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Men really have ZERO issue or shame about asking women for ANYTHING. Literally.

Broke men will ask you for money. Boring men will ask you for time, personality and energy. Rich men will ask you for your whole fucking existence. They literally don’t care, and have no shame after doing so. Why do we, as women, feel ashamed about asking men for shit? 

Ever since I started challenging myself to stop feeling that shame (I’m still working through it) my life has literally changed. It doesn’t have to be a POT or a SD you ask either. Practice with ALL men in your life. Practice asking for small and big things. Definitely ask about things that men “promise”. Hold them to their word. 

I recently had a man mention paying my rent. He was being frivolous, but I don’t care. If he does, I win and if he doesn’t and thinks I’m a gold digger/heaux/whatever - I still fucking win because I don’t need him in my life.

It’s never a loss if you test the waters and the guy bounces, because that just means he likely wasn’t worth the time you were going to invest anyways. 

Never let a man or your socialization as a woman in our society guilt you into thinking you can’t ask these men for shit because it looks bad. Fuck all that.

You might not like my answer; but read. Read MULTIPLE works. The goal of manipulation is to change people’s perception of you. 

I feel like everyone recommends Ho Tactics and it seems to have been effective. I couldn’t make it past the first chapter though, so I never read it. The works of Robert Greene have great strategy (The Art of Seduction, 48 Laws of Power, 33 Strategies of War) and are a gateway. 

My advice would be to look into Philosophy, Psychology & Sociology which make up Social Engineering (strategy, deception, etc.). To get the ball rolling, here are some works that I recommend in no particular order:

The Prince – Niccolò Machiavelli

The Art of War – Sun Tzu

Hagakure – Yamamoto Tsunetomo

Strategy - B.H. Liddell Hart

On War - Carl von Clauswitz

Influence: Science and Practice (The Psychology of Persuasion) – Robert Cialdini

How to Win Friends & Influence People – Dale Carnegie

Social Engineering: The Art of Human Hacking – Chris Hadnagy

Covert Persuasion: Psychological Tactics and Tricks to Win the Game – Kevin Hogan & James Speakman

Get Anyone to Do Anything: Never Feel Powerless Again – David J. Lieberman

Genghis Khan and the Making of the Modern World - Jack Weatherford

The Art of Worldly Wisdom - Baltasar Gracián y Morales

It’s Not All About Me: The Top Ten Techniques for Building Quick Rapport with Anyone – Robin Dreeke

What Every BODY is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People – Joe Navarro

Telling Lies: Clues to Deceit in the Marketplace, Politics, and Marriage – Paul Ekman

A very important thing before you even get into manipulation is learning how to control yourself and understanding why you think and act the way you do. Here’s some recommendations:

Positioning: The Battle for Your Mind – Al Ries & Jack Trout

Thinking, Fast and Slow –  Daniel Kahneman

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions – Dan Ariely

The Social Animal – David Brooks

The Laws of Human Nature – Robert Greene

Philosophy also plays a major role. I quite enjoy the works, and apply some of the philosophical outlooks of Thucydides, Seneca the Younger, Marcus Aurelius, Epictetus, and Zeno of Citium. 

I learned from a very young age to make people believe about me exactly what I want them to. I learned how to walk, sit, move, and even eat in a way that makes me seem in complete control of myself and my surroundings, even when I’m feeling completely overwhelmed and out of place. I learned to hide my anxieties and insecurities in a way that everyone thought I was always calm and put together. I also learned how to get people to trust me and tell me everything about them by masterfully displaying those very weaknesses. I’ll share some of my tips tonight, these tips might help you seem in complete control, help you get what you want and even who you want ;)

WHEN YOU’RE ALONE AMONGST A LOT OF PEOPLE - If you’re alone don’t stress about the fact that you are, don’t worry about looking like a loser because you won’t. > When you’re alone be sure to keep your posture. ALWAYS TAKE NOTE OF YOUR POSTURE. I cannot stress how important your posture is. Look up how to keep a proper posture. >Snack slowly and take small bites, small and assured sips of your drink. Not too slow, just measure yourself. > Learn how to strut. When you walk across the room to sit, to snack, or just anywhere, don’t slack on your walking. Chin up, stare straight ahead, perfect posture, and have a very slight smile. The world is your catwalk, and yes people will be paying attention when you least notice it.

WHEN SOMEONE APPROACHES YOU - If they’re a close friend you don’t have to worry much about how to talk to them because you know them, but your behavior still matter. > When talking to them make sure you pay close attention to them and what they’re saying. No extreme reactions, unless they truly said something shocking. > Smile a lot, let others see that you can be approachable. Also, they’re your close friend you should be smiling anyway. - If they’re someone you barely know then just breathe in, smile, release your breath slowly and greet them politely. > Ask then questions about their life you have some knowledge about. Ask about their family, pets, children, partners, work/school, make sure they’re the ones speaking more than you are. - If they’re a stranger wait until they’re immediately in your personal space to acknowledge them, then meet and greet them only after they have directly addressed you. Keep an easy smile on your face, and when meeting them change your smile according to the impression you want to make (dazzling smile to charm, smirk to seduce, smile politely for anyone else). > For strangers you don’t know anything about them, ask them about things you are at least somewhat curious about. Ask them about their current standing in terms of job and or studies. Ask them about family and hobbies. Anything you would like to know or need to know to get some info on them. > Make a lot of eye contact, but not too much, but make sure to keep your attention on them. Make them feel that you care about what they’re saying.

