#voloromantic

Hey, so sorry this took a while!

But yeah, I'm biromantic voloromantic asexual(and therefore angled aroace)

Biromantic means that I'm romantically attracted to people of all genders

Voloromantic means that I develop attraction to someone if I want it. It's not as convenient as it sounds /lh

I made a character in like mid april to send to a interactive story (the readers make the characters which the writer works with), and was like *incredibly long explanation on how my character feels attraction* because I'm aroace, don't understand how romance works and need to explain how specifically it works to my character most of them are simply pomo.

In his case is like "if I'm in a explicitly romantic relationship I might develop romantic feelings" and only so, in a fake til you make it kinda deal. And I'm trying to explain with examples and I write about how he wants to fall in love with his partner, and it might not happen, but for it to happen the condition is this wanting, is this trial.

I used like almost ten pages of A4 to explain it all, I know his conditional is more like "I gotta want to AND get used to loving you" but oh God I wish I knew about voloromantic back then, I was like "is this realistic?" because again I have no idea wtf is romance and how it works but apparently yeah, it can work like that. Humans are so interesting!!! (btw I fucking love the name you coined)

!!!! Thank you so much! I'm very honoured that I've been able to coin a term that's given so many people a way to describe their feelings, their characters' feelings, etc.

Honestly, I fully understand where you're coming from. I've been made aware that back in 2015 there was even a few people (and by that I mean like five) that wanted to use Volo instead of Allo (I didn't know this at the time of creating the labels).

There are some key differences and I think the best way to describe it is by using fairly well known labels! Volo is more of a mix of demi and cupio. There may by attractionless fantasies for a period of time, or a want to be with a person without any attraction, until suddenly it develops. There's no attraction to the person in question or anyone else, and it doesnt develop when you decide you want to be with them, it can develop anywhere from months to years after.

1. How did you decide on a name to coin it? Like, what was your reasoning behind choosing 'volo' as it's prefix? (Not trying to be mean or anything, am genuinely curious)

2. It currently states attraction is developed by choosing to develop romantic attraction to a person/fantasizing about being in a relationship with them. I understand that this is a developing label given how new it is, but would outside influence fall under this? Like, say you're good friends with someone and never considered them in a romantic way until someone else comments on it? I've noticed that every crush I've ever had (not a lot to begin with) developed after a friend or someone made comments like, "y'all would look cute together", "I think xe/xem has a crush on you", etc. After that, I'd start thinking about what a relationship with said person would be like, and then the crush would develop. I never had feelings before those things were said though, so like,,,,would you consider that kind of scenario to fall under Voloromantic or another term?

This is kind of a long ask lol so if you ever do reply to this, I would be eternally grateful!!

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Volo is latin! It's one of the words that mean want, there's several (like cupio, for example). I did a bit of messing around for other meanings each one had and volo had the least-weird secondary meanings in my opinion (the secondary meanings are flight and zoom, if you were wondering!)

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