online, with ridiculous amounts of Hormone That Makes You Hate Everything in their bloodstream?
YOUNG TEENAGERS. are YOU an irredeemable monster or are YOU just a very impressionable young person floundering through your first Strong Opinions based on what you've seen online, with ridiculous amounts of Hormone That Makes You Hate Everything in your bloodstream? I'll give you a hint. it's the second option. cut yourself some slack too! try your very best to be kind, try your very best to consider people with differing experiences to you, and maybe take a step back from discourse that does nothing besides make you upset. you've only been an animal alive on this planet for a decade and a bit. there are artisanal cheddars at your local supermarket older than you. take it easy. eat more fruit. save up for a second hand bicycle. join a local club. it's impossibly difficult to be a teenager but you have it in you, whether you're aware of it or not. I hope you can be kind to yourself, because you DO deserve that kindness. kia kaha [:
Also, dear teenager: THIS WILL PASS. Yes it will, I promise you it will. You won't feel like this forever. I know you're at the age when a month feels like a decade. Too much is happening all at once, for the very first time. If all of it was happening to any adult in your life right now they would be overwhelmed too. They DID go through it, they just forget sometimes.
Every single adult you meet went through what you're going through. I know it doesn't feel like it, I know you feel isolated - that's just a part of the brain's process while it's rewiring itself over and over. But what's happening to you isn't wrong, it's ordinary, it happens to literally everyone. Billions of people went through it and came out the other end. You will too.
Breathe.
This will pass.
AROUSAL DOESNâT MEAN CONSENT
Arousal is a reflex. AROUSAL IS A REFLEX. AROUSAL IS A REFLEX. Imagine youâre at a doctorâs appointment. At some point doctor taps your knee with a hammer. You leg flies and kicks the doctor. Doc starts yelling âYou bastard you hit me! You want to hurt me! Nurse, did you see that? That patient attacked me!â Is doctor right? Did you attack him? No, you didnât. Did you kick him? Yes. Did you want to kick him? No. Why did you kick him? Because when a nerve on the knee is hit, leg flies up. ITâS A REFLEX.
AROUSAL IS A REFLEX. Penis gets erect reacting to stimuli. Itâs a reflex. Vulva gets swollen and vagina gets wet reacting to stimuli. Itâs a reflex. None of these is an indicator that a person wants to have sex. And guess what? ORGASM IS ALSO A REFLEX. Having an orgasm is not an indicator that a person âwanted itâ. The one and only indicator that a person wants to have sex is them saying so.
as an aroace person with limited sexual experience, no interest in watching porn, and poor sex ed as a teen, there IS something simultaneously funny and vaguely tragic about being 28 adult years old and realising how extremely tiny your frame of reference is for genitalia and deciding you should expand this to better understand bodies (yours and others). and then you're just there like "okay so what the fuck do I even google right now, anyway"
Large Labia Project
Labia Library
Breast Gallery-Nonsexualized Images of real, anonymously submitted breasts
Critique My Dick Pic [tumbex archive]-real submitted dick centric nudes
thank you (i think?)
why wouldn't it be thank you? you expressed interest in sexual education materials related to genital body diversity, and i keep these resources on hand for exactly that purpose.
it's natural to be curious about bodies--yours and others. the presence or lack of sexual intent motivating that curiosity is irrelevant. they're just body parts
I also found one of my favorites I couldn't find this morning: The Great Wall of Vulva and their Labia Library
sorry, my gratitude was real, my uncertainty was @ me ("am i sure i actually want to spend my evening looking at genitals or was i using the difficulty of knowing what to google as an excuse not to learn things") lol
do you have any resources for trans bodies, especially transmasc bodies? i am interested in better understanding what changes i might expect as someone on testosterone, but though i found references to photo projects re: bottom growth in a few places, all the links were dead
totally, the London Transgender Clinic and Dr. Keelee MacPhee have a variety of before and after photos related to various gender affirmation procedures.
i think that r/GrowYourTDick is the best repository of images of specifically trans masculine bottom growth. I can't comment on the culture of the forum, but there is absolutely a lot of images of transmasculine genitalia and extensive discussion of physical changes.