WHEN YOU’RE IN A GROUP Besides all the other things about posture, eye contact and smiling, when you’re in a group this is where the whole “pay them complete attention” does not apply. In a group make sure to pay attention to everyone speaking, let everyone have a turn at your attention. People who were steamrolled out of a conversation you ease them back in either by giving them your attention and let them speak to you directly, or if you’re feeling bold politely call out the person or people who steamrolled over them by calmly stating “I’m sorry to interrupt but [their name] was speaking, I want to know what they were going to say.” Don’t do that if you don’t feel confident, or if you care about possibly offending others, you should still operate within your comfort zone so that you can portray a genuine look of collected confidence.

NOW YOU’RE IN, HOW TO GET THEM TO TRUST YOU - This is when you can start showing people bits of your true self. You should have real stories and anecdotes ready for when you get the chance to use them. - Real stories and anecdotes are crucial because believe it or not people are actually adept at intuitively spotting liars. If the stories and anecdotes are real, with genuine feeling attached to them, they can’t spot any lies because they will be the truth. - Manipulating people is not about lying, it’s about using the truth to your advantage. Avoid lying and avoid exaggerating, so that everything you say and do is genuine. - The stories and anecdotes you use must have some connection to the context of the conversation or the person you’re with. Don’t bust out a story of a dying pet when the person you’re with never even had a pet. Don’t talk about how you once failed an exam when the conversation was about this concert he went to with his friends last week. Talk about things in context, and if you have no material for a certain context then don’t stress, you don’t need to have something to say for everything. For every time you talk to them only share one personal story, avoid using more because then that shows too much of you. - You want to show some humanity, but not too much because you want them to still believe that you’re some ethereal and strong entity that could probably crush them if they cross any lines.

Okay! This is how I incorporate scents into my condo:1) Jasmine and lavender go on my dryer balls before every load of laundry that I dry. Leaves everything lightly scented. 2) I spray my mattress with cinnamon because my holistic friend told me to do it before you put new sheets on the bed. I forgot the reason why but it smells /so/ good. 3) I’ll usually take an eau de parfum and put it on my lingerie. It’s a scent you don’t notice until you’re up close and personal and I love it. 4) I don’t like many candles because too much of a heady scent and I get a headache. However, I have this caramel, honey, and patchouli candle in my condo, and I have three of them, each with like 2-3 wicks. Smelling that thing is heavenly. I think they’re by Alexandra Winbush? 5) Before I vacuum, I put a few drops of essential oils in there so that it lightly diffuses the house. 6) I keep two lemon piles: one for my lemon water and the other after I use the garbage disposal for something that smelled bad. Easy way to freshen up the kitchen. 7) I have a cat, and I ensure that I clean her litterbox often (as in 2-3 times a day) to keep the condo smelling like she doesn’t even exist. I also put this scent thing that’s safe for cats right next to her litter box and it deodorizes all smells like immediately. Forgot what it was called but it’s worth it.

Ladies: please learn how to be submissive. If you act like a man, men will treat you like one. Stop taking life/relationships by the horns and let a man guide. If you keep demanding something then doing it yourself, you’ll appear to not need/want a man at all.

10 Psychological Tricks to Manipulate People

Have you ever got the sense that you’re being manipulated? Whether it’s by a loved one, a salesman, or a coworker, you may not notice when someone is or has been trying to manipulate you.

1. Nod your head

If you want people to agree with you, then all you have to do is nod. In a 1980 study published in the Basic and Applied Psychology journal, scientists found that when people nod while listening to something, they are more likely to agree with it. So if you nod while speaking, the other person may begin to nod as well and start to agree with you, without even knowing it. Nodding your head when asking someone a question will also make them more likely to agree with you or comply with your request.

I’ve realized there are many posts about utilizing manipulation to get what you want, but not really any posts on how, exactly, to manipulate. Here I will attempt to hash out some typical sociopathic tendencies that anyone in the sugar world can use to their advantage. There is a reason these kinds of people are CEOs, world leaders, and all-around powerful people.

 1. Study your target. If a pot is shy, reserved, unsure of himself; or on the flip side he is bold, takes charge, and knows what he wants, then make note of this. Notice the way he texts, the way he speaks on the phone, the way he treats the wait staff, everything. Every nuance of his character. Does he respond to the Boss Bitch or the Sweet Angel type of sugar baby? Does he want the typical girlfriend experience or does he want the fiery vixen?

2. Create a persona. Also called a “mask”. After you’ve figured out what kinds of words and personality type that your pot responds positively to, study up on a real life or fictional character that best displays those traits that you are going to emulate. Learn the way they turn a phrase. Learn their facial expressions. Learn how they dress. The more exaggerated these things/actions, the better.

