fighting the system with forks and knives

Who is this survey for?

Non feedists. If you are in a feedist relationship but don't identify as a feedist, feel free to answer. (Feedists please don't answer because obviously your answers would all be positive. Reblogging to encourage others to answer is encouraged. If you're in the feedist closet and you want to recommend it to friends, you could try saying "I just learned about this kink through this survey, maybe you would like to take it and learn about it?" If you have the type of relationship for it) There are options for asexuals throughout.

All questions are optional, so if something isn't applicable/you don't want to answer it, you don't have to. There is an "other" option for each question, but please try to use the preselected multiple choice unless you really don't feel like any apply. If I get a ton of responses it will be easier to look at the responses if they're preselected.

There's 35-40 questions, I expect it should take around 20 minutes to take.

When does it close/when will the results be published?

Dysphoria is useful as a diagnosis in the US healthcare system because being medically diagnosed with “gender dysphoria” means getting insurance to cover “treating the illness” with gender-affirming HRT/surgeries/etc. These are all paperwork reasons for why dysphoria is a diagnosis. Dysphoria is not a necessary part of the trans experience.

Add to the long list of reasons the American healthcare system kills more people than it helps and needs to burn down.

We are not sick. We are not wrong. We do not need to experience distress over being trans.

https://www.tumblr.com/thaenad/817106591215140864/fatliberation-has-been-terminated-by-tumblr

@fatliberation, who I often reblog here, has been censored by staff. This blog has been a respite from fatphobic culture, and we are all worse for having lost it. Please support their other blog, @thaenad, if you’re interested in continuing to support this creator.

I haven’t spoken about this directly, but I believe the institutionalized anti-feedist sentiment on tumblr is puritanical and inherently fatphobic. This policy has been used to justify silencing and harassing fat people, both who are and aren’t feedists.

I understand that there are range of opinions and histories with the feedist community, and I respect not wanting to engage with the kink. Everyone has the right to curate their own sexual experience. There are shitty people in every community, and I’m not here to dismiss people’s pain associated with mistreatment by feedists.

However, most feedists are fat people. Or they’re the partners and friends and allies of fat people. Tumblr especially tends to attract feedists who engage in the kink with less shame, and less reason to mistreat other fat people. Demonization of them on the basis of a sexual preference people find distasteful is bullshit. Limits on self expression and alternative perspectives harm all of us.

And to people who say feedists fundamentally objectify fat bodies, the majority of people in my likes and reblogs are feedists. They’re fighting the good fight. They’re expanding the Overton window on fat liberation. I think it’s bad politics to reject allies because they give you the ick.

it bothered me too. 🫂💔 people say that all the time and it’s extremely harmful and offensive, especially to those of us who actually have struggled with real eating disorders. I guess they must be equating stuffing & fullness play to binge eating disorder? which demonstrates a lack of understanding of both BED and kink. stuffing does not meet the criteria for BED. it’s disordered when the following is present:

a. the sense of lack of control over eating during the episode (e.g., a feeling that one cannot stop eating or control what or how much one is eating)

b. feeling disgusted with oneself, depressed, or very guilty after overeating

c. eating alone because of being embarrassed by how much one is eating

d. marked distress regarding binge eating is present.

as opposed to a stuffing being planned, the feedee is completely in control, they are safe and calm, enjoying the sensations of taste and touch, feeling sexy, proud, aroused, comforted, validated, etc., often with the love and aftercare from their scene partner.

and guess what! a lot of feedists don’t like stuffings at all. shocker.

of course there are feedists who have a complicated relationship with their kink because of their eating disorder. I’ve also heard from countless feedists that practicing kink is actually a way of healing from their eating disorder. I know feedists who have never had problems with food or body image at all because of the positive feelings brought to them by their kink.

This is not a common take on BED. The fact that people with BED restrict (or have experienced chronic food insecurity) is overlooked by most medical professionals and the folks who have the disorder themselves. But if you take the time to look at folks in this situation (like i was), we try to restrict our eating and then react to that restriction with bingeing. The bingeing itself is not the disordered part. That's our bodies reacting to restriction by increasing our hunger and cravings, because our bodies are trying to protect us from calorie deprivation.

1. Do not do age verification.

Oh no I dropped my link, what a horrible thing! Sure hope this doesn't get reblogged until it reaches users from the UK and Brazil!