tortapane

I'm so familiar with how people (mostly with the worldview of "everything is good, nothing is bad (even in response to bad), don't react acutely, you can't do anything negative, you should just ignore it") shamed?? me for showing negative emotions, for reacting sharply to things that hurt me, for not sublimating my negativity in my work or something else, but openly expressing it

I don't know if I can call it shame, but every time I openly express dissatisfaction and enter into discussions with people who hurt me, there are people who reproach me for this and say that I should spend this energy not on arguments, but on creativity or any other sublimation.

and I can't say that I think the policy of these people is absolutely wrong – I admire them to some extent and, perhaps, strive for the same level of immunity; but on the other hand, they usually don't judge the person who is hurting me, but me (or another person) for the reaction.

I get even angrier for reacting to this when they try to teach me how to manage my emotions and what to spend them on, who to react to and who not to.