#soc blind

"you cant develop your blindspot." Whether you can or can't develop the ability to properly give a shit about your blindspot... life is going to force you to at least pretend you care about your blindspot and fake it til you make it. otherwise you literally die. People are forced by the world to either enact their blindspot to survive (causing dumb typologers to mistype ppl as their blindspot), or perish. This especially applies if your blindspot is soc or sp. sp-blinds have to pay the bills, clean their rooms and develop a stable routine that nurtures their bodies and souls, despite their apathy towards their financial status and their personal comforts. soc-blinds have to sell a social image of themselves to get a job and then further develop an image as someone reliable if they want to get better pay, despite their apathy towards their social status. there is something in all our lives which demands us to engage our blindspot and if we dont step up, we lose at life.

Launching this blog with a theory that's been in my mind for a while now, and it's the fact that old typology tumblr gave too much importance to syn and contra.

Some time ago i read a post (idr who wrote it but if i find it again i'll link it here) that explained something that made me go oh fuck, that's true actually. If we assume that sx blinds are the majority of people in the world, are we really so sure that basically half of sx blinds (sosps) are really so bad at living like people describe them to be? Like, since I've been in a new city for uni I've met lots of people. Most of them are soc doms because Italy is a soc dom country. Most soc doms I've met were sosps, and they were not the awkward anxious ridden fuckups of society that ppl think sosps are. Actually, most of them were definitely more adjusted into society than I am, and this takes me to a point I discussed with a friend: in our society soc and sp are the most valued instincts to have, so sp blinds and soc blinds are definitely gonna seem more "contraflow" than a healthy and adjusted sosp. Like, take a Fe dom 9 core sosp for example. Are we really gonna assume that this person is gonna have this extremely contra vibe to them? No. In fact, I'd say that an estp 7 core sosx is gonna vibe more contra to people than a 9 core sosp.

I don't think synflow and contraflow is inherently a bad theory, I think it needs some more expansion and thought because it fails to stand on its own, it's wonky:

Like, maybe it's a bit overemphasized. I don't wanna discard the theory completely, but it needs something more to work in my mind.

The main way to know is by noticing which blind spot the you have, and knowing if you rather attract or repel (syn or contra) also greatly help to tell them apart. 

Sp blindness implies someone who rather neglect or sacrifice its material gains and intimacy quite easily. They prefer challenging and varied connections, therefore it makes them the most shallow and scattered 7 out there. Shallow because Sp blindspot paired with 7 imply a disinterest for intimacy and so, a sort of avoidance of it also. They’re most likely Pe dom or have their Pe integrated on top of having their ego fixated on Pe.

Sx/so over So/sx will be more of a show off and so, more focused on competitivity. Therefore, they tend to use connections around and their engagement to spice things up and heighten the stake of any activity. This usually translates in challenging people to all sort of stuff, casual to serious business, so they tend to be the biggest risk-taker of the 7s. I’d say they’re the most sensitive to being challenged by people, as challenges will be their main source of stimulation, and soc plus w6 will make them sensitive to engage into those challenges due to search for appartenance this combo creates. They tend to have a cp w6 usually because of this, and to be confounded for 7w8. By comparison, So/sx 7′s thrill is to connect and get engaged in social activities of all sort. So/sx 7 will use challenging activities to bond and improve their engagement with whatever they’ve chosen to. It will be less axed toward competition and more so on challenges that force people to cooperate, since So/sx being synflow pushes towards unity compared to contra in Sx/so, which highlights individual survival, as showcased above. This makes So/sx 7s the typical hyperactive social butterfly 7s. 

Soc blindness on the other hand will imply someone who will sacrifice or neglect engagements and social needs. They’ll prefer intimate but challenging connections, which makes them the most typical ride or die 7s. Therefore, they are much more prone to runner-chaser dynamic, which isn't remotely better than being shallow. It’s exciting, but not lasting. They’re not less likely Pe dom, but they are more prone to have some introverted development or ego fixation on introverted function, more likely Pi if they are Pe dom. It is more likely for a 7 soc blind to have an introverted dominant function, compared to the sp blind ones, but they are likely fixated on their Pe as well.

