In kindergarten, they had this fake flower that they called The Peace Flower. Whenever you were having a disagreement with someone, you went and got The Peace Flower and gave it to them. They were supposed to take it, and then you hugged and made up and were friends again.
Once we got a note from an upset kindergarten teacher about an incident with The Peace Flower. I wanted to give her the opportunity to explain what happened.
"Ariana and I were having an argument and she wouldn't listen and she was mad at me. So I went and got The Peace Flower and gave it to her. Only she wouldn't take it! I told her she had to take it, but she wouldn't! I tried several times and told her that that was the rule: You *have* to take it! But she wouldn't!
...so I hit her with it!"
(the note had said "student hit her friend with The Peace Flower")
So forever after that, it became an inside joke in our house (and with close friends) where a story would end with "So I hit her with The Peace Flower!"
Dang. We had none of the peace initiatives at our kindergarten. The other kids and I would just flail at each other with our lunchboxes. Stuff got settled.
#the best thing i've seen lately on this is 'don't force nice. teach manners.' #and i think that is the most civil thing you can teach a child. #yeah i might hate your guts but i will still be civil to you. but don't take advantage. #i plan on teaching that to Baby A.
Keeping Baby B as the control?
























