#varumgender

Avarumgender/varumgender doodles, about how many stripes they have. I seemed a bit passive-agressive in this but I really think the stripes look good.

Cuinwic doodle with a lighter.

(some of the) Xenogender orientation/relationship terms

Rosgenere doodle with a thorny rose.

Revluvgender (sorry for making fun of kpop stans)

Lepidere doodle.

Intensiflux, intensigender (intensigirl?)

Grasserin art

Draconix looking into a mirror and seeing a dragon. Based off the otherkin images where someone sees their kintype in a mirror or something like that, but instead they're surprised to see their kintype in the mirror

quite a few!

Pendogender: “Never being satisfied with your gender no matter how well it fits due to self-doubt, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits even better. Gender perfectionism. This term is exclusive to neurodivergent people only, specifically coined with people with anxiety disorders, OCD, and OCPD in mind.

Xumgender: Never being satisfied with your gender due to constant self-doubt or identity issues, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible–to find “the gender” or “the one truth”–though one will never be found due to one’s neurotype, because words will never be able to describe it, and/or its own properties paradox itself. This frequent anxiety and doubt even causes this gender to feel imperfect to the individual.

Kynigender: A gender which is not able to be pinpointed due to the stress of the questioning process causing anxiety.

Genderinimicus: A sentiogender which describes a gender experience that cannot be fully felt/comprehended/understood because each time one attempts to mediate on their gender and determine what it does or does not entail/encompass, they feel a great sense of unease or anxiety, they begin to panic, or they become greatly distressed/distraught (including feelings of anger/frustration/despair) over not being able to make the determination. Note that this is not a distress that comes solely from uncertainty, but is a gender experience that necessarily involves an anxious/panicked/distressed sense of one’s own gender. The experiencer is therefore at odds with their gender, and this is the only thing they can know for certain, even if they can approximate what else their gender encompasses. This is dissimilar to questioning or quoigender because it necessarily entails a dissatisfaction with one’s inability to fully grasp their gender. It is NOT just “IDK my gender” or “my gender is IDK”; it’s “I’m disappointed that I don’t know my gender because some emotional barrier is in the way, but I’d still like a term that describes that experience.”

Varumgender / Avarumgender: A gender for a person who feels that, while many terms may be used to describe their gender, they don’t feel like identifying with them may be right for them–due to uncertainty, anxiety, or just neurodivergency in general. Alternatively, a term for use where many labels may fit, and one’s gender may fit all the criteria for these labels, but the traits are all static and never seem to overwhelm each other.

Varumgender or Avarumgender: A gender for a person who feels that, while many terms may be used to describe their gender, they don’t feel like identifying with them may be right for them–due to uncertainty, anxiety, or just neurodivergency in general. Alternatively, a term for use where many labels may fit, and one’s gender may fit all the criteria for these labels, but the traits are all static and never seem to overwhelm each other. “Varum” is the nominative, accusative, and vocative neuter case for the word that means “real” or “true.” One can add “a-” at the beginning (possibly) to mean “unreal” or “untrue” if they so wish, because varumgender/avurmgender can sometimes feel “fake” due to technically fitting so many labels. One can do with that as they wish.

Term coined by: @the-devious-faery

Avarumgender:

[Image: 11 stripes, starting from dark pinkey-purple fading to white, then fading from light purpley-blue to dark purpley-blue]

Full size [Here]

Avarumnonbinary:

[Image: 11 stripes, starting from dark purple, to white, back to dark purple].

Full size [Here]

Avarumgirl:

[Image: 11 stripes, starting from dark pinkey-purple, to white, back to dark pinkey-purple].

Full size [Here]

Avarumboy:

[Image: 11 stripes, starting from dark purpley-blue, to white, back to dark purpley-blue].

Full size [Here]

Designed by: @the-devious-faery

Color meanings: Unknown

Doodles of (a)varumgender, (a)varumenby, (a)varumgirl, and (a)varumboy) (archive).

Don’t sweat it, I definitely believe you. :) I’ll try and throw some labels that sound kinda like that and hopefully one will fit!

Pomogender: A gender where one denies or does not fit any labels for any particular gender. 

Arigender or Ariesgender: A complicated gender identity that you cannot explain or is very hard to explain. A gender that does not fit under any labels. An unfathomable gender.

Varumgender or Avarumgender: A gender for a person who feels that, while many terms may be used to describe their gender, they don’t feel like identifying with them may be right for them–due to uncertainty, anxiety, or just neurodivergency in general. Alternatively, a term for use where many labels may fit, and one’s gender may fit all the criteria for these labels, but the traits are all static and never seem to overwhelm each other.

Genderfree or Gender-free: A gender identity which is generally ambiguous, but definitely queer in nature. The owner will tend to pursue expressions, presentations and such without concern for gender associations associated with them. Can also embrace days presenting as very femme, very masc, etc. A blurry, cloudy, whimsical, free sense of gender. Can/often does co-exist with other gender identity labels: Dysphoria can, but does not have to, motivate the sense of gender and/or gender expression of this person on any given day. More of an exploration of different aspects of the same identity.