#queer discussions

Men are not inherently Evil

Everyone has the capacity for evil

Transgender Men are men

Transgender Women are women

Excluding Cisgender Men from your spaces requires Transgender Men to out themselves if they want to engage (Same for Women)

Anyone can be Non-Binary, there is no "look" or requirement

Non-binary masculine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces, many are just treated as men and predators

Non-binary feminine presenting people should be welcome in queer spaces without being seen as "Woman-Lite"

We will always "look bad" to them you BONEHEADS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I fear you guys just don’t get the life experience of being a trans man (who used to be perceived as a woman and still is by some people) who likes only women. I am never going to be a cisgender man and I don’t want to be. I am a man in most social scenarios but in romantic ones I am a butch. Living in our heteronormative society, being on T but with no surgeries, I feel more aligned with the butch romantic experience than cisgender men.

Women who are attracted to me still like female bodies. I haven’t had any surgeries and I don’t want them. I’m simply on T, which means I am seen as a man by society…with all my clothes on. I’m a man with a female body. Both of these things exist at the same time, it’s just part of my lived reality. This means I’m seen as a man to broader society, which is my goal, but I still have a female body which effects how I navigate the world. This includes in healthcare/reproductive rights and also sexually.

"Has butch been used by men? Are men allowed to use the term "butch"?" Motherfucker, I don't care. Butch originally just meant "masculine" and was used for straight dudes. Any queer usage by men or people of any other genders came later. I don't really care when exactly it started being used in a queer sense and I don't care where you draw your arbitrary lines in the sand as to who is allowed to be butch.

Prescriptivism is a blight upon this world rivaled only by all the other fucking brainrot that exclusionists and radfems come up with on a daily basis. Men use "butch" as a label. They identity with it. Trans men, gay men, queer men, bi men, demi-men, intersex men, nonbinary men. Women use "butch" as a label. They identify with it. Trans women, lesbian women, queer women, bi women, demi-women, intersex women, nonbinary women. Nonbinary people use "butch" as a label. They identify with it. Butch is a noun. It can be a whole identity, butch is love and butch is life and butch is our community. And butch is solidarity as well.

THERE IS A REPETITIVE ISSUE WITH AMAB NON-BINARY AND AMAB GENDER-NON-CONFORMING INDIVIDUALS BEING PUSHED OUT OF QUEER SPACES SIMPLY BECAUSE THEY DON'T PRESENT AS ANDROGYNOUS OR HYPERFEM, AND THE PEOPLE WHO CHOOSE TO EXCLUDE THEM ARE DOING IT ON THE BASIS OF INTERNALIZED TRANSANDROPHOBIA BECAUSE THEY STILL VIEW THE INDIVIDUAL AS A MAN, SIMPLY BECAUSE THE INDIVIDUAL IS UNABLE TO PASS AS ANDROGYNOUS/FEM OR CHOOSES NOT TO, WHILE THE PEOPLE WHO EXCLUDE THEM ARE SIMULTANEOUSLY ACCEPTING AFAB NON-BINARY & GNC INDIVIDUALS WHO AREN'T ANDROGYNOUS OR HYPERMASC WHICH IS A DISPLAY OF BLATANT SEXISM AGAINST THOSE WHO DID NOT CHOOSE TO BE BORN MALE AND ARE ACTIVELY TRYING TO ESCAPE THAT LABEL.

Runs away cutely

People who are aromantic allosexuals can experience other attraction besides sexual, they can experience attractions such as but limited to aesthetic, emotional, sensual and alterous.

And even then people who are allosexual and alloromantic are just as capable for using others for predatory, exploitative, and sexual gain, or wanting to just use someone for their body. Being aromantic doesn't make someone by default or inherently predatory or something like that.

I'm tired of queerness being pushed into a narrative of being inherently predatory. Gay and lesbian people are seen as predatory as they're assumed to want to have sex with anyone the same gender automatically. Bisexuals are assumed to want to have sex with every person automatically, even if they're in a relationship. Asexuals are considered to be holding something back from their partners and using them emotionally since they don't want to have sex. And then I just saw this shit with aromantic people just wanting someone for the body to exploit them if they don't experince romantic attraction.