For (relatively*) trustworthy information, Hudson's FTM Resource Guide contains a lot of information about medical side effects and Things To Generally Be Aware Of, like increased risk for yeast infections and tips for managing locker rooms/swimming. *I can't verify that this information is up to date
I'm not directly connected to any trans masc transition support networks, but i know that discord is a thriving space for transition support and information sharing. i think it would be relatively easy to find positive community there. they often compile resources and information for members as well as provide topical discussion spaces. here's the disboard listings for public trans masc oriented servers
and this is just a really beautiful series of portraits of trans masculine people.
that about taps me out on resources!
no, I lied, I'm not done. I spent way too long looking for this photography archive documenting trans nude portraits specifically. lost to the ether. found other stuff though:
Archive of Body Alchemy: Transsexual Portraits by Loren Cameron, which includes images of genitalia in its "Genital Reconstruction" section, page 46. Portraits of clothed trans masculine people other than the author begin on page 34 in the "New Man Series."
A Genitoplasty Diary by Lou Sullivan (1984-1987) (no images but fascinating)
the evergreen Trans Bodies, Trans Selves
not useful at all, but an extremely cool in-browser recreation of a 90s mac in order to run a 90s trans information CD-Rom.
thanks! sharing for the sake of anyone else interested too
yeah there's so many dead links out there it's tragic. sometimes you even get as far as the artist's website and they'll have a page for the project but then the project is gone and you just get a 404. i'm guessing the increasing hostility of internet providers and stuff towards nudity/nsfw content and also the general atmosphere for trans people has an impact on the safety and practicalities of continuing to host stuff like that :(

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Just gonna drop these here as a starting point :)
How to identify, and then deal with, your emotions
Emotional regulation skills
Conflict resolution skills
Creating and enforcing boundaries
Dialectical Behavioural Therapy skills
Emotional intelligence ideals to aim for
Axes of self-care/wellbeing
Self-care self-evaluation (find out where youâre starting)
How to make a self-care checklist
How to start a self-care habit
Reparenting resources
Crash Course Psychology
KhanAcademy: Understanding the Self and Society (some units more relevant than others)
Emotional education activities for children and teens
Social-Emotional Learning activities for kids (information can be adapted for adults)
I'm reblogging to actually use this
Reblogging so I can read all of this; I think I do need to do better with my emotional maturity so this will come in handy.
every 14-16 year old is the bravest person on the planet to me
talking to a 15 year old like wow okay you are like if scrambled eggs was a person. I don't know how to save you. the way you move through the world is reminiscent of a stray cat whose soul got punted into a human body. said human body is currently undergoing changes and floods of hormones that would result in cities being levelled if you were perhaps a big dragon and not a medium sized primate. been there. good luck I love you
you don't have to excuse the behaviours of shitty teenagers, but you DO have to remember that they've been on this earth only as long as your cat. you have to ensure that the way you respond to said behaviour reflects this. yes they're an entire person. they're also going through a period of the most insane rapid transformation (physically, mentally, emotionally and socially) a person can experience in life. are they an irredeemable monster or are they just a very impressionable young person floundering through their first Strong Opinions based on what they've seen online, with ridiculous amounts of Hormone That Makes You Hate Everything in their bloodstream?
YOUNG TEENAGERS. are YOU an irredeemable monster or are YOU just a very impressionable young person floundering through your first Strong Opinions based on what you've seen online, with ridiculous amounts of Hormone That Makes You Hate Everything in your bloodstream? I'll give you a hint. it's the second option. cut yourself some slack too! try your very best to be kind, try your very best to consider people with differing experiences to you, and maybe take a step back from discourse that does nothing besides make you upset. you've only been an animal alive on this planet for a decade and a bit. there are artisanal cheddars at your local supermarket older than you. take it easy. eat more fruit. save up for a second hand bicycle. join a local club. it's impossibly difficult to be a teenager but you have it in you, whether you're aware of it or not. I hope you can be kind to yourself, because you DO deserve that kindness. kia kaha [:
Also, dear teenager: THIS WILL PASS. Yes it will, I promise you it will. You won't feel like this forever. I know you're at the age when a month feels like a decade. Too much is happening all at once, for the very first time. If all of it was happening to any adult in your life right now they would be overwhelmed too. They DID go through it, they just forget sometimes.
