I dunno if you're able to make a flag for this, but I created a new term called "Incogender." I'm not sure if there is another term like this, but I couldn't find one. "Incogender: when your gender is indefinable and very hard to describe" inco is short for incognito, which means unknown it Latin. If you feel specific feelings related towards another gender, you could replace gender with that term. (Ex: incogirl, incoNB, incofluid) thank you for your time :)
There are a lot of terms for this, are you sure you want a separate term and flag?
Anongender: “A gender that is unknown to both yourself and others”
Arigender/Ariesgender: “A complicated gender identity that you cannot explain or is very hard to explain. A gender that does not fit under any labels. An unfathomable gender.Based on the zodiac sign Aries.“
Atmosgender: “Having a gender which is present, but unable to be grasped or firmly defined.“
Concedogender: “When you cannot be defined as questioning because you no longer question, but you never reached a particular identity. You conceded and said “I’m okay with not finding out”.“
Confundogender: “A gendered feeling that is confusing to the person experiencing it, to the point that they cannot define or explain it.“
Gendercryptic/Cryptogender: “A gender one cannot discern, describe or define in human words because one is puzzled by it. It feels like it is and it isn’t there without following any particular pattern, sometimes even at the same time.”
Delphigender or Mystigender: “A mysterious, mystical and obscure non-binary gender.“
Ectogender: “A gender identity that is elusive, constantly out of one’s grasp, and/or hard to pin down.”
Ethegender/Delicagender/Daingender/Ethereagender/Elegender: “A gender up to interpretation by individuals, but in essence is an ethereal gender that is unable to be understood by either the individual or others; a gender that cannot be explained; a dainty, elegant, or delicate gender.“
Genderstrange: “When you can’t pinpoint one word for your gender, but multiple terms almost fit.“
Genderweird: “A term used to describe those whose gender cannot be described by any existing label, or cannot be pinned down as such“
Maringender/Marigender/Margender/Nubilagender: “A term to describe when part of one’s gender is unidentifiable.“
Mazeplexgender: “A gender identity best described as a dense forest or maze which is easy to get lost in, and is hard to navigate through or pinpoint a specific location or gender. It may be unknown to the person if it’s even possible to navigate through this forest or maze to find any answers.Derived from the two words Maze, and Perplex.”
Opscugender: “A gender that feels difficult to see or grasp, as if it is hidden in the dark.“
Quizgender: “Where many different genders sound like they could fit you, but it’s difficult to make up your mind; in relation to when you’re taking a quiz, and you think one of the answers is correct, but then another one also looks correct, and you just have trouble deciding.“
Scorpigender: “A gender that is a mystery, and very difficult to understand. Lots of labels vaguely fit it, but almost none can fully describe it.“
Scorpifluid: “A gender fluid between unknown genders.“
Seagender: “A gender that is as deep and unknown as the ocean itself. It’s a gender that is mostly incomprehensible but slightly familiar in human terms.“
Skelogender: “A gender that’s a big part of you and comes from deep inside, but is obscure and unknowable. A gender that’s unique to you- it’s you and while it’s probably not clear to others, it keeps you together.”
Skoliogender: “A gender which is almost recognizable, but is just slightly off; a gender which approaches a recognizable gender, before sharply veering off.“
Spectragender: “A gender that is such a huge, complex, or confusing spectrum that you can’t begin to define it.“
Turbogender: “A gender that you have tried to figure out but is too confusing and tangled.“
Xumgender: “Never being satisfied with your gender due to constant self-doubt or identity issues, causing one to compulsively search and seek out something that fits as perfect as possible–to find "the gender” or “the one truth”–though one will never be found due to one’s neurotype, because words will never be able to describe it, and/or its own properties paradox itself. This frequent anxiety and doubt even causes this gender to feel imperfect to the individual.“
Staticgender: “A gender which can best be described as TV static; fuzzy and incomprehensible.”
Stargender: “An otherworldly gender that is beyond comprehension in earthly terms, as if it originated from beyond the earth. OR a gender that cannot be defined no matter how many other terms are coined OR simply the gender of a star.“
None of those use your exact words (ariesgender is the one that comes closer, while labels like seagender, staticgender, stargender and opscugender use metaphors and labels like quizgender and scorpigender mention other labels almost fitting), but I think a lot of those can fit your experience…?
If I’m wrong, please say so; I just want to be sure. And, if you want us to make a flag, could you tell us what do you have in mind for it? Do you want a specific layout, color or number of colors? Do you want a symbol? Please tell us!
