Penis Creatures DNI

A few months ago, I asked a man in the hospital waiting room - in the ENT department, for extra audacity points - if he could please use headphones, and he said 'no, I don't have any,' and when I said 'well, no-one else here wants to hear it,' he just shrugged and said 'but I do.' He kept listening to it without even turning it down, and everyone else just rolled their eyes and muttered about what a prick he was. A middle-aged woman once told me that I needed to 'mind my own business' for asking her just to turn it down, because she was listening to it at full volume, and then she proceeded to loudly bitch about my appearance with her daughter for a solid 5 minutes, interspersed with direct suggestions that I should sincerely consider fucking off, and it was only when everyone else in the train carriage confirmed that they, too, had been pissed off by her behaviour that she stopped yelling at me and sat back in her seat with a face like a smacked arse. And once, I asked a bunch of teenagers on the train if they could turn it down, and they started filming me and told me they'd make me 'TikTok famous', which frankly excited me in the moment, but has since sorely disappointed me because I've yet to become a household name.

It really is almost like, y'all are the ones who want us to stay in gender boxes. There couldn't possibly have been an understandable reason women hated being women? And living as a man... really just living with more freedoms than women weren't granted...

But most of all it is clouding history and obscuring the realities of historical women, to the point we may end up repeating history.

Original 4B's

No sex with men

No dating men

No marrying men

No childrearing with men

6B4T is 4B plus:

No buying misogynistic products

Support other separatist women

No idols / celebrity culture

No misogynistic religion

No beauty culture / corset culture

No hypersexual depictions of women

7B4T adds: No unnecessary talking to men. This includes arguing with men since it's a drain of energy and also degrading to debate your human rights, as well as no unnecessary platonic relationships with men as they will seek to soften your feminism or make you compromise your values.

8B4T adds: No compromise with men (regarding feminist goals). For example when fighting for abortion rights we shouldn't accept anything that doesn't give us total control over our own bodies. We shouldn't stop fighting for / building the ability to live and work separately is another. So always keep fighting.

Meanwhile you can find men saying the most disgusting things about women and girls and not a single man stands up to them to say the tiniest "maybe that's too far" to them.

And the difference, of course, between women saying mean things about men, and men saying what they do about women is that women are only venting. Yes, even those who say they aren't. We know this because it's not thousands of men being murdered by their female intimate partners every year, and many more hospitalized. It's not male babies being murdered just for being male. It's not men in any country of the world, now or ever, being locked in their homes, unallowed to speak to one another or even look out the windows. It's not female police coercing male rape victims to say they lied and then blasting them all over the news as false accusers. It's not an entire industry built on primarily men and boy's sexual exploitation for the pleasure of women.

Then of course there are the things women couldn't do to men even if we wanted to, but men certainly do it to us: forcible impregnation, and forcing women to bring unwanted pregnancies to term, even if it kills her.

In 2023 alone, 260000 women died from complications relating to pregnancy and childbirth. Young mothers, children that is, are at a higher risk. Black women also have a higher mortality rate.

Women have been exploited over our reproductive capabilities for millennia. Forced to carry a rapist's offspring, killed over not producing a male heir, made to be surrogates, forced to put children up to adoption, denied access to contraception and abortions, denied access to a proper education, made to abandon baby girls. Young girls were sold off to marriage and forced to endure a string of pregnancies, one after the other, to the point getting your period could feel like a death sentence. Husbands did not care. Look at what Tolstoy did. Slave owners and colonizers raped and impregnated black and indigenous women, forced them to act as wet-nurses. Every war had soldiers who went on to rape and impregnate civilian women.

Pregnancy changes your body and affects your mind in ways we're just starting to understand. My own mother had everything planned out and the necessary resources to go through it safely, yet she still almost died giving birth. Adriana Smith was declared brain dead and still forced to carry her pregnancy to term.

Coming to terms with your infertility as a woman can be a hard, painful process. We're sold this idea that our purpose in life is to be a mother, pretty much from the moment we're old enough to play with dolls. It's such a complex issue to tackle I really can't make it justice in a single rant post. Having said that, a man who feels sad over the fact that he can't get pregnant (because if we're being completely honest here, it's about pregnancy and not about actually raising a kid) will never, ever understand what this is actually like. Women do not owe them any sympathy either.

fat women report an above average amount of misogynistic comments and behaviour directed towards them in daily life, and of a higher degree of verbal violence (ie, r*pe threats etc.) compared to women as a population, and many report feeling they are treated as "not even human," because of how much society, but also to a fine point, men, treat women's worth as being equal to how "attractive" they are - and view fat women in turn as having "failed" at being women.

"oh, but i don't have anything against fat people, i just want them to be healthy!"

believe me that no fat person is unaware of your health concerns, as every and anybody seems to feel empowered to give their unsolicited opinions on that. but, that is a medical concern to be discussed with in confidence with a medical professional, not random strangers online.

if you contribute to the marginalization of fat people, women in particular, by pushing the narrative that demeans them and assumes qualities of laziness, ugliness, poor hygiene, etc., you are contributing to a pillar of patriarchy that equates a woman's value with her (subjective!) attractiveness and encourages her maltreatment accordingly.