cactus party

SALLY FISHER

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01 // mantra , bring me the horizon

02 // schizophrenia , xxxtentacion

03 // migraine , twenty one pilots

04 // blood // water , grandson

05 // wish you were here , pink floyd

06 // happy pills , weathers

07 // panic room , au/ra

08 // we don’t believe what’s on tv , twenty one pilots

09 // my demons , starset

if they have cheated in the past they most likely will do it again

some may but the chances of them changing for you no matter how hard you want them to are little to none

if someone physically or verbally abuses you get out of that relationship asap it may be hard for you to leave someone that you love but you need to put your saftey first

you being in a relationship with someone with a mental illness will not magically cure them. the best thing you can do is be there and give them love and support when they need it

every relationship is built on trust. if you don’t trust each other then it’s going to be a rocky road from day one

if you do have a mental illness and are in a relationship i’m happy for you but, if the other person wants to break up or take a break and you threaten them by using your illness that’s toxic

don’t bash your ex for finding someone else and being happy. instead try to find your own happiness and move on

if all of your past relationships have a common ending try to figure out what it is that you may be repeating and work on fixing it

don’t take your partner for granted. if you rely on them for paying for food, your home, your bills, and other necessities you need to work on helping out more.

don’t get angry at your partner for the things that you also do. you’re being hypocritical and that is wrong and can lead to a lot of fights

if you are someone who needs a lot of reassurance and attention but your partner isn’t giving you that it would be best to break up and find someone who gives you what you need to stay happy and have a trusting relationship

if your past partners have cheated it has nothing to do with you, they are scum and deserve to rot in hell, you on the other hand are perfect honey ;)

if you have some trust issues due to past relationships, tell your partner about this so you can work on it. if you don’t it may lead to fights and maybe even breakups that could have been avoided

try to take things slowly. this can build a steady, trusting relationship before you move onto the big things like the first time you say i love you

Severe mood swings: CPTSD often gets confused with borderline personality disorder because of a lot of symptom parallels. Usually, though, cptsd has mood swings that are very deeply linked to the trauma you experienced as a child, even if it doesn’t feel that way in the moment. And it doesn’t feel that way in the moment because CPTSD fucks up your…

Emotional recognition: It is often difficult for CPTSD survivors to clearly recognize their emotions, or where they stem from. It feels like all your emotions are underneath this big ocean, and everything is much heavier than it should be, and for that reason, feelings don’t make sense. You may feel oversensitive and like a drama queen for it, because CPTSD messes up your…

Self esteem: You may feel like you are fundamentally unlovable, or are only lovable if you accomplish certain tasks exceedingly well, or get external recognition for it, like a good GPA or an award or a good job or a steady relationship. You may find emptiness when thinking beyond these tasks, though, because CPTSD comes with

A shaky sense of self and reality: CPTSD often goes hand in hand with dissasociation and depersonalization. You may not have an actual out of body experience, but you will often question who you really are, feel as though you’re playing a part, feel as though you only exist to serve others and only exist in that medium. For that reason, you find it hard to feel close to anyone and mantain

Interpersonal relationships: CPTSD sufferers will often have an exceedingly difficult time connecting with other people. As well as you get to know someone, there is a barrier of “they will never really know me fully” or “I can’t be as open with them as they are with me.” This all stems back from childhood trauma, and having parental trust violated at a young age.

Having child alters that use “little speak” does not make your system fake

Having alters with odd typing quirks (i.e special fonts) does not make your system fake

Having weak communication does not make your system fake

Not knowing every little detail about all your alters does not make your system fake

Having “stereotypical alters” (i.e having an “evil” alter) does not make your system fake

Having a simplistic headspace does not mean your system is fake

Having a lot of fictives does not mean your system is fake

Knowing you have DID/OSDD or being diagnosed at a “younger” age than normal does not mean you’re any less valid

If you’re trans, having alters that identify as the gender you were assigned at birth does not make you fake or invalid

Not having “blackout” amnesia everytime another alter fronts is normal

You are not ‘lesser’ or embarrassing because you don’t speak

You don’t have to speak if it makes you uncomfortable

You are beautiful and amazing just the way you are

Don’t allow people to try to push you into verbal communication

You are just as capable of love and showing kindness without speaking