Sx/sp over Sp/sx will be more of a ‘’chaser’’ for opportunities, and so more typically showcasing the assertion of 7s than the Sp/sx stacking. Therefore, they’re the kind to track down what could stimulate them and enjoy the play around getting what they want. They play it safer than Sx/so, as Sp makes them more aware of their resources (material or energy), but they also willingly spare those resources to then use them at the best opportune time in order to own up to any challenge they were seeking for. They are the most thrill seeker of 7s. By comparison, Sp/sx is more the runner, purposefully daring people to some challenges and then vanishing once it is done, creating a sense of wanting more and of desire in their targets. They give just enough to hook people up, but then retreat in Sp, in their safe space, all while creating a storm around to keep them entertained and stimulated. They are non-conventional 7s, as their assertion will play more in spontaneously creating limits out of their ass nowhere, which purposefully instigate tensions and often create all sort of conflict justifying their avoidance (aka, running away). I’d simply call them the most typical avoidant 7s. The syn and contra distinction here would be that an Sx/sp 7 is more engaging as it prefers to pursue what it is attracted to, while the Sp/sx 7 tend to be dismissive and hard to establish anything with. Even tho Sx/sp 7 doesn't guarantee much more commitment on the long run, due to being 7 core and having soc as a blind spot, they are still more open to try to establish some kind of bond, while Sp/sx finds its thrill by maintaining anyone on verge, preventing more often than not to establish anything at all.

What the Sx/so and Sx/sp stacking in 7 core have in common is how they’ll both seek to challenge themselves one way or another. So, they’ll be the most assertive 7s. The biggest distinction is how Sx/sp is more picky and will invest their energy for a longer period of time, but won’t be aware of the engagement it can implicate and will likely disengage themselves the moment the challenge isn’t relevant anymore. While Sx/so is more willing to any kind of challenge and more willing to engage themselves in all sort of opportunities, but will invest less of their energy as it is shared in the ‘’many’’ and therefore depleted compared to their soc blind counter-part.

I would recommend to get further information to get a broader idea of Sp blindness vs Soc blindness, and even syn vs contra flow, so you can get enough information to make a more thoughtful judgement on whether you’re one of those. That’s what I had to share on that matter. There could be more nuances to be added, but I need more specific question to pin point what details you, or anyone, would like to know about.

Chances are, if your an highly sensitive introvert with a high IQ like me, you’ve always felt out of place. Your family thinks there’s something wrong with you, the airhead extroverts at school only care about partying and doing drugs, and you feel like you can’t be yourself because no one understands you.

Well, I’m here to tell you that I FEEL YOUR PAIN!!! Here’s a list of problems I’ve experienced as someone with a high IQ in a sea of shallow extroverts, hopefully it will make your feel less alone and realize you don’t have to change yourself to fit in. 

1. Everyone in your class is complaining about staying inside during quarantine, but your happy because that means less social interaction. (Your life wasn’t that different before ‘Rona hit anyways)

2. Your friends try to get you to go out, but every time you go with them they want to do some crazy extrovert jazz and you feel left out and regret your whole life (Netflix would never hurt me like this.)

3. You prefer books and fandoms over people most of the time. 

4. Even so, there’s still a sensitive part of you that dreams about finding a fellow antisocial outcast to spend your life with so you didn’t have to be misunderstood.. Er, but no hugging pls.

5. Your extremely funny, but everyone is too stupid to understand your jokes. It’s ok though, you laugh at them yourself and that’s enough!

6. Finally, last but not least... You know your perfect the way you are.  

 Share if you relate, my fellow oddballs and outcasts.

I must admit mental health issues can blurr the lines to the point where you cannot really be sure until you get to a healthier place. Tho, IVs are all about primary concerns and reaction, so you should even feel their urge more when in a difficult place.

Therefore, you need to look for what you are instinctively seeking, even if you fail at it. Your instincts are 1. What you care about 2. What you do or try to accomplish even if it fails or the result is mediocre. It's not about doing it well, it's about prioritizing certain needs.

Sp blinds mean that whatever your state, your basic resources are not your priority. Again, it's not about succeeding to do it or not, but being preoccupied by the IV. Sp blinds thus are simply not concerned with preserving or maintaining themselves, what they try to find is to engage and to energize themselves one way or another, even if they fail because of their issues. So, like with depression, it would not just mean the person isn't able to do the basic stuff, that's what depression does to a certain degree, it's about caring about preservation despite failing at it that indicates the presence of Sp in the stack, and an absence of concerns to indicate potential sp blindness. It also means that even when their mental health is doing pretty well, Sp blind still won't care that much about preserving those resources.

For Soc blinds it will mean they do not think of engaging or catering to their engagements, they'll seek to preserve their resources (energy, time, money, etc.) and create/find a form of high stimulation, even if they fail. By engagement, I don't mean socializing btw, it refers to one's commitments to their relationships, like simply being present or doing certain implicit stuff to care for them. So, they tend to drop those commitments, but not bother about it. In the case of social anxiety, I'd seek for what bothers you the most about it, in the sense how it impairs you and what bothers you about this impairment. Some folks have social anxiety but it impairs their capacity to Soc, and this is what really bothers them.

So, if you are concerned about preserving yourself despite failing, you are not sp blind, and if you care about engaging or catering to your commitments despite failling, you're not soc blind.

In the end, it is about what you care about and what motivates you despite failing at it. I don't have a miracle way to help you determine your IVs, it is to find out which you seek, or the one you feel you lack. It's not so much about behaviors but about motivations.