I am a studying creator writer, and we recently had a thing where we had to write a pitch for a screenplay. I think mine was good enough, basically about bonding and learning more about how other people exist, and how that relates to your own disgruntledness with your existence. [Legally, I have to be vague.] I finish my pitch and the cinematographist that's working with us says, bar for bar. "Is this a homosexual romance? Because I think this should be a homosexual romance." I'M GOING TO KILL YOU WITH HAMMERS. I am so so tired of every time I try to depict a relationship that is queerplatonic it always gets pushed into being either romantic or these guys are just good friends. It's happened with every fucking piece I've tried to create with this goddamn group. And the one time I tried to make something that's meant to have explicitly romantic subtext—These motherfuckers are like, oh, they're such good friends! I swear, I swear, I'm being soooo nice to them by not tearing into them. And I say, to this guy, no, it's meant to be not romantic, nor platonic, it's the blurred lines in between and they're just fucking ragging on me over it! And later, i'm complaining a little bit to my fellow creative writers, they're telling me that they're tired of hearing me, talk about it, and I really do just need to suck it up. I know that if any of those guys got told with one of their many lesbian love stories that, oh, these guys are just great friends, then they'd be bitching about it too! But why is it bad when I complain about my identity and my works being invalidated???? Why does everyone have a stick up their ass????? This is more ranty than everything else, but I am so pissed right now, bro. I'm going to start killing people. For every instance of aphobia, one person will die. I don't know how I'll do it, but I'll make it happen.
Forever frustrated over non romantic relationships being seen as less meaningful and less important than a romantic one. Queer people in media are only allowed to be queer in the means of being attracted to the same gender and if it's any other flavor of queerness it's not worthwhile. That's awful you have to put up with that trying to tell your own story.