Spoken as someone who used to consider believe that you have to have dysphoria and be taking hormones to be authentically transgender,
the Transmed philosophy is so incredibly harmful for the transgender community.
Ignoring the obvious like the fact that not everyone can medically transition if they wanted too (for economic, social, or medical reasons) which already makes this movement seem out of touch, because in order to believe in this you have to create a definition of transgenderism which intentionally excludes massive demographics within the community.
even more than that is that you genuinely have to believe you know more about peoples lived experience and situation than they themselves know. People know better than you what is going on in their lives, for you it might have been the right decision to medically transition but that doesn’t mean that anyone who decides against it is less than you in any way.
Everyone who wants to go on hormones should 100% be able to and it really is disheartening to hear about people who are not able to for a number of ways, but it does not mean that it is necessary.
For me, I never felt worse than when I ardently believe this. It was always what I needed to do next and that I was never good enough, when you believe that you never give yourself time to feel good about how far you’ve came.
The best way to help your community is not to tear other trans people down, if there is an issue with any part of the trans community it is with people who choose to turn their own insecurities on other people.
In the words of a great orator “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you going to love somebody else”













