#self contious

Society has supported the development of many norms that have been proven to be very destructive in the past.

Music that degrades woman has caused a lot of men to lose respect for their counterpart, while women have fallen victim to being far less comfortable and proud of themselves as individuals.

Media and pop culture have developed drugs to be a source of boast, from the money you attain from selling them, to the allure of living a lifestyle jumping from one “high” to the next.

We disrespect people of other sexualities because we don’t understand them and “that’s gay” is actually used as a bad term in certain groups of people.

These are all terrible developments in our culture, but one that is constantly overlooked is a man’s ability to feel emotions, be emotional and receive copious amounts of shit for it.

Since a very young age, I have been a emotional guy. I feel things. And for a very long time, I did not let those around me chastising me for it affect who I was as a person. Emotion is a beautiful thing, and simply because I am a man does not mean I shouldn’t allow myself to feel as my heart knows I should at any given moment.

 A lot of men fight the urge to cry or actually discuss their true feelings, and most simply get incredibly angry and violent. If a man hits on another mans girlfriend, the current boyfriend will “solve” the issue by threatening or causing physical harm. Best case, he will simply insult the other man on how he dresses or the money he may not have. Very few men however, will make sure the man understands that they are a couple, then will sit his girlfriend down and be completely honest with her.

Few men use the phrases: “I am scared to lose you” “when you say these things, it really hurts” “that guy is really making me uncomfortable. I wish I could trust him, I just don’t yet.” and this is because it’s not the socially acceptable way to live as a man in our culture.

Women like men who treat them like shit. I have no idea why, and I do not care to. Men feel weak by solving arguments with their words rather than their hands, and it is terribly sad to me.

I see Tumblr posts every single day that say things like “here’s to the girls who have had their heart broken by a man they never dated” and “girls are not toys” but I rarely to never see posts from men, about men who have loved a woman and are willing to be emotional about it. It is simply not acceptable or as common as it should be, for men to allow emotion to play the role it is supposed to In all our lives and show these feelings on the surface.