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it's been said a thousand times but "male loneliness epidemic" is just our entire generation's loneliness PANdemic. it's just the crisis of capitalism. almost all young people these days are lonely and depressed because of the crisis and decay of the system we live under and tbh the centering of "male loneliness" in this discussion is embarrassing but also a really understandable consequence of sexism & this current stage of culture war . "Oh won't someone think of the young men" oh won't someone think about class consciousness lol

why are we so obsessed with pretending like the patriarchy doesn't benefit men. why are we so obsessed with erasing the fact that men don't want to fight against the patriarchy because they don't want to lose their privileges. like what does this fucking willful ignorance and pretending everything is sunshine and rainbows going to do with the global femicide rate and increasingly invasive laws against trans women and their transitioning and the fact that women are next to never believed when bringing allegations forward against a man and instead are slandered far and wide and in some cases even psychologically tormented in the press. what is pretending going to do about the fact that women get paid less than men, women are blamed for it when men stalk and assault them, there are still places where girls aren't allowed to go to school? like what the fuck is pretending that men don't benefit from the patriarchy going to do about all of that other than lead you through the tall grass and ignoring the real issues here????

When the average heterosexual family man complains about his family not respecting him, it is almost always because there is absolutely nothing about him to respect and he has made no effort to connect with any of them and he considers the slightest pushback or lack of affection a sign of ‘disrespect’. When the average heterosexual family woman complains about her family not respecting her, it’s usually because her 14 year old son keeps calling her a bitch and throwing things at her while her husband laughs. The difference is so fucking stark.

also, many women/people experience controlling behaviour and domestic violence from their partner for the first time during pregnancy. don’t risk thinking “he’s just stressed, it’ll get better when the baby comes” because it won’t. neither you and your child will ever be safe with that man. get out as early and safely as you can

just got kicked out of the omelas DEI office for asking why there are no former torture kids on the board

they told me they had a "lived experience" subcommittee but it was just the torture kids' parents. tf.

So what I think is that there's this default belief in patriarchy that men are superior to women and therefore the "masculine" sphere is superior to the "feminine" sphere. And so, as feminists have fought to expand the number of allowable female activities, men (on the aggregate over generations) have retreated from those activities because they're now seen as "feminine", and so partaking in them is incommensurate with their belief in their own superiority. And, unfortunately, as this has progressed, this has resulted in a lot of men sectioning themselves off from, frankly, everything that actually makes being alive worthwhile. It's a misery spiral, and the only way out is to abandon male supremacy.

It’s so telling that, both now and historically, one of men’s biggest fears is being treated how they want women to be treated. Being forced to cook, clean, and singlehandedly take care of a household is only demeaning when a man has to do it.

"Have you considered that men can also have problems?" Sweetie, I have access to youtube like everyone else. I have indeed been recommended a ten-hour ramble about how universal human experiences are Men's Issues at least twice.

A lot of women are actually very aware of how men can have problems. This, in part, happens because society tends to place the responsibility for dealing with any given guy's problems on the nearest woman, who also has to deal with her own problems on top of that.