#thinprivilege

I had a very good time at the 1920s garden party yesterday, but it brought up some feelings... I wore what I lovingly call "theater accurate" clothing. Good enough from a distance, though up close its all polyester nonsense. But I dressed for a daytime party, because no one in the 20s would wear glitter and fringe and feathers to a garden party. I spent most of the day with two women dressed in fringe-y dresses, one sparkly and so popular we lost count of the number of women we saw wearing it in various colorways. They got a lot of compliments on their outfits. I got just a few, and from older people who were also dressed accurately. And I know it wasn't because I was not sparkly. It's because I'm fat. And it's just so disheartening that the same bullshit fat women deal with every day, dressing better than our colleagues and still being seen as messy, happens at ridiculous vintage events, too. I saw it in the way the people I was with reacted to everyone else's clothes, too. Two people could be wearing the same dress, one fat with fabulous makeup and a gorgeous wig, the other thin, with her hair in a messy and half hearted attempt at a faux bob, and the thin one would be noticed first, and complimented. I felt like I did at my junior prom, when all the mom chaperones told me how beautiful my dress was and how nice I looked (and they meant it sincerely) but all I wanted was for a classmate to say the same thing.

I've dropped 55 pounds in the last 4 months. I didn't use flat tummy tea or slim fit or any bullshit. I did it through working out and caloric restriction. You can't target body fat, there is no magic pill. If you want to live to see your grandkids graduate high school, or even your kids, you have to be willing to be healthy. That doesn't mean you have to be skinny or built, but you can't be 250+ pounds. And if you're a female, you probably shouldn't even be above like 220. Unless you have a thyroid disorder or that one thing where fluid sits in your legs/arms, you don't have an excuse. Can't workout right? Eat better. Too depressed to workout? Your diet is probably shit. A healthy diet, exercise and good sleep is probably the cheapest and most effective ways to treat minor to regular depression/anxiety. I mean, I still have anxiety attacks but not nearly as frequently and they have to be triggered by some outside source. If you don't want to workout and be healthy, that's fine. That's a choice you made. But accept that it's not healthy and that it's not the societal norm to be obese. We all come in different shapes and sizes, but we don't come 300+ pounds. There are steps to getting there. And if you have a food addiction, then own it and seek help if you want to change. But again, if you don't, that's on you and you must accept and deal with the repercussions that you know you will face.