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how can I start creating a system map and/or headspace?
Headspace help
System mapping help
Please let me know if you have any other questions!
Thanks! I think I'll keep with anon, because my blog is an extension from her main one. Anyway could you clarify the distinction between co-conciousness and being able to hear your alter in your head? She just 3 weeks ago started communication with a second alter. Whenever the alter she initially only had contact with was out they'd be co-con. So I guess i assume they were the same thing? When looking it up I saw they are seperate definitions. But I'm still confused. Sorry if I sound stupid. :3
Co-con is when multiple alters are aware of what’s going on/watching what’s going on at a time. They may not be aware of each other and may not have control over the body.
Being able to hear an alter internally is just a form of communication.
So there’s overlap but they’re not the same thing. Not a stupid question! Feel free to ask anything else!
whats the diff b/w fragments and alters if there is any?
Fragments are missing most of the core parts of identity and aren’t distinct. “The inner child” is an example of a fragment, they’re pretty common in trauma therapy.
Fragments are missing most of: name, age, identity separate from the core, interests, history, memories, unique/multiple moods, etc.
Fully distinct alters will have most of the above. While fragments can usually be integrated in trauma therapy very naturally, alters require different therapy to integrate and it’s not necessarily possible for all systems. You shouldn’t have amnesia with fragments and they shouldn’t feel as unlike you/separate from you as alters feel. I hope this makes sense.
My boyfriend has DID and I feel like some of his alters love me and some don't... how could I develop a positive relationship with the ones that don't? Would this affect us??
This is pretty normal!
You wouldn’t expect your boyfriend’s entire family to love you right away, nor would you expect to have the same relationship with all of them. Similarly, it’s not realistic to expect an entire system to have the same dating relationship with you! And that’s okay and normal, it shouldn’t drive you guys apart.
With his consent and help, start by learning about each of these alters. Interacting with each of them when they front, or sending things to your boyfriend to show them, can help you build an individual relationship with them. Learning about the system will be your best step to building these relationships! Again, I wouldn’t worry about it too much- this is normal and it’ll take a little bit of time.
Any alters that you feel hate you are likely to be alters that are trying to keep your boyfriend safe by not letting others get close to him. Showing over time that you’re safe and patient will help you get through to them! Take it slow and don’t take things too personally. Let me know if you have any other questions!

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Things I wish people understood about systems
- If one alter knows about a trauma and another alter doesn’t, do not tell them about the trauma. Ever. There’s a reason they don’t remember.
- If you’re close with an alter and they suddenly stop fronting for a while, understand that it’s likely not your fault. Even if they want to front, sometimes they just can’t.
- If you hurt a little in any way at all, expect a protector to come and promptly get angry. They can’t help it, it’s their job.
- LITTLES ARE CHILDREN
- If you wouldn’t do/say something to an actual child don’t do it to a little
- Understand that not all alters will have the same feelings for you
- alters are people not just personalities
Multiple System Ask Meme
1) How many system members are there?
2) Youngest member? Oldest?
3) Any friendships within the system?
4) Any relationships within the system?
5) Does your system have a name?
6) Any fictives or factives in the system?
7) What does the headspace/inner world look like? Is it just one building/area, several, or more?
8) Do members have separate rooms/areas? Does anyone share a room?
9) Any unused rooms/areas?
10) Unexplored rooms/areas?
11) Who likes/dislikes being in the headspace/inner world?
12) Any members who never leave the headspace/inner world?
13) What do members do in the headspace?
14) Is anyone religious? What are their religions?
15) Who cofronts the most often (what group/pair)?
16) Are there any otherkin in the system?
17) What is something that system members have very different opinions on?
18) Does anyone talk with a different voice in the outer world? In the inner world?
19) Favourite part of the inner world/headspace?
20) Least favourite part of the inner world/headspace?
21) Running jokes within the system?
I figured I’d do this in honor of 1,100 followers! Thanks so much, everyone!
