#seb spawns

We’re gonna say it.

‘I forgot my name again

I think that’s something worth remembering

Spiders in your favourite shoes

Just leave them be cause they’re more scared of you’

devil town v.2

[before I continue I am talking about parents trying to accept their kid, not those who are actually transphobic]

I know some people tend to think that if a parent doesn’t switch over pronouns and gender of their trans kid instantly they are a bad parents and inherently transphobic.

But why ? Some kids need to understand that when a parent struggles to change pronouns (or perhaps say they need time before they can) that parent is needing time to process what is happening.

They have known you as x all your life, and now you are asking them to accept you as y, as their trans child. That is a big change, regardless of however long you’ve been looking into it - they weren’t there all those nights you were crying because of your body, because ‘why is this happening to me.’ Or perhaps those years you spent researching what it was, why you were feeling these... things. They weren’t there for the process you had of losing what you were before and accepting ‘this makes me happier’.

Trans people need to give their parents (those who are trying to understand why) a moment to catch up on what’s happening.

I came out to my mother about three years ago. I realised I was trans aprox five years ago- maybe borderline six years now. I am seeing a gender therapist to talk these things over (with both my mother and just myself) on Friday. I am going to be able to explain to her why this isn’t going away, and why this is affecting me. I can prove to her that I won’t change my mind.

Being trans is hard, but you must also realise that your parents need time to adapt to what’s happening. Please don’t immediately attack your parents if you can see they are trying to come to terms.

She followed that immediately with how bad my Dysphoria was.