5 Alternatives to âGood Jobâ âYouâre so responsibleâ âThank you for being so helpfulâ âI know that was hard. I appreciate all your effortâ âWow! That was amazing!â âYou must be so proud of yourself!â J. Milburn The phrase âgood jobâ is not bad or wrong. Donât ever feel guilty about showing your child appreciation. There are alternatives, however, that can send messages that may be even more motivating and encouraging. Try one of these instead, sometime. Edited to add: for some the phrase âyouâre so responsibleâ may trigger an emotional response. If you were a child who had undo responsibility and this is one way your family encouraged your compliance in that, than this phrase may seem inappropriate and maybe it is for you. You need to be conscious when using that one. I would use it if my toddler put away their shoes on their own or maybe my 8 year old dressed for school without me asking. @responsive_parenting Reference: Alfie Kohn â5 Reasons to Stop Saying Good Jobâ (2001) https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/ #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachment #attachmentparenting #secureattachment #motivatingkids #responsiblekids #intrinsicmotivation #encouragement #waystopraise #parenthood #parentingwithintention https://www.instagram.com/p/CS-Qy1bn--f/?utm_medium=tumblr












