Calm as a Daisy

Values

When it came to relationships, I used to get the short end of the stick. I was always the one constantly giving more affection, giving more time, and giving more care while only receiving less than half from others. And, of course, it hurt because I cared and wanted to build something that would last a lifetime with someone. But life always had something else in the cards for me. Many times in the past, I used to stay around in stagnant relationships because I always seemed to imagine the best in people—not knowing that one day they would stab me in the back and try to throw me off balance in my emotions. But, as I think back on each past lover, I never see any hate. I only see lessons that helped me grow into a better woman, and for that, I am thankful. If it weren’t for me being broken, I would've still been that naive young lady, who didn’t have her values in check. But as each day passes by now, I continue to evolve happily into the new me, the true me, the one who holds her values and standards to the utmost high because I know now more than ever that I am deserving. And let me tell you, it's a beautiful feeling when you finally realize your worth and know that you're deserving of everything you ask for because you know that you carry those exact qualities, and there's nothing wrong with expecting someone to do the same for you. A relationship is meant to be equal, not unbalanced.

Learning to Trust Again

So, now that my values are in check and mental wounds have been healed, it is time for the next obstacle to begin. And that is the obstacle of vulnerability to someone new. Now, in my personal life, I have chatted here and there, but I never seem to stay focused on anyone because that lingering thought of starting over and wasting my time again really scares me. What do I do? Sabotage, sabotage, and sabotage every connection known to mankind. At first, I didn’t even notice I was doing it until I looked up one day, almost two years after my last serious relationship, and started to think and realize how closed-hearted I had been with my emotions to others. And really, at first, I didn’t see it as a problem until I went deep within and asked myself a few questions, such as, Don’t you want to get married one day? Do you want to have a baby on your own? And lastly, do you not want to experience a balanced relationship? After I answered each question, I knew deep down I wanted something real, at least once in my life when it came to a lover. And I knew in order to build a successful relationship, I would have to put myself back out there into the unknown and trust that not every guy in this world has bad intentions, even though in the past I have encountered many bad apples who covered their bruises until they were picked from the tree. But that is what our intuition is for, right? It's a guide we all have for free within us as we roam this world, being our true selves and enjoying life safely, knowing that one day that person will appear.

Closed Hearts.

To all my closed-hearted friends, let's end this fear with confidence in ourselves, to know that we will choose the right one when the time comes because we have grown so much through our pain and learned what is meant for us in love and what is not.

Love you to the moon and back, "V”

"Be patient. Sometimes the one you're waiting for will be divinely put on your path when God knows you have healed and you're ready to accept love wholeheartedly again."

A few Before You Date Warnings/ Questions!

Please don't settle for less.

Don't ignore those red flags.

Be careful, a lot of people out here are crazy.

Do they seem codependent?

They got negative vibes, time to say goodbye.

That hygiene got to be fresh.

Dry communicators need to be quenched.

Will the relationship be balanced?

Don't rush anything, time will tell all.

Do they put in the work constantly?

Do they make you feel secure?

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I want a love that sees my soul,

Holds me close, yet makes me whole.

A love that listens past my skin,

And finds the fire deep within.

One that gives as much as takes,

That cherishes, but never breaks.

Eyes that look with pure intent

Not to possess, but to represent.

Is that too much for love to be?

Or just enough… for all of me?

""Never forget why you had to walk away, or why you might still need to."

If you're someone who leads with love, compassion, and forgiveness, this post is for you. It’s about the beauty (and pain) of being a forgiver… and the power in learning to let go without losing who you are.

When Forgiveness Feels Like a Trap

Some people view a forgiving heart as a weakness—but the truth is, it’s a gift. Those of us who love hard, and care deeply often attract people who take advantage of that. We forgive over and over again, hoping things will get better, hoping our love will somehow change the outcome.

But the harsh reality? Things rarely improve unless the other person has the same heart, the same intentions, and the same willingness to grow.

Red Flags Are Warnings, Not Challenges

Honestly, for years I ignored the red flags and stayed in situations I knew I should’ve walked away from a long time ago. I kept giving people chance after chance, holding on quietly and just hoping things would get better—but they never really did.

And it wasn’t just about what they were doing—it was also about me. I wasn’t protecting my peace, and I definitely wasn’t honoring my worth. I held on to people I thought were rare—my little “unicorns" even when they were hurting me.

(I call them unicorns because I rarely find others, I can authentically connect with.)

The Turning Point

Eventually, I had to face the truth. I couldn’t keep pouring into people who left me empty. I started looking inward and realized it was okay to let go. I wasn’t losing a unicorn—I was making space for healthier connections, ones that honored my heart and my boundaries.

God had been sending me signs all along. I just wasn’t ready to listen. But when I finally did? Peace followed.

Healing Through Boundaries

I did block anyone I had to walk away from—but not out of hate. I wished them well, and I moved forward with love in my heart. That was the beginning of my healing in this specific chapter of my life.

Today, I still forgive—because that’s who I am. But I no longer forget. I no longer ignore what doesn’t feel right. I listen to the red flags, I protect my energy, and I honor my growth.

A Final Note to the Forgivers

If you’re like me—someone who loves creating memories, taking photos, capturing moments—remember this: not everyone deserves to be in your frame.

Stop wasting your precious time, energy, money, and camera roll on people who don’t respect your heart. You are worthy of real, deep, mutual love from friends, lovers and family. Don’t forget that.

"Phobia is fear, and love is deep, unwavering affection. When these two collide, they build a fragile wall around a once-innocent heart — a heart that loved too deeply and was stained too harshly. The stains weren’t sudden; they settled slowly, left behind by the one who should’ve cleansed them, but didn’t. And even now, those marks remain — not because they can’t be washed away, but because they were never truly seen, never truly tended to. This heart aches not to be hidden forever, but to be healed — to be soaked in care, scrubbed with patience, and made new again. So, it can beat boldly once more, unafraid, for the world to witness and adore.

by: V