-Liberty
3 types of self soothing thoughts
Validation: it’s ok that I hurt and want to feel better
Reassurance: I can handle this pain even though it hurts
Perspective taking: I’ve had bad days like this before and I’ve made it through them. I can remember my better days and know I’m not always hurting this much
Switching Characteristics
headache
pressure inside the head
stiff neck - (usually not as intense as with memory retrieval)
pressure at the base of the head - (less intense than with memory retrieval)
pupil dilation
pressure behind the eyes
blurry vision - (clears, then becomes blurry)
eyes become - (watery or glassy, glazed in appearance), (eyes can also appear reddened without memory retrieval. Reddened eyes without memory symptoms means that a part is functioning that has repressed materials attached to it.)
eyes more sensitive to light
lightheadedness or dizziness
chills
ears ring
emotionally feeling more child-like
mood swing - a change in mood
thought pattern change - thoughts change about same subject and your response changes with it
feelings and emotions change - change about same situation
objects and people look different - dimensions are off, colors can look brighter or dimmer
body looks and feels detached
face looks and feels detached
face looks different in the mirror
laughter changes - different laughs, subtle different to flagrant
light in a room changes to suddenly brighter or dimmer
fainting feelings - physically like you might lose consciousness
inability to concentrate and think clearly
urgency to “do something”
thoughts become louder
orchestra of thoughts or “conversations,” all with opposing views
I think this doesn’t limit other symptoms like
Physical energy drain
Mental energy drain
Twitching
Spaceyness
But it might be less common in other systems. These are the ones we experienxe along with headaches and image distortion at least
-A
My friend with OSDD gets nausea just before/after each switch
wow dating is a fuck when ur a system
Hey system in a happy relationship here, and I thought I might chime in with some thoughts in case anyone is looking for support/advice!
Communication with your system and your/your alter’s partner(s) is really important. This means being clear about who’s seeing who (if alters are dating different people, including in system relationships) so your partner knows what they can expect. It’s being clear to your partner that, by dating you, they won’t always have you around. Sometimes someone else will be upfront!
It’s also being clear that awkward things are going to happen as a result of being a system. Like accidentally kissing the wrong alter before they had a chance to tell you it was them. Or a little getting triggered during an intimate encounter. You saying one thing and your legs doing another thing cause another alter has control of your legs at the moment haha.
Setting boundaries with your system is important too. I’m currently the only one in an out-of-system relationship, but if one of us falls for someone, there are some ground rules. Maybe these can help you all to know!
During sexual intimacy: all alters must either use adequate protection or their partner needs to have a full STD panel/no risk
If an alter has a crush: They’ve gotta share it with us when they’re ready and before making a move on their crush. This way, I can communicate to my girlfriend that an alter is falling for someone and we can start to discuss how it may impact our relationship.
We all agree that we’re allowed to pursue our own love lives, so long as we’re open about it and our intentions and the person isn’t abusive/unhealthy (like actively seeking out someone abusive, not accidentally situations that happen obviously).
We have to share time: If in the future more than one of us is in a physical relationship, we have to all be willing to (as equally as possible) share the amount of time we spend with our respective partners. My girlfriend knows that she may have to share this time with someone else another alter likes, since communication is really good in our relationship! Definitely talk about these possibilities from the get go.
Although this is something we’re all encouraged to avoid, if an alter gets swept up in a moment and has a safe but intimate encounter (without the system knowing beforehand) they have to tell us all at their earliest ability. That way I, for instance, could tell me girlfriend and she’s clear that was another alter, not me, for instance and that alter (if needed) could apologize to anyone hurt by the sudden unexpected action. Freedom is allowed in this way, though, so if another alter had an unexpected encounter with someone we know that’s okay to have happen–just very preferred to talk about it first.
We’re allowed to share the same partner. If two of us want to be intimate with or date the same person, and the person is okay with it, that’s cool with us! Like one of my alters might be friends with benefits with my girlfriend (hypothetically) in the future and that’s an agreed upon okay thing for us.
I’d also encourage your alters to get to know your partner. Look for a partner who’s accepting and open to this too! With DID (and any mental illness tbh) respect of your disorder is so essential to having a healthy and happy relationship with another person.
