#willomancy tips

it's been a mixed bag for us.. quite honestly. Sometimes, it's really difficult to have a willomate form, sometimes the willomate forming is a fragment that wants a more stable identity.

I know that as a programming survivor, torture has fundamentally impacted how our system and innerworld react. It also impacts our willomancy.

We have a very strong imagination and ability to picture things in our mind. That really helps our willomates feel real and helps them feel more connected, too. Usually, we do character based willomates, even if that character is more factual than fictional, lol. that also really helps. Build a headmate blogs, while a nice guiding point, its one that doesn't always help or work for us.

Pluralkit (or other proxy bots) with a private server can really help a willomate (or fragment) form more. It's something we are still working on ourselves, it feels sort of like blind leading the blind to give advice or tips. Regardless!!

Pintrest boards where you save pins for your willomate has also helped. telling your willomate about your day, about routines, about conflicts, asking simple questions, reading stories.. all that and more can also help. At the beginning, there's quite a bit of puppeting, as time goes on and they form more, you may begin to notice more autonomous responses and feelings. its important to let that thrive and flourish.

Hello there! For us fictives are actually easier to create, and we think this is due to our autism and ADHD, along with fictives kind of already coming with a "base" for our brain to easily build off of. My biggest advice is to keep at it, creating headmates becomes easier and quicker as you do it more.

It may also help to write down details of the fictive, we use our Simply Plural for this, so our brain has even more to latch onto. Generally, no matter which willomancer you ask, they'll tell you focusing on the headmate and talking to them a lot is a big part of creating a headmate, so I'd suggest dedicating some time specifically to creating fictives if they're what you struggle with the most.

Hopefully this is helpful, but unfortunately I gained a lot of my ability to create headmates a few years ago, and while our brain has been trained to create them easily, I forgot most of my tips and tricks, partially because I don't need them anymore.

You've got this!

If a specific headmate in your system makes a new headmate split on purpose, the new headmate may likely split with some kind of feelings for the headmate who split them.

For example, Chem from my system tried to split a syspet (Vick), and Vick sees Chem as its owner. I split Jasper, who has nothing to do with my source or anything about me, but he split wanting to be my friend.

This can also extend to romantic feelings. We wrote a template for someone that someone from my same timeline remembered before I split; when I found it, I developed romantic attraction to that person and decided to try to split him. When he arrived in the system, we both remembered being each other's partners in a part of my timeline that I didn't remember as clearly yet.

I can't guarantee that headmates will *always* have some kind of feelings about the headmate who split them, and I'd consider it risky to assume that a headmate you split with romantic intent will immediately and automatically reciprocate.

It isn't all the time, but if you use stress to split headmates, or are splitting headmates with roles related to stress or trauma, it's probably more likely to be.

Yesterday, I split a headmate on purpose, and I'm glad it worked, but I used stress while I was dissociating to do so, and it resulted in me going non-verbal for about an hour in which I could only communicate in digital graphics we've made for situations like these.

I am saying this not to scare anyone off from splitting headmates on purpose, or to make splitting seem scary or undesirable (as things like this can happen during unintentional splitting as well), but this is sometimes how it goes.

If you know or suspect there's a chance that something like intense dissociation or communication difficulty could happen if you split a headmate on purpose - where I would say, if you experience those symptoms under stress, there is a chance - you should tell someone you trust about what you're doing and what might happen, as well as prepare alternative methods of communication if needed.

If you are splitting a headmate on purpose and believe symptoms like these could occur, it's best to work on splitting them when you're at home, won't be interrupted, and will have access to anything comforting or grounding as needed.