Love...Donât waste your time.
So look, time is precious and if you arenât ready to invest and get rewarded for your efforts then DO NOT FALL IN LOVE. DO NOT DATE. DO NOT WASTE ANYONE'S TIME. So many people like the idea of âcasual datingâ but there are very few people, in my opinion, who can handle this task successfully. I think that this is a very sensitive subject but guess who is going to tackle it. Little olâ me!
Dating without a purpose wastes everyoneâs time. A lot of people arenât honest with themselves so they place themselves in a category and end up catching feelings for someone who isnât even on the same path, possibly in a whole different book. So when I say, DONâT WASTE MY TIME. DONâT! When I jumped back into the dating world, I knew what I wanted and what I would tolerate. I knew that list was very very short. I tried to meet people in person but that was hard for me to do because I was always running around handling the Single Parent Life (SPL) so I took a leap and jumped online to do some internet dating. LAWD that was a whole experience.
So here I am, ready to love again, ready to commit, ready to just give my all. I didnât think that it would be easy nor did I think that it would come within days, months, or even years but I knew that when God sent the right man along that LOVE was a given. But I had to go through the ones who talked that game, who talked about âoh baby I can see a future with you.â âOh you are everything that I dreamed of and I canât see my life without you.â Let me explain something about me. After my divorce, I found my voice. I am not afraid to say what I want and what I need. So when I met someone, in some of those first conversations, I am asking about wanting more kids, marriage, and long term goals. Now, I am not asking these questions because I want them to happen immediately but I am asking because these are things that I needed to know in order to move forward. I know that some of the answers that I received I wasnât okay with so I decided to move on. No hard feelings and I was not wasting anybodyâs time because after all TIME IS PRECIOUS.
All in all, if you value yourself and your time. Value theirs as well. They didnât ask to have their emotions played with. So if someone is going to invest in you then be willing to invest in them. Be open to their questions, reap what you sow. So if you are sowing false hopes, false dreams and false future plans then the fake love and deceit is what you will pluck up. This IS not good for anyone. No one wins in this situation. So just be honest. Guard your feelings and time as if your life depended on it because it does. You cannot just pour out and not be replenished. So please.....if you are going to LOVE, then donât waste your time.
Be Blessed & Love Yourself,
ToriMichelle










