#waystopraise

5 Alternatives to “Good Job” “You’re so responsible” “Thank you for being so helpful” “I know that was hard. I appreciate all your effort” “Wow! That was amazing!” “You must be so proud of yourself!” J. Milburn The phrase “good job” is not bad or wrong. Don’t ever feel guilty about showing your child appreciation. There are alternatives, however, that can send messages that may be even more motivating and encouraging. Try one of these instead, sometime. Edited to add: for some the phrase “you’re so responsible” may trigger an emotional response. If you were a child who had undo responsibility and this is one way your family encouraged your compliance in that, than this phrase may seem inappropriate and maybe it is for you. You need to be conscious when using that one. I would use it if my toddler put away their shoes on their own or maybe my 8 year old dressed for school without me asking. @responsive_parenting Reference: Alfie Kohn “5 Reasons to Stop Saying Good Job” (2001) https://www.alfiekohn.org/article/five-reasons-stop-saying-good-job/ #responsiveparenting #jmilburn #attachment #attachmentparenting #secureattachment #motivatingkids #responsiblekids #intrinsicmotivation #encouragement #waystopraise #parenthood #parentingwithintention https://www.instagram.com/p/CS-Qy1bn--f/?utm_medium=tumblr