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Meet your needs !

When we don’t meet our own needs , this is when we begin to lash out at others , and seek to control them , make them responsible for what we want and act from Manipulation , in the forum of lying , playing the victim , false promises, giving compliments we do not mean etc .

I have recently awakened to meeting my needs in a whole new way . It’s another thing to understand that you need to meet your needs and to make an attempt to meet them or ask others to meet them and to realize we are actually starving for these needs to be met .

The reality is , most of us are in a state of constant starvation and powerlessness when it comes to our needs being met.

So I invite you to make a list of your needs , and to save this list somewhere you will have the most easy access to.

What do you do with the list after making it ? Constantly ask yourself the question what do I need right now - and or go consult your list and select one thing off the list . When your done meeting that need you can always reconsult the list and I encourage you consult it and meet your needs as much as possible until it becomes second nature to you to do so.

We are not an island onto ourselves . We are interconnected and interdependent . Yes we create our own reality and through self love you can very well meet many needs for yourself . However there are many needs that will feel much better when met by someone else and in fact these needs are ones that will not be satisfied through ourselves meeting them examples :

♾Spending time with loved ones

♾ having people join you on an adventure

♾seeking guidance from outside yourself

♾wanting validation from outside yourself

♾ being held and other forms of physical touch therapy

♾ having others support you with people who have hurt you

♾being told by others what is excellent about you or what you are good at that they maybe have a harder time with

♾playing games

♾ dancing with someone or singing with someone

♾ being silly with someone

♾ being directly told your significant and in what way by your loved ones

♾ having a Authentic conversation

♾ asking someone to physically take care of you when both parties are in alignment

♾ caring for other people physically or otherwise (the need to be needed)

♾ having people acknowledge my success

♾ having them

Acknowledge when I’m pain or going through stressful times and having them see me in that pain .

We need to directly ask people for these needs to be met . We need to consistently ask them to meet these needs communication that these are your needs once or a couple of times is not enough we need to be actively asking people to meet our needs and also be open to them saying no , or to intuitively feel into who is aligned with it and proactively finding someone else to meet them for you when another isn’t in alignment with it .

Many of the above needs are

Also ones we can meet for ourselves but it becomes an entirely different desire to have someone meet them for you or with you .

Sometimes needs we meet ourselves can be such a simple action towards loving ourselves .

The thing is everyone is committed towards something . So take an outside perspective of the life you are living and really consciously acknowledge what you are already committed to ; ask yourself why you are committed to that thing ?

Is the more direct way to meet the needs of these aspects of you already committed to something else ? How can you go about shifting your commitment to encompass directly going in the direction of all your needs being met , in the most intelligent manner.