I am not happy with one of my roommates and I want to bring it up with her. I would like to at least attempt to talk to her about it because I really don’t want to have to tell her to move out, and if she is willing to work with me and find a way to make this situation work better, then I’ll consider living with her again, but she has not been home very much recently.
I want to be friends with her, I used to be better friends with her, but she doesn’t speak to me very much and when she does, it feels like a crapshoot of whether this will be a normal, nice interaction, or whether she’ll do something rude. I feel bad bringing it up out of nowhere because any and all conflict sends her into an anxiety-insomnia-depression spiral but she hasn’t given me any indication of how I should talk to her! And if I just wait for the next time she does something upsetting, I’ll have no way of knowing if she wants to try to make this situation better or if I should suggest that we not live together anymore.
I won’t feel any better about this until I talk to her about it, and I can’t because she’s almost never here, so I’m just stuck! And I can feel it getting pent up under my skin the longer I don’t say anything to her, which is exactly what I don’t want, because that’s what she does and it ends with her getting super aggressive and hostile and scary.
I need stability in my living situation.
