advice that has literally saved and improved my life

man sometimes friendship really is just "I saw this and knew it would give you psychic damage. please respond with agony" and then they do. and it's great

"I've got this theory that a lot of "gay" men may actually just be traumatized by their overbearing mothers and sexual abuse and adopting a "homosexual" identity instead of freeing themselves through therapy and a good wife.... I just can't prove it yet!"

drinking a beer in a hammock in the sun realizing maybe i don't have to hit myself with hammers every day forever just some or most days

Gumby did not say that

he said this you son of a bitch

Noobnouns vs pronouns vs hackernouns

What helped me write trauma better is remembering that the nervous system learns predictions. If danger used to come after quiet, calm can feel threatening. If kindness used to come with a price, kindness can feel suspicious. So healing is not just “they know they’re safe now.” Healing is the slow, annoying, deeply unfair process of teaching the body that the old prediction is not always the present truth.