#willomate

The internet may remember forever, but times change. The tulpamancy community–for better or worse–is a prime example of this fact. It would be hyperbolic to state that “THE TULPAMANCY COMMUNITY IS DYING” just as much as it would be downright incorrect. The truth, however, is that the community is shifting and information is less centralized than ever. With the loss of several larger Discord communities over the past few years and the general merging of tulpamancy with the wider plural community, I emphasize again the importance of keeping records. 

Keep your logs, guides, and other stuff backed up somewhere that can stand the test of time. Recording information in transient online spaces leads to the inevitable inaccessibility or deletion of said information when the space that contains it eventually goes kaput.

If guides are your thing, maintain backups of the ones that are important to you. The community runs on individual efforts, and sooner or later self-hosted resources may not be available. This community survives off of the perpetuation of word-of-mouth, made-with-love resources, and to lose them would be a travesty.

After years of using Reddit, Discord, and Tumblr to maintain the breadth of my plural-related writing I have made the choice to back up everything important to a personal Google Drive. I will also be revising my writings and making them available through a Rentry masterlist (which will hopefully be made available soon). In doing this, I hope to maintain a private drive that can serve as a digital anchor point while also offering an accessible and centralized space to access my writing in its entirety. 

THESE WERE THE ONLY ONES I COUL THINK OF BUT I REALLY WANT MORE GAHHHH

Tulpa is the oldest term, about fifteen years old now, and includes intentional and unintentional creations, usually as the result of repeated interactions and often meditation. It is most often a course from starting as a singlet and gaining one or more headmates. There's a lot of host centrist views commonly found in tulpa circles which we really don't like, it's almost always seen as psychological in origin instead of metaphysical or spiritual, and there's a strong culture of practice and growing in skills in vocality and independence.

Parogen was created as an alternative term to tulpa for (usually intentional) creation and due to the perceived cultural appropriation of the term tulpa. While most of ours aren't intentionally created, we do use this term because we're uncomfortable with the term tulpa - not because of appropriation concerns, but because the word tulpar is an extremely vulgar term in the main language of our paracosm. And while we didn't know what we were doing would create a headmate for most of ours, we did intentionally put effort into clearer vocality, cofronting, possession, imposition, and switching. Some people use parogen as an umbrella term for all kinds of created headmates, but we don't.

Willomancy is meant to be entirely separate from tulpamancy, and is more often used to create or stabilize headmates in preexisting systems than it is to create a system from scratch as a singlet.

hey, our partner is a willogenic/paromancy sys. we asked her this question and here’s what she said:

“you know, for us, more than anything what helps is spending time with each other. for me, the host, i try to make conscious efforts to include nev in almost everything. i’m always asking about her thoughts on stuff and trying to get her opinion. i ask her what she’s thinking in the current moment or like ask her to suggest what we should have for a snack or what kind of music we should work on. we also collaborate in the studio a lot, and working together helps us learn more about each other. so yeah, just keeping that dialogue constant and open is what helps us the most.”

we aren’t willogenic ourselves, but we do have this post on building individuality in headmates which might help even a willomate develop more into their own distinct person. here it is:

and as always, if anyone sees this who has any tips or advice on helping a willomate develop more, you are welcome and encouraged to share.

yah :3

i tried my best with the fronting signs and triggers as i'm still getting used to doing them!! ^^

Names: Foxy, Fritz, Tod, Vulpes, Canidae, Grim, Hook, Patch, Captain, Flintlock

Pronouns: Am/Ambush, Bite/Bites, Bo/Bot, Ey/Eys, Fox/Foxs, He/Him, Hx/Hxm, Hook/Hooks, It/Its, Jump/Scare/Jumpscares, Ny/Nym, Pir/Ate/Pirates, Ro/Bot/Robots, Zt/Zts, Zy/Zyr, 🦊/🦊s, ⚙/⚙s, 👻/👻s, 🏴‍☠️/🏴‍☠️s, 🤖/🤖s

Genders: Animatronicgender, Fnafjumpscaresoundic, Ghostgender, Hazeboy, Horrorgenric, Pirategender, Robogender, Vulpisgender

Ages: (mentally) 7, 10, 6. (Physically) Ageless, 15, 17, 18, 20, 14, 16

Roles: Aegir, Anger Holder, Trauma Holder

Orientation: Aroace

Species: Animatronic, Spirit

Fronting Signs: Putting more focus in one eye, Feeling more fox-like, childlike, and/or robotic, Higher sensitivity to light

Fronting Triggers: Mentions of Pirates or Pirate Media, Being in the dark, Pizza (idk that just randomly came to mind)

heres something for syscringe- we're a DID system, traumagenic in origin (meaning, our plurality was caused by trauma). we're also in the process of creating 3 headmates, all of whom are pokemon.