Every single adult you meet went through what you're going through. I know it doesn't feel like it, I know you feel isolated - that's just a part of the brain's process while it's rewiring itself over and over. But what's happening to you isn't wrong, it's ordinary, it happens to literally everyone. Billions of people went through it and came out the other end. You will too.
Breathe.
This will pass.
Human
Every now and then violence will happen and weâll hear âbut theyâve always been such a nice, kind person, canât believe they would do this to a human beingâ⊠And guess what? They are nice and they are kind. The catch? Their definition of âhumanâ
DOESN'T HAVE TO BE PRETTY, JUST HAS TO WORK - mantra to apply to everything in life - including your body and your brain
even if it's held together by duct tape (meds and therapy) and sheer determination
if it works - it's enough.
The biggest lie modern social norms tell you is that you have to do everything by yourself. And that if you fail, it's your fault and you're defective.
No it isn't and no you're not.
Homo sapiens is a pack animal. Always has been. Going at it alone is against our very nature.

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HeavenâŠ
from "Inside of You" podcast where Alan Ritchson opened up about his suicide attempt (trying to hang himself in his home) at the peak of his success. Years later, scene in "Reacher" season 3 finale cuts a little to close to home.
Alan Ritchson describes his experience with bipolar, providing very apt explanation of how this decease works
Transcript of the full video:
Bipolar is a terrible name. It should it be called unipolar. Unipolar, it should be called unipolar. Everybody else is bipolar.
If normal healthy people have an experience throughout the day, like, they're um, they're coming home from work, they had a decent day at work, they worked hard, they feel accomplished, and they're driving home... Somebody cuts them off in traffic real bad, gives them the finger, don't even understand why - I'm going to speed limit, right - they feel put off, and they're like "how dare they, like that's so rude, people in LA are so rude..." They have this feeling that's like, negative towards that experience, and maybe you know opens up feelings of like, insecurity or rage or whatever, but they're still sort of in that place where they're like "but I'm going home. Oh well, I can shake it off and I'm gonna go".
They're existing in two places at once. They can exist- most people can exist - in two places at once. Like, if shit happens, there's still some part of themselves that's okay.
With bipolar you, you can't... I personally cannot experience two things, two states at once. It is one of the most intense versions of that experience that you can possibly imagine.
So if most people have 99 keys on the keyboard, and the lows are real low, and the highs are real high, and they can enjoy all those, right? And they can sort of play in that range.
For me it extends as far as the eye can see, deep into the horizon, where it curves and wraps around the edge of the Earth. Right? Those keys still go. Some of those are so deep that it's impossible to pull yourself out of, and you need help from a team of people - you need medication, right?
And I can't possibly experience those extremes and also do what people tell you to do. And they go "but just think about all the things you have to be grateful for. Play this key, up here. Just play that key, let it pull you out" no, dude. There's no just playing that key, until life stops hammering that base tone for me.
I can't come out of it. And there are times when I have this kind of out-of-body experience, when I go "I should let go of this feeling. Like, I have to let go of this feeling - my family needs me. I need to be present with my family. There's got to be a way out..." It's like I'm talking to myself, going like "pleeeease"... and it just won't do it.
That is bipolar. That's bipolar. It's unipolar, it's you are going to experience immediately the most intense version of whatever your experience is. And it's authentic, and there's no lying about it. It's so complex and deep, those feelings, that I can't act like I'm not feeling it. And so that's really hard for people. And it's really hard for my family.
