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Avoidant Attachment is usually the result of emotional neglect or having to prioritize the emotions of others in adolescence that develops into a discomfort or fear around emotional vulnerability or intimacy that is exclusive to relationships such as romance, friendship, or familial bonds. What triggers the avoidancy is people usually being too clingy, emotionally needy—high-maintenance partners who require higher validation and support needs that can make the individual feel as though they are being depended on—where their own emotional needs are yet again being neglected or put second in comparison to the partner—the emotional stability of the partner being reliant on the individual, causing the discomfort and avoidancy.

PDA is a neurobiological response that is triggered by any kind of demand or expectation for control for the sake of protecting autonomy on the basis of extreme anxiety, a genuine nervous system response, where even tasks you WANT to complete feel impossible/unable to complete if they are demanded, typically co-existing with executive dysfunction and effect your day to day life, not just exclusive to relationships. It is a feeling of being genuinely paralyzed by demands and expectations that result in avoidance or flat out refusal.

Avoidance: "Depending on me makes me uncomfortable and pull away. I am uncomfortable with emotional vulnerability, intimacy, and people depending on me as a result of how I was treated as a child."

PDA: "Demands and expectations make me shut down and mentally paralyzed, so I avoid them or refuse them. Don't pressure me, or I will pull away from you as well, as you are a trigger. I enjoy things like intimacy, and I am okay with emotional vulnerability, but when it is demanded of me or turns into an expectation, that is when I avoid. It has to be my decision with no pressure or expectation."

There's a guy on YouTube that asks his friend, "what is ___ in japanese" for a few different words, and the other guy gives words that all sound or are written the same way, and all of the comments are like "This sounds so complicated, how are you able to tell which word is the right one to use and when?" CONTEXT. DEFINITIONS.

What do you call a piece of something? A part.

What is it called when you separate two things? Also part.

What is the past tense of wind? Wound.

What is another word for ending up somewhere? You WOUND up there.

A single word for they are? They're.

A possessive, genderless term? Their.

A word to describe a destination? There.

A word to describe someone who lives in poverty? Poor.

An act of distrubuting one liquid into another location? Pour.

A word to describe someone who may be off or different? Odd.

A synonym for the word chance? Odd.

Salazar, Davey, Jack, Jack's father, Blackbeard, Barbossa, they can ALLLLL get it

It all boils down to: "Yeah that sounds fine but why would I ever do that instead of what I want to do."

But this only applies to romance as well. I'm the complete opposite when it comes to platonic connections.

Sort of

I keep in touch

Sometimes

Every trans person has that one unconventional gender affirming thing they do/experience that has nothing to do with social perception or passing culture.

There is no "golden rule" on what is supposed to be gender affirming and what isn't, and while you might feel more gender affirmation through clothes and passing culture, not every trans person operates that way.

Applejack: "Drumming up business at the gala could help me afford my grandmother's much needed hip replacement. The roof of MY HOME is also falling apart, and we have a broken plow. That money would definitely be put to good use."

Rainbowdash: "I want to go to show off for the glorified air force, and once they see how awesome I am, of course they'll immediately pick me."

Pinkiepie: "The gala is a giant party, and even though I have parties, like, every day, this party is bigger than the average party, so I should be the one to go."

Rarity: "I want to go to find a man. Everyone will love me. Even Celestia will love me, and Celestia will introduce me to a prince where we'll have a royal wedding."

Fluttershy: "I don't really wanna go inside, I just wanna stay in the garden with the animals and flowers. Yes my house is already surrounded with flowers and my house is already filled with animals, but this is technically different."

Twilight: "Oh goodness! Everyone seems to have perfectly equal valid reasons to go!"

Gems can withstand significantly more damage than humans can, and Pearl was out here telling this 13 year old human girl to be prepared to basically sacrifice her life if it meant protecting Steven, and back then, Steven wasn't even fully "Steven" in Pearl's eyes. She was still seeing Steven as Rose. Pearl was deadass telling 13 year old Connie to go kill herself to save what remains of her own weak ass thousand-year lesbian situationship.

Something that I don't think a lot of people understand is that kids in the "gifted" class were primarily neurodivergent kids. I still remember the test they gave us in kindergarten, where they had us describe pictures. Most kids would give simple words for what was in the picture. Gifted kids would come up with more adjectives or creative phrases, thinking outside the box.

Some kids passed because they were genuinely smarter than the average kid, and some kids passed because they had a different way of thinking and processing information.

Gifted class for neurotypical children was just a fun break from regular classes. Solving puzzles, riddles, and doing arts and crafts.

Gifted class for neurodivergent children was training us to learn different methods of education (hands on learning, deductive/inductive reasoning, memory based learning, thinking outside the box) in order to prepare us for higher grade levels where we'd inevitably need a 504 plan for a learning disability, to where we'd already developed what education method helps us learn better due to the jumpstart gifted class gave us.

I promise you. The only people who think that being a "gifted kid" is a flex are those who didn't need gifted class.