☆ a-spec and trans/nb ☆

i’m glad you sent me this ask because i felt something similar a while ago, and wasn’t brave enough to tell anyone. i completely understand feeling like an afab trans girl, it’s a natural result of feeling any sort of disconnection from womanhood. sometimes we can feel like we’re trans when we identify as our assigned gender at birth because we have to reclaim that gender. it is, in a way, a transition. you can identify however you want, but try to think hard about why you’d choose to identify as an afab trans girl. is it because you don’t wanna be cis? it it because you feel fundamentally different from other cis girls? like you experience womanhood in a different way than they do? maybe it’s not your label that you need to work on, but your relationship to your gender, yourself, and to womanhood. cis people can feel dysphoric, especially cis lesbians because they tend to feel like they’ve been exiled from traditional womanhood/femininity since it’s so centered around being attractive and submissive to men. personally, when i felt like this i realized that i had to fix my relationship with womanhood, and the idea of what it meant to be trans/cis. thank you for sending me this ask and please feel free to send another ask or a dm if you need anything else

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detach urself from what u think u ‘should’ want. get rid of thinking things like “i can tolerate being with a man/woman/etc.” what are u actually attracted to? what do u want for real? forget “i could be with __.” if it’s real attraction, it wont feel forced at all and u couldn't ignore it if u tried. if there werent any labels or expectations or stigmas around anything, who would u daydream about? thats ur answer.