#tempertantrum

#Parenting101: Tantrums suck, but is my response to them making it more stressful? A classic example of: “Most of your stress comes from the way you respond, not the way life is. Adjust your attitude, and most of that extra stress is gone.” Shout out to this blue eyed cutie who gave me a hell of a time this weekend. Whose crazy blue eyes and attitude combined made me think he was an alien... 🤩 He’s at that age... “He’s designed to challenge you.” 😜 I recognized it wasn’t his behavior that I couldn’t handle, but my own reaction to it that was creating more stress. Of course, this isn’t ALWAYS true. But in this (and many cases), it was. It wasn’t him I had to control (#goodluck 😂), it was how I was reacting to it that was adding to my stress. Things I did to ground myself and reset: 1: Hide in closet 😂 🔑 2: For the rest of the day, put us in situations where I didn’t have to say, “No, stop doing/touching that,” to everything. (This is called situation support, where you help modify your situation to support you better.) 3: Breathe. 💨 When I felt my patience was thin and my blood pressure rise, stop. Walk to a different room. Take deep breaths until I physically felt my heart rate lower and the pressure in my chest go... Did it change his tantrums? No. But it helped me stay sane through the worst of it. 🤪 (Why do we even talk about the “terrible twos” when I’m continually told the 3’s are worse 💁🏼‍♀️) #timeforahaircut #terribletwos #situationsupport #stress #stressmanagement #stressless #parenting #parentingishard #tempertantrum #tempertantrums #momlife #singlemom #singlemomlife #singlemama #toddlerlife #blueeyes #blueeyedcutie #bossmom #expatmom #momboss #patience #responddontreact #selfhelp #mindset #mindsetmatters #mindsetreset #reset #resetbutton (at Breezes Restaurant) https://www.instagram.com/p/CVgF_hQv1Ya/?utm_medium=tumblr

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My Temper Tantrum.

I would like to be able to say that when I get really triggered I stay at my current age, but that would be a lie. That hurt four year old in me can show up still. We all have our wounds. We all regress somewhat, sometimes to the point of having a temper tantrum, or isolating, withdrawing, and pretending like if we ignore it, everything will go away. The more connected you are and aware you are of this younger you, the more you are likely to notice what’s happening and ground yourself enough to become more mature in your response to that trigger. #tempertantrum #tempertantrums #innerchild #innerchildhealing https://www.instagram.com/p/CPTWunpsAp9/?utm_medium=tumblr

Is it possible to throw a conscious temper tantrum? Perhaps. But most temper tantrums big or small make things worse, unless you are 2 or 3 years old, and then they are part of growth. Growing from the temper tantrums as an adult only happens if we vulnerably acknowledge exactly what we have done, including the impact on any others around us, and apologize. Committing to growth after this, and more importantly following through, is critical to making the temper tantrum a thing of the past. Perhaps temper tantrum’s just get smaller as time goes by. #temper #tempertantrum #notempertantrums #angermanagement https://www.instagram.com/p/CKPTENqM7QS/?igshid=1hwmtl7vhq1ew