I went to a trans meetup yesterday where, not only was I made to reveal and say aloud my deadname by a (cis queer) bartender who ID'd me (while knowing I was there for the trans event), but also on three separate occasions different trans men referred to groups of trans women I was in as "guys".
And I had a really good time! I think having only 4 explicitly transphobic or transmisogynistic things happen to me at a social event is just so unusually low that it feels like a relief if anything. If I'm lucky, one day I'll go to an event where nothing bad happens at all, and it will be incredible.



