Because like, if I'm upset because of my kid the other day... Okay so I've got three boys, they're eleven, nine and seven... uh my seven-year-old is just a few days behind me with his birthday... so he's about to be eight. They're very sweet boys. I'm so grateful for them. They're wonderful young men. But they were mad at me, because I told them to go to bed and put their stuff away, the stuff that they were doing... and my littlest said "F you, Dad!"
I had had quite a day, because I was out in the countryside for work, at a place with no Wi-Fi, and I had press stuff, I was talking to... I was talking to Associated Press and I was talking to Washington Post, all these things that were supposed to be on camera, these interviews... And I couldn't get a signal, dude. And it was so frustrating.
So, I'm dealing with that, and then my kid tells me to F off because I asked him to go to bed. And I, like, lose my mind, right... And I can't pull myself out of that place, to go like "he's just a kid". I experience the feeling of a kid telling me to F off and that feeling took over and there was nothing else. For like an hour. And it took me like an hour to finally, kind of like, shake it off, dude.
It's fucking the worst. It is fucking the worst. I would give anything, I would give anything to not be bipolar.
But yet it's also the fuel to what I do in my craft. I can experience things as a character, because I can tap into such wide range of emotions so deeply and authentically so fast... It's what makes things like Reacher interesting for you to watch. So it's a blessing and a massive fucking curse, dude. I'd give anything to not be bipolar.
Good news: if youâre currently laying around and not producing anything, you are a credit to your species.
Iâm an ant biologist and Iâd like to point out that ants also spend a significant percentage of the time doing nothing.
Turns out sometimes the most evolutionary useful thing you can do is chill and not wear yourself to shreds, whether mammal or insect. It helps you deal with emergencies and adapt to change. Plus, you can act as living food storage!
That last part is probably more an ant thing than a human thing, but hey, live your dreams.
itâs also a bear thing, which absolutely explains me
Doing absolutely fuck-all is how antarctic sea sponges live to be over 10,000 years old, so live your best, longest, laziest life.
Remember lions? Fellow apex predators?
Yeah, they spend 16-20 hours of the day laying around, socializing, raising Cubs and napping.
The last 4-8 hours are spent hunting.
Wait wait, theyâre not a primate so they donât count.
How about Orangutans?
Well, they spend 90% of their time awake just hanging out in food-rich areas, eating fruit and leaves, socializing, raising children, and chilling.
Well, theyâre not people so it doesnât-
How about Stone Age people in Europe?
They probably worked 3-5 hours per day, every day. (Though seasonal changes in food scarcity could change that)
Laborers in ancient Egypt worked 8 hours, with an hour break at lunch. They did this for 8 days, then rested 2 days. That sounds familiar. Except⊠they also had regular time off for festivals and holidays, and only worked for about 18 out of every 50 days.
Artisans in imperial Rome generally worked from 6am to Noon, and then had the rest of the day off⊠and only worked for half the year, due to all the holidays and festivals they got off.
But thatâs too easy, what about a Peasant in medieval England?
6-8 hours per day, with Sundays off, Farm workers put in longer hours at harvest time but worked shorter days in winter when there are fewer hours of daylight. Economist Juliet Schor estimates that in the period following the Plague they worked no more than 150 days a year, due to the long holidays and many festivals.
Ugh, letâs go poorer. 17th century France. Starvation was afoot for the working poor!
During the reign of King Louis XIV, the workers of France had it tough, and hunger for the poorest was a fact of life. The typical working day was as much as 12 hours long, but two hours were set aside midday for lunch and perhaps an afternoon nap. Nevertheless, the Ancient Régime is said to have also guaranteed peasants, labourers and other workers a total of 52 Sundays, 90 rest days and 38 religious holidays off per year, meaning they worked just 185 out of 365 days.
So what changed?
The industrial revolution, baybe~~
New factory owners could work their employees to the bone due to a lack of regulation and abundance of cheap labour.
