Everything Aziraphale does is taken in bad faith. Everything.
Why is he still wearing tartan, why didn't he immediately help Crowley up in the alley, why didn't he want to eat, why did he ultimately say yes to Heaven, why did he insist the car is theirs, why is he forgiving Crowley when he calls him an idiot, why is he trying to turn insults of god into praise of who Crowley has always been. Why is not everything he does perfect and perfectly curated to please Crowley?
Yes, the writing is terrible and the treatment of Aziraphale in S2 and especially in S3 even worse. Yes, they are both written ooc. We know them better. At least I hope we do. Crowley is mean and cruel and doesn't seem to love Aziraphale at all in S3. And it starts in S2. He threatens and promises and then does nothing about either. Waves Aziraphale off to talk to Metatron who he just watched wanting to remove Gabe's memories.
But when it's discussed, there's always the undertone of - 'it's understandable' to it. Crowley was heartbroken. Aziraphale is not enough. He's not trying hard enough. He's not understanding enough. Ah, poor demon.
Crowley's actions are always excused, always reasonable. He drinks, he gambles, he yells at Aziraphale, he's sarcastic with him, he mocks him for the magic tricks (that saved his skin). That's all fine. He's a demon. And he has a lot to deal with and then he has this angel full of faults who's just not good enough. He can't be good enough or they would already be happy together. Right?
Whatever Aziraphale does is always dubious. Is he doing this because he still believes in Heaven? Because he's scared of not being 'good'? Does he need more lessons to learn? More explanations? Maybe more pain to endure?
Surely he couldn't like tartan jusst because he wants to set his own family away from Heaven. It's not possible he strongly hints at the car being theirs to establish they are an 'us', a group of the two of them. Like with the bookshop that Crowley was always free to enter. Surely it's not possible Aziraphale does things and says things out of caution rather than a strong need to belong to Heaven he can't shake off (which we see him despise and be scared of). He just can't let go of the cult he's in. Right?
Crowley's flaws are often treated as states of being, while Aziraphale's flaws are treated as moral or intellectual failures.
Crowley drinks because he's hurting, runs because he's scared, gets angry because he's frustrated, lashes out because he's heartbroken, withdraws because he's traumatised. It's all internal. It's about him.
Aziraphale wants to fix things, holds on to hope, seeks safety, hesitates, compromises, finds technicalities. Puts on breaks. The explanation is always - he still hasn't learned. His flaws are things to be fixed from outside. Preferably by Crowley. Who knows everything.
Crowley is described with compassion - why is he acting like this? While Aziraphale is looked at with judgment - why hasn't he figured this out yet? this ends up in people trying to understand Crowley. And correct or fix Aziraphale.
Aziraphale and Crowley go thorugh misunderstandings. Yes. And the fault is always laid on Aziraphale. Why didn't he communicate better? Why didn't he understand what Crowley wanted? Why didn't he fix it? Why didn't he just do what Crowley wanted? What is wrong with him?
Meanwhile the angry rebel gets all the grace. His flaws mean he's true to himself. His anger proves he cares. His recklessness proves he's passionate. His refusal to compromise proves he's principled. His descent to despair proves how much he loves. Right?
Aziraphale never gets the same luxury. He's not happy? He just didn't try hard enough. It's his fault.
Crowley says - let's leave. And everyone thinks, yeah, finally, be free! But Aziraphale always asks - and then what? And everyone goes - booo, you are hurting your demon, finally leave your side silly angel!
Anyway, apologies for the negative post. I'm just tired of everything being explained by - Crowley is a demon after all or he's in love and heartbroken. And everything Aziraphale related by - he's just not learned enough, doesn't understand, still wants to belong to Heaven. How do we fix him?