The Star Cluster

However, with how stressful this has been at times (though very worth it) I don't want to burden others with the weight of some of the harassment and comments this blog gets.

I've gotten better at just deleting comments instead of engaging, at least, especially as there seems to be a returning user or two who consistently leave hate comments (which are pretty amusing)

Though I also don't know that I'd be able to just ask people here to moderate, as remaining anonymous could become increasingly difficult for me.

I don't actually want to be anonymous in the first place. But I was proven correct in the amount of harassment I'd receive, unfortunately, just by running this blog. I've been called the f slur and told to kms and I've been told I hate trans women to "you're not actually supportive of trans men"

And granted I do understand criticism. I've definitely messed up a few times and I'm doing my best to learn, especially as someone who was raised with a "hate all men" environment, which definitely delayed my coming out. I've actually appreciated when my mistakes were pointed out; granted it could've been kinder at times.

I really don't want to put the stress on others, but I also don't think that with the rate the blog is growing if I should handle it alone.

I want to know what you guys think. If anyone would be interested in helping with this blog (not that I'm going to just choose anyone, but to see if it's a job people genuinely *want* to help with) or even just some ideas on how I could make it a bit easier.

And uh, the queue is confusing so I probably won't do that though, I've tried it on other blogs. I don't like it it's evil

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a bug gets crowned king and a cat falls in love

Gay men

Trans men

Elderly men

Any queer men

Men of color

Young men

Disabled men

Intersex men

Fathers

Brothers

Uncles

And yes, it includes; pericishet white physabled men, especially those who are our allies.

And even more.

Because mental health should never be a joke, no matter who it is. That's how it gets worse.

Mental health is commonly neglected. "Men's mental health" is a sentence mocked by many because "who cares about men" and "they're taking from pride"

We don't like it when that's done to other groups!! And if you pull some "well I'm not referring to trans/disabled/etc men!" then hey, that's fucked up! We're men too and men's mental health month is ALSO about us!

If you care about your communities, that includes the men who fight alongside you, of all kinds. Pride and men's mental health are not a competition! They can share the month because honestly, they go hand in hand in some ways. Especially queer men who have to hear "who cares about men" all month, men who are actively vulnerable.

We want the world to be safe for everyone. Let's stop alienating and just start loving our communities, even if we've grown our own fears or beliefs. We can outgrow them and do better.

I don't speak of it because people ridicule for it. But there was a time in my life where it was all I had and ai essentially uses that against you.

I've been clean of self harm for a year and a half.

I've been clean of AI for even less.

That's how hard it was to drop for me. The person in this screenshot is doing an amazing job and I'm so proud of anyone who's dropped ai even when it was difficult.

So yeah I think being "clean" from ai is a perfect way to put it. It's a habit that damages you and your health, even if it's not a physical harm it can even lead to it.

This ESPECIALLY goes for transmascs who are radfems.

You are not exempt. You are a target like us. They will lie and tell you you're one of the good ones. But they have already reduced you to a thing in their eyes.

Transandrophobia exists.

Exorsexism exists.

Transmisogyny exists.

They all exist because we all exist. If one of those ceases existing, either we've achieved world peace and every transphobe is gone or the group it's against is gone. Tell me, what seems more likely? World peace or genocide?

And granted, trans people of all identifications will always find a way to exist. Even if closeted. Even if the world has forgotten us, someone will ask: why do I have to play along as this gender they say I am?

But the thing is, the longer people play oppression Olympics, the easier it is for people to tear us apart.

We need to accept that there will always be different types of transphobia if we're to accept there's different kinds of trans people.

Whether someone is a binary trans person or a xenogender xey/xem trans person, they deserve to find a community of love when they open their phone or when they go outside or to school.

They don't deserve to be treated like they're one of the billionaires who wants us all dead.

You need to see the person before you see them for their gender. Period. Anyone can be hateful. But anyone can also be kind.

I have seen people who lack empathy be kinder than someone who claims empathy is the only thing they experience. It's not your emotions or your empathy, it's your actions and your knowledge that will define who you are. (Coming from someone with fluctuating empathy due to disorders.)

CHOOSE LOVE. Fight for your trans siblings and love for your trans siblings. Nobody deserves discrimination over their gender, pronouns, or harmless identity.

You can always change for the better too. I don't care if you're 16 or 86, you CAN become a better person. Even if it's consistently a work in progress to be better.

Anyway, I'm sorry for the long rant. But I'm really tired of seeing so much hate, all over some gender or identity.

Trans men, I love you.

Trans mascs, I love you.

Nonbinary people and enbies and enben, I love you.

Trans fems, I love you.

Trans women, I love you.

Intersex people, I love you.

Xenogender and xenopronoun users, I love you.

Good faith / contradictory labels users, I love you.

Anyone else in the queer community I didn't outright mention, I love you.

who up destroying they world that doesn’t exist

(the 6th and 7th are based on my different musings on derek surviving here)

do you think he knew. do you think he knew he wouldn’t make it to the new year.