The typical factory worker in mid 19th-century England toiled away for a soul-destroying 16 hours a day, six days a week, 311 days per year!
THAT nightmare became the standard by which western society began to judge âwork-life balanceâ and anything gentler than the industrial factoryâs unfettered brutality is considered âsoftnessâ
(So many people died being mangled in those machines. Hair handkerchiefs went into style during American industrialization because working women would otherwise get their hair caught in the machines, and be either scalped or be bodily pulled inside to dieâŠ. But thatâs a horror for another time)
Americans in 2020 worked an average of 8.5 hours per day on weekdays, plus another 5 hours on weekends.
Taking out federal holidays and weekends, we work 262 days per year. Most of us get 5-9 sick days to take per year. (Yes, a fixed number, no matter how sick you really are), and usually either no paid vacation, or 7-15 days paid vacation, depending on seniority and the company. Unpaid vacation doesnât have a max, but taking it often risks you getting fired.
Even comparing against the poorest laborers in ancient history the current working structure for humans is, frankly, inhumane.
We are mammals. Let us rest. Let us celebrate holidays and attend festivals. Let us attend to our homes and families.
Even the ultra wealthy folks who got their heads chopped off gave us more time off than this!!!
Someone in the comments said something like âhumans are instinctively industrious and productive, as social creatures!â
Buddy, thatâs a lie fed to you by capitalism.
In our default state, we attend to our families yes, but we also party like hell, lounge around, and make fantastic works of art just to be proud of ourselves. We made beautiful things for the joy of creating them.
Stone Age humans may have spent a couple hours hunting and gathering, but DEFINITELY spent loads of time painting every available surface. Time and weather washed most of it away, but some places like Arizona and Colorado still preserve a few of the endless murals made by ancient hands.
Evidence shows that the ancient world was COVERED in paintings and etchings - just saturated with images of birds and beasts and humans, sunsets and cool weather. We invented mythologies and painted about them. We did something impressive, and painted about it. We taught our children how to paint and lifted them into our shoulders so they could mark the ceiling.
In our most base state, humans will work enough to survive, but our instincts demand we use all other time to create art. We want to communicate. To make connections.
âWorkingâ or âbeing productiveâ is not on that list.
Thank you for coming to my TED talk.
In case anyone is having a bad night
(The best of this post and its reblogs, but with links that work)
Here is a website where you can scroll down to all the different levels of the oceanÂ
Here is a website where you can see the future of the universe
Here is a website where you can press a âmake everything okayâ button, over and over, until things really are okay
Here is a website that you can read if you feel like a burden
Here is a website where you can look at strobe illusions (TW strobe/flashing)
Here is a website where you can cut stuff up (TW blood/sh)
Here and here are websites where you can play with sand
Here is a website where you can draw with macaroni and other fun foods
Here is a website where you can paint someoneâs nails
Here is a website where you can grow a garden with emojis
Here is a website with hundreds of videos of people hugging you (rightfully dubbed âthe nicest place on the internetâ because it really is, yâall, it made me cry)
Here is a website that will take you to other useless websites
Here is a website where you can make a tiny cat play bongo drums (and other instruments!)
Here is a website to help give you gentle reminders <3
Here is a website where you can grow a tiny farm
Here is a website where you can take a bunch of scientific personality tests
Here is a website of calm rain noise
Take a breath. Itâs going to be okay, I promise.

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Here's to us, bone tired and worn down by life by the time we're 20.
Here's to us, who don't want to "build a little family of your own", coz we already did the parenting, in place of childhood.
Here's to us, whose dream life is living alone, on our own terms.
Here's to us, leaving life backwards, because we fought like hell, and we got free, and we deserve to take everything they failed to give us.
Here's to us, may we forever thrive.
Ok so this whole Mature content label mess is a platform wide epidemic, most likely due to @staff implementing some new filter bot.
I suggest you all go through your posts and file appeals on flagged posts.
Hopefully if we drown @staff in appeals they will turn the damn thing off.
Please reblog to spread the word!