Destinies are troublesome things.

since we're close to st paddy's i wanna speak diaspora to diaspora, idk which irish american needs to hear this but your folks didn't come over from their colonized homeland risking death and almost certain estrangement from their families for you to be a cop in boston

Self-love is not a replacement for healthy connections. Self-love is not here to make you completely self-sufficient and unaffected by the world. Self-love is here to help you have healthy relationships with the world and people in it.

every august without fail is like i will give you some of the most beautiful golden summer moments of your life but also you will be thinking about childhood and loss constantly. it will always be either 5pm or 2am

no one tells you how much of life takes practice. not just writing, painting, running, singing, etc, but practicing how to make friends. how to make the right ones. getting practiced at how to be a good friend, a good sibling, a good person. practice identifying when people haven’t earned that. learning to recognize your right to rage and, eventually, how to offer mercy. so much of life is muscle memory, and i’ve begun to realize there are so many more parts of ourselves to flex and stretch and strengthen than those we’re taught in anatomy lessons

This is part of why life “gets better.” You get better at it.

there’s something about living life deliberately…wearing clothes that you actually want to and that you feel reflect you and your style not just because you’ve had them for years and don’t know what else you would throw on….listening to songs and creating playlists that excite you and represent your actual mood not just listening to songs that you’ve had downloaded for years that don’t make you feel anything special anymore…it’s VERY easy to stay with what you’re comfortable and it might take a bit of experimenting before you find what feels like a deliberate choice that reflects more of YOU but it’s absolutely worth the leap of faith you may have to convince yourself to make in order to stop feeling like a passenger in your own life

love lives at the kitchen table

since we're close to st paddy's i wanna speak diaspora to diaspora, idk which irish american needs to hear this but your folks didn't come over from their colonized homeland risking death and almost certain estrangement from their families for you to be a cop in boston

you know what, girls? i have a not super rad feeling about what this post’s notes are gonna look like in two hours

Real Irish Americans say fuck the police

"How wonderful to be alive. I am sorry for forgetting."

as you get older, you realize that you’re not always right and there’s so many things you could’ve handled better, so many situations where you could’ve been kinder and all you can really do is forgive yourself and let your mistakes make you a better person.

don’t make other people’s decisions for them. apply for the job you don’t think you’ll get. let them decide if you have the skills they’re looking for. tell that person you like them even though you think they’re out of your league. let them decide if they like you. stop trying to predict and control everything. bring what you have to the table. let the rest go.

being alive is to have life telling you ‘ok now i will ask you to be brave. now i will ask you to be brave. now i will ask you to be brave’ over and over and over until you learn it & then have to learn it again

when confident people confess that they haven’t always been like that:, young me was like ‘oh huh wonder when I’ll be old enough to feel that way ‘ and now I realize that no one is intimidating and also fashion is fake and embarrassing no matter what you do so like.... chill and smile.. be a person that is generous.. be fun to work with... read a g.d. Book.. look at maps.. take care of your bod.. be nice!!!! Playing games on who can be the most mysterious/ too cool is boring and yucky.