Theres a dude that follows me on TikTok because he's turned on by large bellies.

I once got written up for dress code violations because the 'women's' sizes of the uniform were cut high and my tum would stick out and they refused to give me a men's shirt that would cover my belly for some reason. So they kept giving me larger and larger women's shirts that were too big for my shoulders but still cut short. So I kept getting lectured about dressing inappropriately when I visited schools in conservative areas as if I had any real control over the shape of my belly.

But because they were weird about gender nonconformity and they knew I was a lesbian, they wouldn't let me wear the shirt they had available that would have fixed the problem.

So what i have learned from these two things is that bellies are sexual and may appeal to prurient interests. And that prurient interests are legislated against.

So I may have to cover my belly when doing bellydance, which im used to- we're told to have one in our costume stash in case we're performing in a conservative area.

But am I gonna have to cover my feet? I cant wear shoes while doing the goblet dance because I need contact with the prop for safety reasons.

What about hand fetishes? Am I wearing gloves too?

I get consistently censored on social media because I have too many flesh-colored pixels. Is it only fat bodies that get regulated or are skinny bodies subject to the same obscenity laws?

The author of the drag ban says that its about banning pornographic materials. But im very aware of how subjective that is.

Last week I was at a meetup where I was the only transfem. I checked the groupchat when I arrived and there was a message from the organiser: "We have a newcomer called X, can you look out for him if you get there first?" I located X, introduced myself, sent a message to the chat say, "I have located X," and continued to talk to him until the organiser arrived. When the organiser arrived, she was not happy with me. It turned out my phone had autocorrected, "I have located X," to, "I had located X," which the organiser interpreted as me passive aggressively telling her that I had already done the thing she was asking about. Her conclusion: I was unreasonable and aggressive in responding to her reasonable request. My explaining what had happened didn't convince her otherwise.

A different occasion last week: in a local trans groupchat, a trans man sent a link to a drag event happening in our town. A few people said they were already going, some said they might go. Then a trans woman replied saying, "Thanks, but I don't really like drag." Her tone was immediately called into question. Her words were assumed to communicate: "I think you are a terrible person if you like drag," even though she never said that. Several non-transfems who had never even heard that drag might not be universally-beloved by everyone were upset to discover that fact. A trans woman simply saying she didn't like this thing became A Big Deal.

Meanwhile, at a different event again, a trans man told a group that he was straight and attracted to women, but he wouldn't feel comfortable bringing home an "AMAB woman" (yes he actually said that). It was quickly brushed over, and after he had left even trans women tried to defend him by saying "he probably didnt realise people would be offended" etc etc. In contrast to the examples above, he is not even aware that anyone was upset by what he said, never mind worrying about what consequences he might face.

so... we may have made something.

have YOU ever thought like this?????? i know WE hate the current plural diagnostics!!!! so! WE MADE OUR OWN!!!!!!!

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There are probably more examples that don't align nicely with the sorts of plural experiences that this tool screens for. We all have biases and experiences we're unaware of, and no survey will capture everything. It would honestly be absurd to expect that.

All that said, this is a potentially useful tool for questioning folks and folks struggling with doubt/denial. As always, treat any sort of self-survey or resource as one data point, not an absolute conclusion. Get your conclusions from the sum total of everything you've explored so far. If you score low but still feel like something is going on, then explore further.

Grace, haltingly on the keyboard Rocky built for him: Wassup bitches. Fucking jazzed to—