advice that has literally saved and improved my life

You’re not depressed. You just need $250,000 in your bank account.

Reblog to materialize $250,000 in prev's bank account

there's this phenomenon i've noticed on youtube which i dub "man math" which is when men STEM-ify hobbies/activities/art forms in order to make them more masculine. it's very noticeable in the cooking video sphere where there's an endless stream of videos made by men along the lines of "the SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN best way to cook an egg" (and dgmw, i watch them and find them helpful, but the observation stands), but i notice it also in the way men approach ceramics (a lot of focus on mold-making and slip-casting to perfection, basically reinventing one man mass-production rather than play and discovery), tailoring/sewing/knitting/textile art, gardening and other nature-oriented hobbies, interior decor, furniture making and woodworking, journaling/planning/productivity, even drawing and painting, there's always some man math angle to it that although interesting it often strikes me as some sort of overcompensation to move away from the inherent vulnerability that comes with art making and once you notice it it's literally everywhere

yeah it’s probably better to just show up as you are than to never do so because you’re waiting for the right time… but also, sometimes it is better to wait until you feel a little less tired or less sick, and pushing yourself too hard is never the answer to get things done. there is nuance in everything and sometimes the reason you haven’t started doing something you want to do isn’t because you’re “just lazy” but it’s because you’re exhausted beyond belief

sometimes you are sick and burned out, and sometimes you are just being a perfectionist, and the worst part about that is that perfectionism often plays a huge part in making people burn themselves out so quickly. at the end of the day getting things done in a way that is manageable and self-compassionate is better than not trying at all if you cannot have a perfect outcome. getting things done is good enough.

good morning to the beaten and the damned only

I really can and will blame the 9-5 for everything. "We're in a loneliness epidemic" well, we have to spend a third of our day interacting with people in a professional way that makes forming real friendships difficult and then we're peopled out by the time we're done. "People are eating more and more unhealthily" people have to spend more than a third of their day doing work related tasks and they don't want to spend their tiny amount of free time making food. "People aren't involved in their local communities" after spending more than a third of their day doing work related things people are tired and also all those community events take place during normal working hours. "People need to get more hobbies" after spending more than a third of their day working, people are TIRED and don't want to do anything that takes yet more energy. "Literacy is dying" to maintain your critical thinking skills you need to read/watch things that make you think and after spending more than a third of your day doing work related stuff you are TIRED and don't want to expend even more brainnpower. "People need to get outside more" People. Are. TIRED. Because they have to spend all of their time working or preparing for work or recovering from work or doing all the chores they couldn't stay on top of because of work. I can blame fucking anything on having to work, it is truly the root of all fucking evil.

(flirting) i could be your problem

I could be the monkeys to your circus.

how the hell do people work full time AND work out. and also eat. i feel like a dvd player

pushing back against oldest child stereotypes by making unwise choices and not being dependable

the version of you from five years ago would be genuinely amazed by what you’ve handled since then. sit with that for a second