For example, your pot likes a woman in charge. Someone who has her life together. A Boss Bitch. So let’s go with Beyonce - how does she treat the men in her life? What are her facial expressions when she’s pleasantly surprised? Affectionate? Scared? What is her day-to-day speech like? The phrases she uses? How does she dress? Is she sweet and kind, or does she shrug off the haters? For this pot, you are going to become his own personal Beyonce.

3. Lure him in with your emulated demeanor. Turn up the charm. Use your stunning ability to read your pot like a book. In fact, turn up so much charm it becomes obvious. Tell him exactly what he wants to hear. ALWAYS be assessing him for ways to cater to his psyche. Disarm him with how perfect you are for him. Pay attention to his needs, and give it to him. Act like you were MADE for him. You were BORN for him. You are perfect for him, and he will never meet anybody like you.

“Do not forget anything you have said to him or what he thinks you are”

I’d like to get to a point in which I no longer have to rely on a web-presence and simply have a select few clients that sponsor my lifestyle. This is achievable and I’m working towards it.

Almost every single day of my tour — with the exception of a few busy ones from pre-bookings, multi-hours, and my lazy days — I’ve gone out to freestyle and I have yet to have an unseccessful day.

I think I figured out early on that the clientele I’m aiming for — the type that wouldn’t bat an eye at my rates, and would want to see me for hours on end — are not going to find me on the web because I don’t have a large presence, and because they simply aren’t looking online. They meet people very traditionally.

Freestyling is the way to go, especially if you’re within a large international city that brings in a multitude of people within different industries.

If you’re ever having a slow day or week with bookings from online requests, just simply go out. There will be, at the very least, one client who will see you right away. This is how escorts did their thing back in the day, and I now understand why it was so profitable.

I simply go out to places that interest me — and that will attract the clientele I’m after — and sit myself down (or walk around depending on where I am). At some point, I spark up conversation with someone and allow things to flow. At the end of the conversation, they will either allude to the fact that they want to see me again, ask to see me right away, or will leave if they’re headed elsewhere. If they seem to be in a hurry or in a position in which they aren’t able to see me right away, I hand them my business card and take theirs in exchange. I think it’s already assumed that I’m an escort, but once they access my website they’ll have all of the confirmation they need. And because I was so charming and alluring during out brief encounter, they become enamoured with the idea of seeing me again and getting together. And you know what that translates to? Multi-hour, overnight, or whole day bookings. A win in my books.

Take yourself out from time to time and witness the difference.

It’s as simple as acquiring information that you find useful for yourself or is of interest to you. Start probing into topics you’ve always wanted to know more about. Acquire information through research, reading, listening, interactions with others, experiences, etc.

You’ll need to be a little more specific when referring to “the arts”. The field of study alone includes: • literature — drama, poetry, prose, etc.• performing arts — dance, music, theatre, etc.• visual arts — architecture, drawing, painting, photography, sculpting, etc.

I’m assuming you meant Art History. There’s an art history basics course on Khan Academy that will teach you a lot. While you’re at it, please consider donating to the site to support so that it can continue to provide free course content for years to come!

Below are the topics covered in the Khan Academy course. 

I, too, love seeing black women prosper and living their best lives!

The parties and show you mentioned are usually exclusive and are very hard albeit not impossible to get into. I have no experience with the Emmy’s, so I can’t answer that for you. I do, however, have experience with NYFW and have previously attended. 

NYFW is not really something you can say “Oh I want to go this year!” the week it starts. It takes planning usually 3 months in advance.

There are two types of NYFW shows: industry shows, and open-to-the-public shows. Industry shows are typically reserved for buyers and press, but worry not, you have some options. 

Before I get into specifics, perhaps look into become a fashion blogger, influencer, working for a magazine, or a PR firm to get a head start and increase your chances. You have to start somewhere small and gradually work your way up. Unless you’re fucking the right person with the right connections, you will not get in right away. 

If you can make it to the shows, then you can make it to the after parties. Don’t try to crash them because they’re even tougher to get into. 

This is literally a guide from a quick search. 

I mainly trade forex and some crypto. 

Sites or books? 

Forex - babypips 

Crypto - Udemy, Blockgeeks, Youtube

I learned forex trading on babypips School of Pipsology, went through the entire course and read books related to trading such as Japanese Candlestick charting, Fibonacci retracement, position sizing, string trading, etc. I practiced on a demo account for a while before getting a broker and using my own real money to purchase units to trade.

Crypto trading isn’t actually all that different from traditional forex trading, but I also took a Udemy course and purchased a Blockgeeks subscription — they were kind of useless to me because the trading mechanisms were so similar to what I already knew. You can learn the basics from YouTube as well. First learn about the blockchain, purchase some crypto and go on from there.

I learned stock and index trading in school. Many of my courses covered portfolio management, capital budgets, investment strategies, fundamental analysis, financial modelling, etc.