I’m totally up for answering asks about DID and relationships (or DID and whatever haha)!
This might be helpful for anybody out there in a System x Singlet relationship 😁

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How to Get Over Regrets
1. You can’t change what happened as yesterday is gone - but you can make some choices so the future turns out better.
2. We all have regrets – it is part of being human. There’s no-one who is perfect, or who does things perfectly.
3. See it as a life lesson, and something you can learn from. Good can come from your regrets if you’ll let them change your ways.
4. See yourself as a new person … As a person you believe in …. As someone you are proud of, and as someone who you like.
5. Practise self-compassion and give yourself a break. You still deserve to be loved … it doesn’t matter what you’ve done.
6. That was then – and this it now …. Let it go and look ahead … For you can’t change your future if you’re always looking back.
Are You Dissociating?
Dissociating is one of the most common responses to abuse and trauma. It involves feeling numb, detached or unreal and (while it happens to everyone once in a while) is experienced more frequently and severely in survivors. Dissociating people vary widely in symptoms and may experience any or all of the things from the following list.
You may be dissociating if you:
find yourself staring at one spot, not thinking anything
feel completely numb
feel like you’re not really in your body, like you’re watching yourself in a movie.
feel suddenly lightheaded or dizzy
lose the plot of the show or conversation you were focused on
feel as if you’re not quite real, like you’re in a dream
feel like you’re floating
suddenly feel like you’re not a part of the world around you
feel detached and far away from other people, who may seem mechanical or unreal to you
are very startled when someone/something gets your attention
completely forget what you were thinking just a moment ago
suddenly cover your face or react as if you’re about to be hurt for no reason
can’t remember important information about yourself, like your age or where you live
find yourself rocking back and forth
become very focused on a small or trivial object or event
find that voices, sounds or writing seem far away and you sometimes have trouble understanding them.
feel as if you’ve just experienced a flashback (perhaps rapidly) but you can’t remember anything about it.
perceive your body as foreign or not belonging to you
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To my anon asking about dissociation. I hope you see this.
I thought dissociation was only when I have straight up out of body experiences turns out I’m dissociated like 99% of the time lmso
This is really good
Honestly, Discussing Dissociation is one of our favorite sources for information on DID
how to treat yourself on a low budget
bc let’s be honest: not everyone can afford Lush products, here are some low budget ways to feel great 1. do u have a banana? awesome mash that shit in your hair, let it sit for 15 minutes then wash it out with cool water. now u got some silky tresses girl 2. u got some coconut or olive oil? fuckin rad dude, massage that shit anywhere u don’t feel super smooth!!!! including hair *woah* 3. target has some awesome face masks that are like 99¢ and are awesome 10/10 would recommend 4. make some Annie’s Mac n cheese holy shit that stuff is awesome 5. buy some cheap Epsom salts like really really cheep and dump that shit in a bath and soak u lovely motherfucker 6. make a smoothie and drink it bc yum and also not too expensive u don’t need organic food for a delicious smoothie 7. green tea is awesome bc it tastes great, speeds up ur metabolism, and if u put ur face over u brewing cuppa it opens up your pores anddddd if u put the tea bag over ur eyes it gets rid of those dark circles from staying up watching friends 8. open up spotify and play some cheesy music 9. drink a shit ton of water it’s great for u 10. that cucumber on ur eyes shit works guys 11. just take a nap 12. look up yoga for beginners and do a class and donT feel bad if u can’t do all the poses it’s meant to be fun treat yourself nice my darlings love you
“people look at their phones 2 much in public places!”
