#social needs

PART ONE - SOCIAL NEEDS

Robloxians are very social creatures and will actively seek out other robloxians, people, and other pets. It is important to have more than one robloxian when keeping them domestically; as in the wild, they are pack-based creatures. The image below is a good example of social activity for a robloxian.

The image above is NOT good for a robloxians' social health, as they are lonely and isolated. It is not recommended to isolate a robloxian unless they have a contagious sickness that could hurt the rest of their cagemates. (Please refer to the guide on robloxian sicknesses and conditions for more information on what to watch out for.)

Actually, this is a fundamental misunderstanding of how social attachment and attachment needs work. We are wired to build affection and attachment towards someone who provides what we need. That's a survival instinct. This person signals social safety, which is fundamental to our survival. Yes even now, not just in an evolutionary context. That's the entire point of building social bonds. You could as well tell someone not to be human.

Also, finding comfort in others OR yourself is a false binary. The two are tied together. Growing up, being provided with what you need by others gives you the safe base to explore and grow as a person, learn to regulate yourself on your own, build autonomy and self efficacy, which in turn enables you to feel safe and comforted in yourself.

That doesn't mean, ignore pitfalls. If you are with someone just for what they provide you with, even though you don't like then or don't feel a connection above that, it will probably not end well. If you take without giving back, it will probably not end well. If you depend on others because you don't trust yourself to care for yourself, it will probably not end well. If you pick one partner after the other only for what they provide to avoid learning to care for yourself in any capacity, that is not healthy either.

I don’t think people actually understand introversion vs extroversion. 

“Oh, I’m such an introvert! I’m super quiet until you get to know me, but then I never stop talking!” No, you’re probably an extrovert. Introversion and extroversion don’t determine how much you talk or how you socialize. They have to do with how draining or energizing you find social activities.

For example, I work with a consummate extrovert. He is never happy unless he has someone to talk to. He’s always getting in trouble for spending time with friends at work - and if none of his friends are working, he’ll make a new friend. He just loves being social and is unhappy spending time by himself. He finds time alone to be exhausting.

In contrast, I am thoroughly an introvert. I live with roommates and I love all of them dearly. They’re some of my favorite people, but if I can’t get an hour or two of time alone in a day, I’m mentally and emotionally exhausted. I love being around them and I want to be around them, but I find their company draining. Granted, they’re less draining than some other people, but that’s how you tell if you’re an introvert or an extrovert.

By Jean Balchin

“I began this article a few months ago while sitting in the public library in Wellsford, hunched over my laptop, feverishly finishing my master's thesis.”

“Opposite me was seated an old man in a faded denim shirt, falling asleep over his copy of The New Zealand Herald.”

“Small children were playing nearby, and a few mothers were catching up in the corner. Even as I sat there, despairing over the absolute shambles that was my thesis, I felt a sense of community, a real sense of warmth and commonality. Perhaps it was the free Wi-Fi, or the heat emanating from the radiator nearby, or the coffee I had smuggled in, but I felt at home.”