u have no idea what that person is looking at it may very well be their dissertation, the last letter they got from their grandma, or a book that’s too big to carry. who care that they wanna look at insta more than at u
people used to be bored/self-isolating in public w/newspapers + books don’t act like we were all chatty + friendly before the internet
ppl w/anxiety find it comforting and this generation has the highest rate of anxiety on record
on that note, phones are transitional objects, which means that they function as a comfort device (a piece of “home” in an unfamiliar place)
go touch a soft animal and calm down

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Emotional Wellness
If you want to boost your emotional health then build the following into your life: 1. Develop a good group of friends. If possible, try and have quite a wide group of friends. That then means if someone moves away, or you change your school, your hobbies and so on, you’ll still a healthy support system in place. 2. Learn to appreciate solitude. Isolation isn’t the same as solitude. Isolation is being cut off from others for negative reasons; solitude is enjoying space and time for yourself – so you can recharge your batteries, and enjoy just being “you”. 3. Invest time in getting fit. People who are fit and healthy generally feel better about themselves. Also, exercise releases feel good hormones so we feel happier, more optimistic and relaxed. 4. Allow yourself to “goof off” and have a laugh – as too much work will drain your energy. 5. Discover your passion and invest time in that. We all have something that brings us alive, and seems to resonate with who we are inside … So investing in your passion is extremely satisfying! 6. Plan for difficulties and problems. We all encounter problems and hard times in this life. Expecting that to happen helps us feel more in control - as we understand it’s normal - so we don’t just fall apart. 7. Work on increasing your self-awareness. As above, we all have blind spots and idiosyncrasies. If we can learn about ourselves, and our natural tendencies, we can learn to master weaknesses, and work to change and grow. 8. Be willing to take risks. Though it’s hard to step out into unknown territory, you’ll find it’s more rewarding to stretch yourself and grow. 9. Watch out for energy vampires. There are plenty of people who will drain your energy so learn how to say “no”, and to set some boundaries. 10. Ask for help when you need it. We all need support and encouragement at times … And offer help to others when things are tough for them.
“your kid needs your attention, not adhd meds!”
“maybe we can talk about how with the internet there are more diagnoses of adhd now, and how the internet is rewiring our brains…”
“medicating childhood: the hoax of adhd”
literally all things ive seen in the past fucking WEEK let me out of this hell
i can debunk this all in a flash
adhd is a neurodevelopmental disorder, and develops around 12 years old. given that, and how many diagnosed adhd adults there are, including elders, this is something that predates the internet
adhd is genetic, so despite an attention given from parent to child, it’s incredibly likely that at least one of the parents or other relatives also has adhd
oh yes, and let’s not forget the myth that adhd symptoms are synonymous with child behavior. but adhd isn’t just hyperactivity - in fact, hyperactivity doesn’t always present itself. in addition to hyperactivity, other symptoms include:
echolalia
poor memory
racing/scattered thoughts
slowed social development (around 30%)
difficulty understanding tasks/organizing them into steps
struggles understanding time management
impulsive acts (impulsive spending is a major issue with many of us)
difficulty managing emotions, especially anger
easily bored (and boredom leads to greater frustration than others)
TROUBLE SLEEPING. many adhd people spend their entire lives not getting good sleep because of the constant “noise” in their heads. see the scattered thoughts. basically, the thoughts are always going. there is no shut off switch. insomnia is largely prevalent with adhd
losing details (like getting poor grades because you missed the fine print on a test even with knowing the material)
struggles with listening comprehension (words sound like nonsense)
struggles with reading comprehension (words look like nonsense)
memorization issues - a child skilled in math will have trouble with multiplication tables, for example
has trouble “waiting their turn” in conversation - frequently interrupts without realizing
hyperfocus - an often overlooked aspect, when one focuses to the exception of all other external stimuli, including needing to eat, sleep, etc. time almost ceases to exist
not a symptom, but adhd - especially adult adhd - is highly comorbid with anxiety disorders and depression later in life. this is because a person with adhd is working their heart out to achieve the same standards, contrary to the believe that they’re “lazy.” as you can see above, almost every aspect of daily life is impacted - social, work, school, family, money… and this can lead to a feeling of being unable to cope.
despite all that, people with adhd are also:
more solution-oriented
more resilient
more expressive
more curious
and better at multitasking - not just because of having to learn how to manage the other symptoms, but these are, in fact, also symptoms. you can imagine how useful hyperfocus can be as well.
i wrote all this because i really want people to understand me and understand how this all works. and i want misunderstandings to stop so people can respect who i am.